I’m 14, and I’ve got more problems than I should, the ones that influence me most being my ED, anxiety/social anxiety, trust issues, and suicidal thoughts (I already made a plan so I don’t do something stupid, so please don’t report me), but my parents are only aware of my ED (something that they referred to as pickyness and a shitty food schedule until a 4 day streak about two months ago)
I’m currently in therapy, which I got in because of my ED, and have a supportive cousin who’s aware of everything, but I want some of the pressure they (my parents) put on me to go down and that may happen with the knowledge of my problems.
I’m also in a crisis of whether or not I should tell them in the first place, because they are the cause of most of them from little stuff in my childhood, and if I’m honest they probably had a part in ALL of them, but i still want to tell them at some point.
I kind of get chocked up talking to them about my problems but absolutely despise breaking down infront of people, and no one in my house is really good in comfort anyway, so I would really appreciate if anyone has any tips with that aswell.
All help is appreciated, and I thank you all in advance
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First off, I am sorry you’re going through all that, and I wish you yo feel better.
Are you in treatment? Or is there any other adult that knows whats going on? That might be a good way to do that, acomponied by another (trusted) person, preferably an adult.
Also, you may want to talk to a doctor, or a school counselor. Both can give you guidance.
If non of this works for you. Sit down with yourself, and create a conversation plan. Just the points you want to raise, in the order you want to raise them. Then use that ti prepare fir the actual conversation.
Last, you may want to expand the plan, and make it a detailed letter to give your parents to read, as a conversation starter.
I hope that helps. Please reach out if you need.
Good luck.
Do you trust your parents and feel that they are a safe space? I think if so, don’t be afraid. They are meant to be there for you. It’s good to talk about these things with a trusted person. Don’t keep it bottled up. Take it from me– I was in a similar position to you at 14. But I didn’t talk about it, and now I’m dealing with the repercussions today at 23. I wish I was more open when I was your age.
Even if they are the source of your issues, you should let them know what you are going through. Maybe don’t talk about how they are the issue though (ask your therapist on if/how to proceed with that).
Again, do this if you feel they would support you.
Honestly, if you trust your therapist, you can ask your therapist if you should talk to your parents.