I’m male and a us army veteran. I served many years ago with my younger cousin joining this summer. He’s been asking me a lot of questions since then but he keeps asking about how often you’re naked.
I tell him that aside from a few physicals and during training, you’re usually not naked. He asked if men look at your “junk” and I said yes they do but it’s usually very quick. I did mention that for one physical though that a female performed it. He asked me if it was awkward. I told him I personally felt better having a female examine my junk and it wasn’t sexual.
The reason I gave him was because out of the 3 physicals I had, the only one done by a female was by an active duty military doctor and she was very polite while the other two were civilian male doctors who not only tried to rush me but I almost thought they were judging me. I almost feel like when the opposite gender has to perform a physical exam on the opposite gender, they tend to be more nice while the same gender just wants to get it over with.
That’s why since I’ve gotten out, I’ve alway requested a female doctor when possible since I feel they have better bedside manners. Not sure if anyone else sees this the same way. I understand that doctors are professionals and my junk isn’t anymore special than any they have seen before but based on my experience, as a male, I almost feel that female doctors are better.
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As a female, that’s why I prefer a male gynecologist. Females in my experience, are quick to dismiss any concern I have on the premise of “yeah don’t we all”. Whereas, men, listened intently and worked on a solution with me.
My husband prefers female providers (primary care doctor, therapist, etc), too. He finds it a lot easier to open up to a woman.
My female coworker prefers a male gyno. A doctor hasn’t seen me naked in 30 years so I’m not even sure which I would prefer.
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I think I would feel weird asking for a female Dr as a man. If someone said the Dr is female would you like a male Dr I wouldn’t be bothered. Just whoever is there.
You probably don’t go enough for them to notice a pattern, but I would be worried about them thinking “it’s that soldier who wants to show all the female staff his benis.”
I prefer male ob/gyns. In my experience they listen more, are gentler, and have more compassion for what I’m going through.
Data proves you have better care with a POC Woman doctor.
I prefer women/female providers because I have been misdiagnosed too many times by arrogant male drs who stop listening after they think they’ve decided what’s going on. Men Drs will talk over you / stop listening. They jump so quickly to a “solution” 9/10 times it’s been the wrong one, and I’ve had to go to a female provider who actually took more than 30 seconds to listen to me.
I actually had a broken bone missed on an xray by 3 male doctors because it came from a cat bite. They heard cat bite and decided to not look at my xray and said it was normal…
Yall if I can see on my phone that my xray shows a broken bone… 😬 and that’s just ONE story.
Men doctors need to learn how to actively listen
I prefer a female doctor too because I’m straight and I don’t like having a man look at and touch my dick. It’s not homophobia but I just prefer a female doctor because it’s normal for her to look at and touch my dick
i’m a woman and i also prefer women doctors vs. male doctors. i’ve found women look me in the eye and listen to what i have to say, whereas male doctors want you in and out and feel very impersonal. every female doctor i’ve had has been gracious and understanding, thankfully. i can’t say the same for my male doctors, EVEN my close family doctor that is very involved with my family.
do we think this is because they’re the opposite gender, or are women just better at customer relations? I’m curious about that.
I’ve had both male and female doctors. I’m an older male. I find that asking a question to a male doctor, they seem to be arrogant or feel that I’m questioning their opinion. The female doctors just give straight answers. I don’t care about nudity with the doctor. I’m at the appointment to take care of my health and they are at work.
I want my female Doctor back! I miss her so much! When she left, and on my last appointment with her, she hugged me. I was surprised, pleasantly so, but I almost burst into tears.
She left us in January and now I’m saddled with an older Doctor (who worked for Her Majesty’s Prison’s for years.)
He met with me, without even looking at my health records, was immediately judgy and heavy handed. Ugggghhhhh – I’ve put off seeing him for things that should be addressed.
I’ve always preferred female doctors and prefer to deal with female employees in stores and stuff like that. Not in a sexual way at all because I’m gay. Females just seem more caring, professional and friendly to me. They also seem like they actually care and men just don’t usually. I’m
lol says you i’m also a veteran, my primary care doctor is 10 years younger than me and she’s conventionally attractive. It’s very awkward and embarrassing.
I don’t know why it’s more embarrassing than having an old man do it. I’m married and don’t want to be attracted to the young female Dr but I am I guess and her seeing my bits is just more embarrassing. lol
That’s perfectly normal IMO….several women I know prefer to be examined by male doctors.
frankly theres more chances, a lot more, of a male doctor being a creep than a female, so I also prefer female doctors for these kind of exams, though frankly they rather not be attractive but average looking, those are my ideals.
I also prefer to be examined by a female. Though it’s been years since I’ve been seen naked by a Dr. It’s been a little over 5. It was my pediatrician, and I was just comfortable with her. The one time a guy did it, he was really quick about it and didn’t care to hear questions I had. I also have put thought into joining the military, but being naked around others was something that turned me away from joining. If I was confident with myself, then I would join. But I no longer am able to join now.
Sometimes we just feel safer with one gender or another. There is nothing wrong with that. And sometimes our own defenses can change how the doctor interacts with us too.
When I was a kid I suffered depression. I thought having a male counselor at school would help because I could talk to someone guy to guy. Instead he started talking to me like an adult who should, in his words, “man up against the bullying”. (I was 11years old) Switching to a female counselor was the best decision I made because not only did she listen but she didn’t call me out for being a wimp but instead told me that facing my fears took time and confidence and it doesn’t happen in one day. It took a while but I got better. Turns out the reason I was depressed was because I was isolating myself due to an undiagnosed mental disorder that caused anger issues. I was always afraid of losing control of my emotions which cause me to lock myself away from the rest of the world. Talking to her helped me overcome them. 6 years with her was all I needed to get where I am today, getting ready to go to college and start a new life for myself.
I’m a woman who prefers males! I agree, the many women OB’s I had were dismissive and rushed me. They ignored the hell out of my horrific periods for 14 years. A male OB took me seriously… he found out I have PCOS, did my birth control insert, removal, my entire pregnancy, my post birth care, and my new birth control- I LOVE HIM and I’m pissed we moved
It feels more natural to be nude in front of a woman for me but I’ll tell you that the older I get I don’t give a rip who is around. I know that no one is dying to see me nude so I’ve just developed this thing about not caring. I had to get an ultrasound of the pebbles a couple years ago and this nice young lady comes in and my first thought is “you poor thing”. It really doesn’t get much more out there than that. We had a very relaxed conversation. I wasn’t aroused or embarrassed it just was what it was.
I try to find a doctor or PA that served in our military. I can speak without civilianize what I’ve got going on.
Dr is a title to me. I have no preference on their sex. As long as they treat me as a human & not rubbish.
As a female myself, I prefer a female medical provider in most fields. Male doctors tend to brush me off when I’m talking about medical issues. Especially during pregnancy. I had 3 high-risk pregnancies and had pretty complicated medical problems. My concerns were never given much attention unless my husband voiced the same concerns. I feel like, a good percentage of female medical providers have a deeper understanding of empathizing with their patients. They are women, so they understand women’s needs. They have relationships with men outside of work (not meaning Just sexual or intimate) and understand men’s insecurities about certain health issues and can adjust to that patient. Not All Male doctors will be dismissive of a woman’s concerns, just wanna put that out there. But I’ve come across more who were, than weren’t.
I definitely prefer female Dr’s. In fact I make an effort to find a woman, especially as I get older.
Sounds homophobic… imagine a medical professional judging you in any way. Weird weird. They’re literally just trying to do their job…
This isn’t related to being examined but I do much prefer having a female therapist as a man, a lot of the men I have tried to talk to in my life have never seemed to understand or even seemed to care and I think that left a bad taste in my mouth.
My kid (we are POC) had a bulls-eye on his skin from an infection. The blonde blue-eyed nurse couldn’t see the pattern, she wasn’t used to looking at brown skin. I looked outside the curtain for another nurse, grabbed a Filipina nurse, pointed at my son’s arm, and she goes, “OMG, he has a bulls-eye pattern! There’s an infection!” From then on, only POC looking at my kids.
TL;DR: I’m a massive pervert, or a self-hating gay
For some fields (like PCP) I’ve had good experiences with both men & women, and I’ve had bad experiences with both men & women. Generally I’m fine either way but in therapy settings I prefer men (I’m a woman), and at my neurologist’s office (I’ve been there for many years) I’ve seen multiple different providers – some men, some women. I tend to prefer the women but don’t mind the men.
Ya, but what about the bend over, and spread ’em part? It seems like that’s all my doctors want to do! Hell, I went in for allergies my last visit, and he got me. Seems like you should have a complain about your urine flow or something before they just go putting fingers where they aren’t meant to go!
Do you explain why you prefer a female? I know sometimes when men prefer a female provider (medical, esthetician, etc) it can be in a predatory way. Do people assume you want a female because you’re a creep?
Why do you have to be naked during training?
I’m a male doctor who has a male pcp. When I needed my prostate check many moons ago, I requested the girl do it. My pcp laughed and said he understood.
I don’t think gender preference is a big deal. It’s your health, do what feels comfortable.
Huh, cool. Makes sense!! I also prefer female doctors lol (but I’m a woman). But one time I had an urgent, same-day appointment with a male OBGYN & that doctor changed my life. I was so nervous about it being a man but I think he was extra aware of the differences in gender and so he made sure to explain everything he was doing and would tell me before he proceeded with the different parts of the exam.
I had my period for 3 months… straight. Heavy bleeding. I was extremely bloated and I think I was shedding my uterus on a daily basis. It was painful. I could feel it all. Usually I have painless periods and they last 5-7 days. But ptsd must have really messed me up because my period went haywire.
I had bled through 3 jeans before noon. He saw me that day. He got me on birth control and we watched the lining of my uterus return to normal over several months. A year later, I got off the pill. My period is stable. I really appreciated his expertise and respectful approach.