This weekend, my teen daughter and I went to see Megan Moroney. My husband wanted to come along even though I told him it could be just a girls night with my daughter and I. He insisted on going because he didn’t want us to be out late by ourselves, even though he does not care for Megan’s music.
So my daughter and I enjoy the concert so much! She was so excited she almost cried from pure joy. Everything was great, concert ended, we go to our vehicle.
My daughter and I are still having a good time, kind of on a post-concert high. I turn one of Megan moroney’s songs on and we start singing along. My husband abruptly turns it off. At first I thought, ok maybe he just wants some peace as he drives but he says “turn it on something else!” I said “why, we were listening to that?” He said “well I don’t want to” or someone like that and starts complaining about how awful megan moroney is and how her songs are all man-bashing, etc. I said “whoa buddy we told you that it could just be a girls night like you insisted on coming!” So we ride home in silence and my daughter is really disappointing. One of our favorite things to do is turn the music on and sing along in the car.
AITA for wanting to listen to my music after a concert he didn’t even want to be at?
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This weekend, my teen daughter and I went to see Megan Moroney. My husband wanted to come along even though I told him it could be just a girls night with my daughter and I. He insisted on going because he didn’t want us to be out late by ourselves, even though he does not care for Megan’s music.
So my daughter and I enjoy the concert so much! She was so excited she almost cried from pure joy. Everything was great, concert ended, we go to our vehicle.
My daughter and I are still having a good time, kind of on a post-concert high. I turn one of Megan moroney’s songs on and we start singing along. My husband abruptly turns it off. At first I thought, ok maybe he just wants some peace as he drives but he says “turn it on something else!” I said “why, we were listening to that?” He said “well I don’t want to” or someone like that and starts complaining about how awful megan moroney is and how her songs are all man-bashing, etc. I said “whoa buddy we told you that it could just be a girls night like you insisted on coming!” So we ride home in silence and my daughter is really disappointing. One of our favorite things to do is turn the music on and sing along in the car.
AITA for wanting to listen to my music after a concert he didn’t even want to be at?
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YTA, you were able to listen to her music at the concert and you Don’t need to take advantage of your husband like that
NTA – and give your husband the nickname of Captain Buzzkillington.
NTA. Your husband sounds like a big one though.
Why in the world are you, as a grown-ass adult, not allowed out after dark?
NTA your husband seems like he needs some more joy in his life, if my dad did that after my mum took me to a concert i’d be so annoyed with him. You were both enjoying the post concert vibes and he shut it down because what? He’s mad you had fun? And don’t get me started on the “man bashing” comment and how bad she is. Get over it. Yeah you turned all the music off after and that’s petty but frankly I would’ve done the same after being shamed for having fun. I hope you and your daughter had fun and can still enjoy this memory. Going to gigs with my mum and singing to music and the her in the car are some of my favourite memories and I hope you and your daughter get to do that forever
Nta. He is.
Your husband is an asshole. He ruined your night.
NTA – I would be pissed. You are a grown woman, capable of being out after dark and supervising your daughter. Way to be controlling and throw a wet blanket onto a fun night.
NTA. I get the impulse to want to tag along, but he should have anticipated that this would be a night for the two of you. He is the driver and chaperone if he wants to aspire to that protector role. I can sympathize with being immersed in something you don’t enjoy for the sake of others you care about, but you gotta suck it up.
He’s the asshole.
NTA. Your husband has some personal growth to do
Next time his favourite sportsball is on tv go turn it off and loudly complain about how shit it is. Fuck that guy fr NTA
NTA -.it’s only natural to want to keep those concert vibes going on the way home – come on hubby I’m sure your foot was tapping as well !
NTA. First of all, you should be “allowed” to be out alone at night. Second, if he does insist on coming along, he should stay in his lane and let you have your fun time. He sounds like a complete buzzkill.
NTA but your husband sure is. That sounds really controlling and him not wanting you to have a girls’ night out is concerning.
Dad is sending a very bad message to his daughter, that her taste doesn’t matter.
NTA I myself and most of my friends will listen to the same band/artist we just saw on the way home. It’s a normal. In this situation your husband is the problem.
NTA – husband had FOMO so bad he decided to go even if he couldn’t stand it
NTA, your husband sounds controlling
NTA, you are enjoying the night with your daughter at a concert you enjoyed with her. He is the ahole though.
Ask him if people really live all those kids song they sing to their kids, or so it to make the kids happy.
NTA. Tell him you don’t want your daughter growing up and thinking it’s okay for a man to treat her the way her father treats her mother.
Sounds like you got major problems sister!But unfortunately, if you’re gonna let him treat you like that, you get what you get.NTA
NTA.
Husband is the AH, can’t even deal with some music he doesn’t like for a car ride to make his child happy. Typical male bullshit behaviour.
NTA he spoiled the mood. He could have looked up the music beforehand too to understand what it sounded like. If he has a problem with the message of the music he could have had that conversation with you in private and not turned a happy memory into a sad one all about himself.
NTA. People who step on other people’s joy are the worst kind of people.
NTA. sounds like your husband has a big ol dump in his pants. why’d he want to go?
Youre NTA for Music stuff
„He insisted on going because he didn‘t want us to be out late by ourselfs“
So you need his permission? You‘re TA to yourself for getting a child this controlling jerk
Wow!! Husband quite TAH for pulling that stunt. What a total jerk power play on HIS DAUGHTER!!??
Whoever drives controls the music. YTA.
Oh man. Shame on him for being a kill joy. He could have said any number of nice things to get a little break from the music but he had to be a critic.
NTA
You are building memories with your daughter, you had fun, you enjoyed, don’t let it be taken by your husband. What a toxic guy! I’m pretty sure you can read all the red flags, don’t let it go further.
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God your husband is such a buzz kill why did he insist on coming if he was just going to ruin it for everyone
NTA. He could’ve said he was tired or had a headache because of how loud the concert was but no, he insulted your and your daughters favorite singer and what’s worse is he didn’t even have to come in the first place. He insisted on going to what was supposed to be a girls night and made the whole car ride about himself with the “woe is me” act.
NTA at all. Your husband is though. What a tool.
NTA. I think it’s time we put that man on the moon.
NTA. Husband problem.