Hello, this is a throwaway account because my friends and family use Reddit and I don’t want them to know. Also I would like to say that my bff (I’ll call her A) is a victim, so please no hateful comments directed at her. We are both 17 years old.
As the title implies, her dad’s friendgroup is awful and I honestly hope some of them end up in jail. The man who has hurt me the most is 53 years old and I’ll call him G.
A and I have been friends since 3rd grade. We have had so many great memories and I love her very much. We always hung out either at my house or at her moms. Her parents have been separated since she was 4, and her mom has primary custody. That meant that I didn’t see her dad really.
Fast forward to 8th grade. This situation happened 3 months after my 14th birthday. I had convinced my parents that I (with A of course) could hang out at her dad’s workplace (where the friendgroup worked), because of a school project.
As soon as we arrived, I got a bad feeling about it all. Soon after we arrived, she had to pee and we went to a horrific bathroom with pee everywhere. She started crying and asked me if I had a pad, because she had gotten her period and her dad would only buy her tampons (he thought pads were too expensive). I gave her one and after she was done, we went into different rooms to greet her dad’s friends.
After about an hour, A’s mom called and she went outside (meaning I was alone in the building). One of the dad’s friend (G) called me into a room and me being 14, of course I went into the room. He started asking me pretty normal questions but then he grabbed my hand and put it on his dick. I was scared but I didn’t say anything. He then asked me to sit on his lap and I told him I didn’t want to. He actually started laughing and told me that he could wait till later.
A suddenly came into the room and saw that I was crying. She asked him what he wanted and he pulled some liquor up from his backpack.
Neither me or A knew how to say no, so we began drinking the liquor with G. It was the first time I ever got drunk.
G asked me to go home with him and I politely rejected him stating my dad would pick me up.
Around a year passes and we decide to go to a carnival together. There we met G and some of the other friends. G asked me to talk privately and I agreed. We went somewhere quiet and he began feeling me up. I asked him to stop and he did. The next thing he said shocked me. He literally said that he would pay me to have sex with him as long as I kept it private. I obviously refused and he got furious. To make the rest short, I called my parents and they picked me up.
The last time I saw G (around 3 months ago), he asked me to work for him (whatever that implied) and he promised that we could have something special together. There I also heard some alarming things the friendgroup discussed. They talked about how easy it is to slip something into drinks and how many teen girls, they have gotten with using that trick.
I haven’t told anyone I know about all of this, but I really want my bff to realize how fucked everything is. Some days I feel like I’m overreacting but all of this seriously concerns me.
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You REALLY need to tell a trusted adult about all of this. Both you and A are in danger and your parents (and her mom) should know. You’re not overreacting to any of this. A 50 year old man has no business doing anything with a teenager.
This IS concerning. The stuff he’s doing is what groomers do. Also putting your hand on his dick at 14 was sexual assault on a minor! That’s not just bad it’s illegal. Then he also supplied minors with alcohol, again illegal. Are you also 15/16 when he tries to pay you for sex, because that is soliciting a minor, also majorly illegal.
You won’t face consequences because you haven’t done anything wrong but you really need to tell a responsible adult even if you’re not ready to report to the police, because as mentioned what he had done is crimes.
Have you tried to speak to your friend at all about this? It really sounds like she’s fell victim to the grooming. Please don’t go with her anymore to these meet ups. Someone needs to be informed because her dad and his friends should not be anywhere near her.
I’m sorry this has happened to you, but if you can be brave you could put a stop to this for good
YOU CANNOT BE ALONE WITH ANY OF THE FRIENDS!
Do not trust them. You need to tell your parents and the police.
They can physically hurt you and they have already SA you.
You’re not overreacting. Has your BFF told you everything? I’d be concerned for her if she’s around that a lot! Be careful with telling your father. He might do something that could get him hurt with a group like that unless he has plenty of backup. Dads will do crazy things for the right reasons.
But, maybe tell someone important like your counselor at school, minister or priest (if you’re at a good church or temple), law enforcement, etc. Find someone you’re comfortable with. Double check in on your bff. She might be dealing with stuff without telling you.
You’re not overreacting but I need to make one thing very clear.
Unless you are being threatened with your life or you are in immediate danger do. Not. Take. Anything. From. Them.
I don’t care what they say, I don’t care how bad they make you feel, I don’t care if they laugh and it feels awkward.
You can never take a drink from this person again. You can never be alone in a room with any of them again.
If you continue to go to these places where these men are one of you is going to get very hurt. I need you to understand this.
Tell someone. Now. Do not let you or your friend become a victim more then you already have, if you have the power to do so. I understand you’re so young, and I feel so much for you.
But you need to understand the level of danger you are currently in. These people can end your life. They are talking in the open about drugging teenage girls.
You need to tell your mother if you trust her. If not you need to tell an adult that you do trust. Let your mom protect you from this if you can’t yourself.
Please, don’t go anywhere near this workplace or your friends dad ever ever again.
So, whether you do anything about what has already happened or not is up to you. If it was me I would tell a trusted adult, maybe a counselor at school. But again, that’s up to you.
But seriously, stay AWAY from these guys. It’s honestly possible they could manipulate your friend A into bringing you somewhere that they can attack you. She sounds kind of brainwashed and I don’t think you can trust her to be totally on your side as far as keeping you safe. Don’t go anywhere with A that those guys could be there. Honestly, if only invite her over to yours from now on. And maybe don’t let her know if your parents are ever not at home. I have a really bad feeling that this G guy is way too interested in you.
Please stay safe. And please tell your parents. Even if you cannot say the words show them this post. They should know what to do.
Please tell your school counselor or a trusted teacher immediately.
If you are in the US, talk to a school counselor, your doctor, or one of your teachers. They are all mandatory reporters. You could also call child protective services anonymously and give as many details as possible for investigation.