Went on a first date with a girl I met recently. We had coffee, great conversation, good energy—she did most of the talking, smiled a lot, and seemed comfortable the whole time. She had to end the date after 90 minutes to dog-sit, which she mentioned earlier, so it felt legit. I walked her to the subway, we hugged, and I said, “Let me know when you get home,” but she never did. It’s only been a day, so I’m wondering—does this silence mean she’s not interested, or could she just be waiting for me to text first?
Great first date, but she didn’t text after—should I take that as low interest?
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Text her and find out
Not a great sign she didn’t text you when she got home. But just text her and find out. If she doesn’t respond, then move on.
I would send her a text, invite her out again. That will answer your question and you won’t have to guess. Or just ask her!
I just had another one like this.
Never, ever put the burden of communication in her hands.
As I girl, I told u, if we go on a date and I don’t text u when I arrive home, I just faked interested and I don’t want to move forward, sorry 🙁
Don’t be afraid to double text. People get busy and while she didn’t completely fall in love with you on the first date, she might like you enough to go on a second.
Follow up the next day and just say you wanted to check if she got home safe, ask how the puppy is doing, and asks if she wants to meet up again to do x, y, or z based in what y’all talked about.
Life is too short to be waiting for replies. Send another text and be ready to move on with your life. Worst case she just says no. And if she still doesn’t reply you know she isn’t interested. Best case you go on a second date. Zero downsides for you!
She didn’t text after so ya it’s over. She wasn’t feeling the vibe
So you ask her to text you when she gets home, ergo is safe. She doesnt and you wait a whole day to do something? Which is ask on reddit what to do? She might be wondering how long it takes for you to become alarmed a girl didnt make it home/is safe. Which is not yet, it seems. Youre only worried about whether you can get a second date.
For future reference, you should text the next morning with a greeting and thanks for a good time. Disregard other people’s manners if you want something you have to move-can’t wait for others.
Text her. But, don’t mention that she was supposed to text you.
Dude ignore the dweebs with the emotional maturity of kindergarteners. Shoot her a text! Worst case, she ignores that too. Best case, she’s like me and has ADHD and a lot on her plate. I forget to text or don’t see texts/emails consistently. Maybe something came up. Maybe the dog shat all over the house. Ya never know til you try!
Did you text her the next day saying how you feel? Like you’d like to see her again?
Because right now she’s possibly telling her friends you didn’t seem interested.
Just tell them you’re interested if you are. Then riu know.
Just ask if she made it home okay, had a nice time, and you’d like to go out again. If she doesn’t give you a pretty immediate yes then just move on. Major green flag if she suggests a day.
Reddit is the last place I’d go for dating advice. Find some lady friends you can trust but really take everyone’s advice with a grain of salt. The most effective thing you can do when crowdsourcing advice is to pay close attention to how you feel or think in response to the advice. You’re the one who was there at the date after all, you may be hiding real gut feelings from yourself or you may be spiraling. Learn to read the signs.
Something could have happened on her way home, send a SIMPLE text.
She’s either not interested or just waiting to text you
If she’s interested she’ll text you, don’t reach out
So…you haven’t texted her either? The ‘home safe’ text is easy to forget or could be seen as just an expression. It’s not the follow up text. She’s probably waiting for you to text her as follow up
I remember one time a friend that I don’t have that close relationship with said, send me a text when your flight lands. I don’t know it just didn’t sit right with me, I didn’t text. I don’t understand why he said that..
She used you for free dinner.
My take is that she came with a built in excuse and then followed through with that excuse. She’s not into you. That said, I’d text her and see what happens.
never try to read minds. just text and see.
i said never.
Maybe she never made it home…..
Just text and if you don’t hear back, so be it.
I had an AMAZING first date with my (now) husband.
I did the “waiting 3 days” thing. Heard nothing! So I emailed (yes this was before texting, lol) and he said he thought it was polite to wait for the girl to contact first to show interest 😂
Maybe she thinks the same? Only one way to find out. Text her. If she doesn’t text back then at least you know.
Text on the 3rd day if she doesn’t by then (“hey how ya doin’! Had fun the other night”)
And if she doesn’t respond, keep her number saved in case she messages after a week or so but if it’s been five ish days with nothing, regardless of if she likes you or not it isn’t a good sign (shows inconsistency in her, that she’s forgetful or doesn’t prioritize etc)
Don’t text her for 3 days after first date!!!
Might be playing hard to get. Text her a funny meme. How you doing from friends or something like that to check for pulse