i (17f) was sexually assaulted when i was 5 by my uncle which led me to become hyper sexual around age 11. and my brother started humping me during this time and he was 10 years old. i did not understand how wrong it was so i let it go on. after a certain point it stopped and it was kind of like a unspoken agreement to never bring it up. now he (16m) has been pinning me down and tickling me clearly pressing his parts against me and trying to dry hump me. i try to get him to stop but he’s much stronger then me. do i just refuse to let him pin me? how else should i go about this ?
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A you get an adult you trust involved? You need to learn to set a boundary and if this is not respected, you need to be safe and feel protected.
Tell a trusted adult immediately
Do not let him go on with it dude
Have your parents witnessed this without stopping him? If so, don’t go to them for help, bc they clearly aren’t going to help you bc they fear him blowing up. Or for whatever reason, which is WRONG! They (or your mom) should have him removed from the household immediately if they saw this happening even once! If they/your mom are too afraid to stop him from physically and sexually assaulting you, you need to go to another trusted adult who’s also preferably a mandatory reporter. That includes teachers or anyone who works at a school, even the janitor. Nurses, doctors, therapists, basically anyone in Healthcare. Including planned parenthood or similar. Social workers. Anyone who works at the local mental heath center. Anyone who works at a DV shelter, homeless shelter, or staff at any kind of community outreach type of place. Police, fire dept, EMTs. I’m pretty sure even church clergy. Are all mandatory reporters. Daycare/childcare providers too.
Do u have any trusted adults you can go to for help? Whether they are a mandatory reporter or not? If your parents don’t remove him from the household. He’s going to end up forcing himself on you all the way! If you do try to tell your parents first and they don’t have him sent to foundation 2 or some other youth crisis center asap, then go to a mandatory reporter next. Your school counselor. A therapist. The school nurse. All good options.
Shit, I’ll even call your local PD to report this if you’d like?
Oh what the fuck. I’m sorry you went through that, and now your brother..
Please get your mom involved. And…if possible carry pepper spray, (you can look up a diy recipe online if you can’t buy one) something like that (hidden and a secret), with you at all times in case he decides to try to take things farther or gets aggressive. I’m so sorry.
Another thing, maybe record yourself now, stating the things he’s done and your history (what you’ve said in this post) in a video in case something does happen and becomes involved with cops or such
I’m really so sorry, I’m 17 and had a similar experience with an uncle as well.
I love you stranger, stay safe <3
whenever you see him get close to you say very loudly “YOU DO NOT HAVE MY CONSENT TO TOUCH ME!” if he’s a halfway decent human he will pause mid step. this is your chance to get your phone out and start recording.
matter of fact, put cameras up. record him touching you without your consent & show your parents.
it starts with tickling and who knows where he is willing to escalate things to. please talk to your parents about it this before he gets comfortable trying anything else.
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Record him or tell him that u recorded him (record while talking to him ) and say that if he won’t stop u will go to the police because u had enough. Make sure your parents are home in case he goes psycho. But I would still tell your mom. U need protection and this is not right. I am sorry this is happening to you.
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If he does it in a house with people inside then the next time he does this loudly say something like “ew stop dry humping me”
Hopefully someone will hear and you won’t have to tell anyone and he will deal with the consequences instantly
Get a rape alarm and then move out as fast as you can. Tell your parents, this is not normal adult behavior
What you gotta do is grab the nearest chair and aim for his head since there’s clearly nothing but air up there.
It’s a cycle. Your uncle probably molested your brother too and someone molested your uncle. Tell your brother you will call the police if he does it again, and mean it. Tell your parents.
God I hate families like this. My brother was molested by our male babysitter. My parents only fired him. When we were teens, I found some disturbing things my brother watched on our PC and even a video I guess he had downloaded of little girls. I cried and deleted the sites and tried to block them. The next day, new ones were there. I told my parents, but they brushed it off.
Years later, my brother was caught in an online sting operation and is now sitting in prison for possession of csam. My parents blamed his wife because she wasn’t having sex with him.
My point is, this needs to be stopped. Now. Your brother sounds like he needs psychological help or he will become a sexual predator. Do you have anyone you can talk to about it, like a friend’s mom or somebody that would let you stay with them? You need to get out of that house.