Basically just what the title says. I think having strict rules for children, especially with severe consequences, is more about controlling behavior than worry for the child’s wellbeing. This behavior is more detrimental to the child than whatever the parent is trying protect them from or teach them. Example, rules that are not age appropriate. If you are in high school and have a bedtime, your parents are controlling. If you have to ask permission to move freely around your house or for food, your parent are controlling. If you cannot socialize with your friends outside of school, good luck to ya.
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I don’t know that this is an unpopular opinion. Most people would see this as controlling. On the flip side there are things that ARE for safety that are seen as controlling. Things like if you’re going somewhere let me know where and who with or don’t have friends over unless either myself or their parents have been asked.
It all depends on which rules. Bedtime I agree, permission to move or eat, I agree.
Socializing depends. College party of your friend’s older brother? No. Going to the mall? Yeah sure
Kids and teens are dumb and need structure to help them to become responsible adults. Without that people grow up and will face those consequences in real life and wonder why their parents didn’t raise them properly.
Ain’t that the truth.
God even just things like curfew, like I’m sorry but your teenager should not have a curfew.
Back in highschool, I had friends who were 16 or 18, who weren’t allowed outside past 5pm. Like that’s just ridiculous, and I’d like to add before anyone in the comments tries to be like “Oh but it’s for safety!” I live in New Zealand.
We’re like the third safest country in the world, there’s no reason to be that strict about curfews or to even really have them over here.
I think parents sometimes need to enact strict rules for their kids that have particular issues or have shown to be untrustworthy in the past. Like if your daughter is 15 and is sneaking over to her boyfriends house after school…you might want to have some rules about where she can hang out and with who. Is she continues to break the rules you may need to restrict her ability to go out with her friends.