As someone who grew up ugly and bullied , the minute I got “pretty” people have treated me so much better . People tend to care and do more for me than before . When I was ugly I would have to apologise for inconveniencing people even if it meant them bumping into me and them blaming me for that . Now people apologise to me for things that aren’t even needed . I have become such less of an inconvenience to people than before and it’s much better . Sure being “pretty” has its bad sides but proceeding through life is much easier .
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I had the opposite issue–there were aspects of me as a teenager that were hallmarks of being conventionally attractive, and as I got older they disappeared and people started treating me differently because of it. I’m not upset about the fact that I don’t weigh 90 pounds anymore, I’m angry at how many times people told me I should be a model and how I was told I should pay more attention to my looks so I could be “pretty” because of it.
People do that?
people complain about their frame of reference. you have experienced being both and so have a bigger frame of reference. punching down on people who have limited experience is narrow minded.
Completely agree. I had some rough looking early years and got bullied too. Thankfully grew out of my awkwardness. I get told on a regular basis I’m beautiful- a lot of times by random people in stores. It’s not just men being creepy. A lot of times it’s women of all ages paying me a compliment. Having good looks can have its downsides (I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve had men freaked me out with creepy/unwanted attention for example). But there’s definitely way more deferential treatment for attractive people. I’ve seen it myself between how I’m treated and how some of my friends get treated which sucks. People will make comments on their weight, be less accommodating, will act rude, or just flat out ignore them. And finding romantic partners or dates is tough/nearly impossible for them too. I don’t ever get treated like that and i frequently witness people kissing up to me/showing me special attention and I’m sure my looks are the cause of that. So yeah, it sounds obnoxious to people when attractive people whine about the ‘struggles’ of being attractive. lol