Spent most of my adult life single. Very comfortable being alone. Refuse to let in anyone who doesn’t add to my already great life. I enjoy so much about being single.
Now, I’m On the cusp of a new relationship. He’s great in the ways that are important to me, but the common challenges that come with relationships have begun to creep up. So tell me ladies, what’s so great about being in a relationship?
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Having someone to experience life with (including the mundane stuff and the shitty stuff), to support each other, and to share parts of myself that I don’t with anyone else (no I don’t just mean sexually haha). I know some people say their partner is their best friend and it can sometimes sound cheesy as hell… but, it’s true for me. Our relationship is founded on that friendship. My fiancé feels like home in person form.
I’m just here for an answer also lol
I get to have a sleepover every night with my bestie forever. We make each other laugh & life is more fun & easier together.
It’s only great when you find someone you enjoy doing life with.
If you feel someone doesn’t add any value to your life or you can’t see a future with them then it’s probably because you don’t want to be with them long term. Could be incompatible or you’re simply not into them or perhaps not ready for commitment.
I like him. He’s fun to talk to and I still want him to touch my butt after being together a hundred years. That’s pretty much it.
That sounds like toxic individuality
it is ONLY great if you have a phenomenal partner. but when you get things right (pick the right person & also put work into building a good relationship), you have a rock solid support system, a safe place to return to every night, a #1 fan, and you get to hang out w the coolest person ever like all the time. normal/boring stuff gets easier. errands become fun. it’s such a joy to do things for someone amazing. i didnt have a good childhood so i didn’t experience a healthy family dynamic until i got into a relationship, but it really makes all facets of life so much easier. and it pushes you to be the best version of yourself – the kindest, most generous, most supportive, most ambitious you.
Why ask others to explain themselves? If you don’t like it and don’t like the challenges a relationship can bring, just stay single.
Single for my whole life and thinking about staying that way.
I think a relationship would be nice because you would have someone to enjoy life in a different way than doing it alone.
However, the way I want to live my life, there is no one for me. Not in a depressing sad way. I’m fine being alone. I just want to live a life of freedom of being me.
Having a person that feels like home. We could move house, go on vacation, be apart – getting back together feels like coming home.
Practically it’s also easier to have another person to split chores with, manage the household, share costs. We have a daughter, I would struggle immensely raising her on my own.
We make each other laugh. I could taskmaster alone but it’s just not the same.
>the common challenges that come with relationships have begun to creep up
It seems like your question is pretty strongly informed by what you believe to be common (read: inevitable) challenges that come with relationships. What are they specifically?
because being touch-starved is a thing that causes mental illness eventually
also good seggs is good
you also form a safety net together as the best reason, you support each other, the lows of life aren’t low anymore and the highs are higher
My husband is my best friend. He supports me financially, emotionally and mentally. He makes me laugh daily. He’s an excellent hands on father to our kids. He’s taken on full financial responsibility so I could be a SAHM for 12 years now. He’s my biggest cheerleader and supporter in life. He tells me how beautiful and sexy I am daily. He gives me orgasms several times a week. What’s not great about a healthy and happy relationship??
What are those common challenges?
Was single my whole life up to age 34. I was very happy to be single. Some great things about my relationship from just the last week:
Common challenges? That’s vague. Any examples?
Having a good relationship again has been so good for my mental health, honestly.
I love having a trusted confidante and best friend again. The sex is great. I have the motivation to try new things and to explore activities that I might not have thought of alone. I’m eager to see him after work.
Personally I also notice I take better care of myself. I am tidier, I cook better meals, I put more effort into my appearance, I can feel myself have a little “bounce” in my step. I know some of the novelty will wear off over the years, but I also know I personally didn’t enjoy being single even half this much, and I don’t really miss it.
In comparison, the last stretch of my previous relationship was hell on my mental health, to the point being single was in some ways a relief.
I look at it this way: a bad relationship is worse than being alone, being single is neutral, and being in a good relationship is an improvement on my life.
Some people just have that internal drive for romantic connection and/or companionship, and some people don’t. I love romance. Like I just love it. My life is more complete with a good partner (but being single is better than being with a POS). Just make sure that your situation is “worth it” to you in spite of the challenges.
There’s benefits and drawbacks to being in a relationship just like there’s benefits and drawbacks to being single.
For me, I really value both the pragmatic benefits of having a partner (second income, unquestioned emergency contact, person to cook dinner when I can’t even, etc.) and the emotional benefits (company, unlimited hugs on demand, person to watch TV with, emotional support, person who laughs at all my dumb jokes, etc.) and I don’t really value the benefits of being single very much (I don’t mind having someone else in my space most of the time if I’m comfortable with them; I’m OK with making most of my major life decisions collaboratively).
It’s possible that for you, the math works out differently no matter who your partner is. Or maybe you just need more time to adjust to the tradeoffs that come with a relationship.
Idk I’m 22 and everyone tells me I’m too young for a relationship stay single until my late 20s
Being single gives so much independence, but it is so nice to have your partner support you emotionally when you have heavy life stuff hit, or be your cheerleader with your goals.
It’s like life with a safety net that’s also at other times the snuggliest duvet/comforter, trampoline, or magic carpet.
My partner feels like home in a way that no place ever has. No matter how bad everything else might get I know that once I am in his arms I will feel safe and everything will be okay if we deal with it together. Good days and bad, he’s the one I want by my side.
Growing old together is amazing. There are only a handful of people from my life that know me before also knowing him and so we have so many shared experiences and there’s something so beautiful about experiencing so many different phases of my life with is truly magical. Watching each other grow. I love that we encourage each other and not only love each other but genuinely like each other. It’s something neither of us experienced as children.
The cuddles, the compliments, when he laughs at my jokes that no one else gets. Exploring my body with one person.
Having a child with him, watching his pride as a father and him thanking me for that gift whenever he can, watching our kid do things that we know comes from on of us.
All the fights make me grow and the relationship has made me such a better person.