I lost my virginity to an escort, and I don’t regret it

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So yeah, I (19M) recently lost my virginity to an escort. It wasn’t some desperate decision or last-minute thing — I’ve been thinking about it for a while. I just wanted to get the experience, get out of my head, and stop overthinking something that felt like a big deal for no reason.

She was beautiful — easily a 9/10 in my eyes. I paid $110 for 30 minutes, which I know isn’t cheap, but honestly, I don’t regret it. We talked a bit, got into it, and the experience was everything I expected. I lasted literally just in time, I stayed calm, and I walked out of there feeling like a completely different person. Like a weight had been lifted.

The confidence boost I got from it is unreal. Not because I “paid to get laid,” but because I faced something that had been sitting on my mind for years and handled it like a grown man. She even told me I was one of the best she’d had and said it was 10/10 — whether or not it was just part of the experience, it stuck with me.

I kept it to myself. I’m not telling anyone in real life, and I don’t think I will. It’s a private moment that’s just for me — not for validation or ego, just for closure and clarity.

I’m not planning on doing it again, and I’m not out here endorsing anything. Just sharing because it feels good to get it off my chest. No regrets. Feel free to ask any questions I’d be happy to answer them!

Comments

  1. Past_Respect_6585 Avatar

    If it was a good experience for you, then it ain’t no shame! Good for you, dude!

  2. Der_Vampyr Avatar

    Why do you post AI written fantasies here?

  3. dang_bro775 Avatar

    Hey you lost your virginity doesn’t really matter how you lost it unless both people didn’t consent.

    Her telling you that was definitely part of the experience but hey you gotta bang a hot chick so you’re winning

  4. Lehmann87 Avatar

    I’m not against sex work at all bc I’ve used it too but there’s a huge reality check here. It’s her work and obviously she wants keep her clients happy by saying things like that so they come back. Literally everything in that sex-money exchange is fake man, it’s all about transaction

  5. Ordinary-Patient-610 Avatar

    You didn’t think abou HIV ?

  6. StaticShock77 Avatar

    Another fake ai story, ai for some reason loves to use the em dash

  7. xtcmonke Avatar

    there was mutual consent, fun and confidence boost. sounds like a solid win. good job king.

  8. TomStanely Avatar

    I believe you. My first sexual experience was with an escort too. It wasnt bad. But, it wasnt worth the price though.

    But then, Im mostly gay. It was a woman. Given that, it was just fine.

    And yes, the weight being lifted off. I felt that too. Honestly, I would recommend doing it for anyone who wants to just lose their virginity and experience it once. If they have the money.

  9. Bionic_Push Avatar

    If you enjoyed it, nothing to be ashamed of. That being said, there is also no shame in being virgin. I lost your virginity at roughly your same age with a girl who was also a virgin (we both were). We were doing foreplay, handjobs, oral for a while before we actually did the full sex. And it was beautiful as well. So no need to be ashamed either way. Just for the record: you shouldn’t trust when a prostitute tells you sex was 10/10, she wouldn’t be charging you otherwise :). Maybe you were a 10/10 client in the sense that you were a nice guy and respectful. But i encourage you to go out there without any shame and start dating the usual way so you don’t go the path of seeking validation from hookers in the future. Cheers

  10. anonorwhatever Avatar

    Good for you 🙂

  11. Cwooddy Avatar

    👏🏾👏🏾big ups to you as long as you were safe and enjoyed yourself

  12. epic1107 Avatar

    Ai……

    Unless op want to explain why they wrote with double dashes, which no one but ai does

  13. thebigbaduglymad Avatar

    Good on you! As an older woman If I found myself single I would absolutely go for an escorts, I’m not ashamed of sex.

  14. PalworldTrainer Avatar

    Atta boy. Nothing to regret. Virginity is not something sacred unless you are extremely religious

  15. No-Challenge-3305 Avatar

    If it was enjoyable like this there is absolutely nothing wrong with it in my opinion. In fact it has also been on my mind for a long time (M21) but i still havent done it because i suffer from severe anxiety etc especially when it comes to sexuality and stuff – so im sure i wouldnt be able to relax and enjoy it and i dont want it to be a shitty experience :/
    (Also as you said its not cheap xD)

  16. butchudidit Avatar

    Virginity is overrated bro. The relationship and connection is where its at.

  17. illmatic708 Avatar

    Hey

    Congrats on the sex

  18. muga_mbi Avatar

    You didn’t lose your virginity. You bought a performance and called it growth.
    That’s not confidence. That’s conditioning.
    Real intimacy can’t be purchased.
    Only programmed minds think it can. Make it real next time.

  19. Revolutionary_Sun248 Avatar

    tbh nothing to be proud of, you felt so miserable and lonely that you HAD TO PAY to lose your virginity with someone who doesn’t mean anything to you and to someone who doesn’t even love you. If u feel amazing now that’s good ig but here is one suggestion (from a girl) – Don’t ever tell a girl (worse if she’s a virgin herself) that you lost ur v-card to a prostitute. Bc that’s actually gross.

  20. SarcasmIsntDead Avatar

    Idk why some guys are so against this it just takes the pressure off moving forward. Reading some of the post where guys are older still virgins expecting something they’ve made up in their heads to be a perfect moment with a perfect person. Take it off the pedestal…

  21. Ok-Degree-7821 Avatar

    no shame man. Just coming from someone that was in your same situation, really, really look that you don’t do it a second time. Then u will start to regret it. And tbh telling someone about it after some years helped me a lot. Once I got a gf I had some deep talks with her and I actually told her, she was fine with it and understood me. That shit helped me a lot

  22. jamster344 Avatar

    Way I see it you got for 110$ what most people pay thousands for and don’t even get

  23. mytearricochet Avatar

    Hey, if you enjoyed it and were comfortable with it, then there is no shame in it. Good for you op.

  24. Massive-Night Avatar

    Shame shame puppy shame

  25. Salt-Lobster316 Avatar

    You believe a prostitute when she tells you you are a 10/10 and that you are the best she’s had? Crazy. She wants repeat business and she wants referrals. Get a clue man.

  26. DaveinOakland Avatar

    $110 seems like it would be a steal in today’s prices.

  27. Worldcitizen375 Avatar

    Pathetic. That’s extremely low

  28. Super_Skunk1 Avatar

    Whatever you do, if you get a girlfriend, never tell her. Maybe when you get old you can tell your wife how you lost your virginity.

  29. LostStar64 Avatar

    How does one even get a fucking escort tbh

  30. throwawry42 Avatar

    Same here. 20 years ago.

    No regrets it was an awesome experience, she taught me a lot about sex and how to please a woman, and it got me really out of my own head about sex and women.

    I don’t exactly recommend it for most people, but I definitely don’t discourage it for people either. If you do the proper research, and find a good escort, it can be a really great experience.

  31. Left_Draw_7886 Avatar

    If you don’t catch anything then there’s nothing to regret

  32. Conaz9847 Avatar

    Virginity isn’t important, you could lose it to an egg and it wouldn’t have any less or more meaning. At some point in life some guy decided virginity was a thing and later someone decided it fucking mattered?

    Virginity is one of life’s invisible and meaningless concepts we came up with just to judge each other, fuck who you want, when you want, if you had a good time lad that’s all that matters, but you don’t need to “not regret it”, because you can’t regret a choice that doesn’t matter.

  33. butdubs Avatar

    You know what? Good for you, dude. If I were in a situation where I’d want to/could sleep with an escort, I’d do it too.

    Purely transactional, you got what you wanted, she got money, everyone is happy. In principle, its no different than getting a massage, really.

    Why shouldn’t someone be able to pay for an escort if they want to?

  34. ResistKey728 Avatar

    You both consented and you both enjoyed it there is no harm! Glad you enjoyed the weight lifted off !

  35. No_Researcher_7327 Avatar

    unbelievably bleak.

  36. Trap-me-pls Avatar

    Well good for you. To be honest if virginity affects your self esteem or your feeling of self worth this is an easy way to get rid of that problem.

  37. cranberryskittle Avatar

    >She even told me I was one of the best she’d had and said it was 10/10

    hahahahahahaha

  38. truthseeker933 Avatar

    Wait till you gonna hit raw. That’s gonna be a whole another experience haha

  39. A96 Avatar

    People attach a lot of shame to things like escorts and whatever, but it is an ancient and honorable profession. Treating her respectfully probably already makes you better than the average customer.

  40. slightly_OCD Avatar

    Compared to the way I remember losing mine I bet yours was a hell of a lot more enjoyable

  41. unic0rnspaghetti Avatar

    Congratulations no self respecting woman will be with you now lol

  42. Puzzleheaded_Pin2601 Avatar

    Nothing to feel bad or ashamed about, and it seems you have a good perspective on it.

    My dad and my uncle have a similar story how they lost their virginity, but instead of them seeking out this for themselves, my grandfather decided for them that they would lose their virginity to a sex worker. This was in Puerto Rico in the late 70’s. super fucked up, and gross to do that to your children, and i don’t think it was a positive experience for them.

    So happy to hear you did have a positive experience!

    Also, my current partner of 3 years used to be a sex worker, and she’s genuinely an amazing and kind person.

    wish you the best!

  43. santashentai Avatar

    I personally wouldn’t do it with someone I don’t know. But good for you

  44. I_love_my_fish_ Avatar

    Hey if you enjoyed it you enjoyed it. Do yourself and future partners a favor and get an STD test before you have sex with anyone else though.

  45. hkredman Avatar

    “It’s a private moment that is just for me”… and everyone on the internet.

  46. SoN1Qz Avatar

    LMAO you definitely weren’t one of her best experiences 😭

  47. Caesar6973 Avatar

    I lost my virginity, at 15, to a girl whose nickname was bulldog. In a “home depot” carpark. And I didn’t even get to cum

  48. Present-Difficulty-6 Avatar

    Now its time for you to travel and taste the world

  49. santaclaws_ Avatar

    Nor should you.

  50. Prestigious_Fan_2407 Avatar

    How do you get paid to get laid?