Do you only sleep over a man’s house if he asks? What is proper sleep over etiquette?
I always thought if he doesn’t ask you he doesn’t want you to but I don’t think that’s always true. I haven’t dated a lot so I am kinda lost.
How often do you sleep over? What is the time frame of dating do you start sleeping over multiple days a week?
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I would never sleepover at anyone’s house without explicitly being asked.
I feel like usually it’s not a conversation just a vibe if youre already over there but there’s nothing wrong with asking hey can I sleep over after we hang out or after this date etc
I would never sleepover at someone’s house unless invited to. I didn’t start sleeping over regularly until almost a year of dating.
If asked, I might consider it. But not without being explicitly asked.
The very effing worst is when another person can’t take the hint to leave.
I’m so surprised by this thread! I haven’t been in this position since my divorce yet, but I always assumed that if you have sex with someone the default expectation is that you/they will spend the night. Is that what we’re talking about here? After sex? You guys are having sex and then leaving?
One should never assume they can sleep over at someone’s house unless the host asks them to stay over. If you want to stay over, then just ask if they would like you to.
I never stay the night unless we’re intoxicated or I know he respects me and wants me there which would be him pretty much begging me NOT to leave. I don’t care if it’s 3am, I want to wake up in my bed when possible. When a man wants you there he won’t let you leave easily.
Unless asked. Never assume that creates problems. If they didn’t ask you too then leave. I knew a very well womanizer that was my friend, they ALWAYS complained how women would beg they stay over or ask and he explained he felt so gross and nasty when they ask it was very pathetic of the woman he said. I remember asking him why he feels that way he said because he never asked them all he wanted was sex but wants to leave so he can enjoy his space.
I’ve slept over dude’s places even when it was still casual, so sometimes immediately upon meeting them and the sleepover was either directly said or implied.
If it isn’t mentioned directly or indirectly then I’d assume I’m not welcomed overnight, but I have never experienced that personally.
With my husband, we met casually, I slept over his house one night bc I was drunk (did not hook up). He wanted to see me again the next day, so I was sleeping over almost everyday since lol 🤣😅
If it is a hookup/ONS and I know its going to be, I do no spend the night.
I do casual (but consistent) relationships and will spend the night, but only when asked or told they would like me too. Although if we’ve seen each other for a while, it became a given that I would spend the night, he stopped asking and would just get ready for bed (refilling my water and putting it beside the bed, asking if I wanted a shirt to sleep in) with a guy I saw for 7 months. That ended.
Current guy, only been out 5 times and slept over three times. He asked the first time, idk why I asked if he wanted me to and he said he would really like it. Second time it was kind of a given (Friday night, 2 am at that point and he just said “lets go to bed”), and third time he did ask but it was a Tuesday night and when I say yes he said “oh yay” lol. Going to see him tomorrow night and feel like its a given at this point that I will spend the night.
Are you being intimate with this person? I think that makes a huge difference. It would give me the ick if a guy expected me to pick up and leave, especially if it was super late.
When I was single I would never sleep over someone’s house without being invited. I would never assume that I was going to sleepover neither! If I wasn’t invited and felt comfortable I always went home.
I just talk to the person and ask. Last time we just had a casual chat and settled on the answer together.
This is fascinating. I always thought the implication was you’d stay the night. I’ve left when I’ve felt the vibe was getting weird if I didn’t know them that well but otherwise I’ve just stayed the night.
It’s all vibes… if we’ve been drinking I’m absolutely staying as to be safer than getting home alone
If we have sex and fall asleep cuddling after, I’m staying
If it’s just dinner, watch a movie.. I’ll leave after unless asked to stay
Very much depends on the situation and person
This thread is surprising. I have always assumed that I’m sleeping over after a certain point in the relationship. Sex or not. If a man expected me to leave the relationship would be short lived.
If it’s late and we are in bed, I assume I am staying unless directed otherwise. I will only do this on the weekends or after getting back from somewhere late.