Every time I see a post about cheating, there’s some righteous commenter claiming, “I don’t understand people who cheat. Why don’t you just tell the person you’re no longer interested and break up with them?”
Because it’s easier to just cheat. It’s easier to avoid the tough conversations, commit the affair and lie about it.
Having a partner is wildly convenient for some things. You need a ride? Partner. You want a sounding board? Partner. You need help with a task? Partner. +1 to events? Partner. Don’t feel like cooking? Maybe your partner will or they’ll pick up food for you. Sex? Partner. Movie night at home? Partner. Vacation? Partner. Why would someone give that up just to hook up with someone?
Then if you’re looking at marriage, duh you’re not going to implode your entire marriage to have a casual hookup, or even a full blown affair. Why ruin what you can simply betray in secret? Why upset your kids with a divorce when you can just lie and have sex with someone real quick and return home like nothing happened?
I’m not a cheater. It’s wrong and one of the most hurtful things you can do to someone. But to claim, “I dOn’T unDerStaNd!!” is just naive and stupid to me. What do you MEAN you don’t understand? There are plenty of reasons to be a shitty person and in this instance it’s so the cheater can have their cake and eat it too. It’s pretty fucking easy to understand.
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just ask your partner if they are okay about having an open relationship. Cheating is lying and only insecure ppl lie
I don’t think anyone claimed that it’s harder than breaking up, or that people don’t want to give up the comfortable lives they’re having. It doesn’t make it any less shitty though. Being a terrible person is pretty easy overall.
With how much this happens, I think this is very popular. Saying it out loud? Here is your upvote.