CW- sexual harassment, unapologetic kink shaming, crass language
I’m so sick of being sexualised by POS dudes when I don’t wear socks, I don’t feel like I should have to sock up like it’s a friggin burka for my feet to stop these gross freaks from sexualising my fuckin toes.
My final straw? The other night I met one of my bf’s friends for the first time, he needs a place to stay so I was like “okay, I’ll meet him and see what the vibe is”. He seemed cool for a while, but whenever my bf was not in the room he was telling me how beautiful my feet are. I told him to stfu and leave it alone. Then after bf went to bed he would not leave me the hell alone, would not stop trying to touch and hug me even though I told him to stop it so many times, kept making comments about my feet even though I asked him to stop so many times, and I kicked him out when he asked for a kiss.
I wish this was an isolated incident, but iterations of this scenario have happened so many times at this point I’m ready to throw the toe-baby out with the bathwater. Foot guys are the WORST. Their insistence on sexualising a body part without the consent of that body part’s owner is frankly sickening. You know why I’m not wearing socks? Because it’s fuckin 20 degrees Celsius outside, okay? It’s sandal weather. Why should I make myself too hot just so these backwards perverts can control themselves? Shouldn’t they be controlling themselves anyway?? I don’t adorn my feet with shit that makes a person think “wow I should look at her feet”, I don’t paint my nails or wear toe rings or even moisturise my feet, they are simply there for me to walk on, that’s it. The fact that I couldn’t be barefoot IN MY OWN DAMNED HOME with my partner of 13 years IN THE HOME WITH ME is absolutely insane to me. The fact that this man who needs a place to stay would throw away the roof we were offering to put over his head during a fucking housing crisis just so he could indulge in his perversion seems absolutely emblematic of the energy these guys bring to the table. They do not care about consent at all, and if it was any other body part they were drooling over it would be seen for what it is- big time creep shit.
Here’s a message to all the foot guys in the audience- get your gross shit together. Your disgusting fixation on sexualising women for simply having the biological tools for walking is grim as hell. The burden of keeping your dick soft around people just trying to live their lives should fall on YOUR shoulders, not mine. There is no difference between sexualising feet without consent and sexualising any other body part without consent. I can see no difference between this and the kind of guy who makes comments about teenage girls because they think they have “adult bodies”. It’s a lazy palette swap of the same kind of predator, more concerned with their own sexual gratification than the common rules of human decency. GTFO of here with that disgusting shit, I’m so over giving the benefit of the doubt to you fucking perverts. It’s nasty, end of discussion.
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Me personally, I do not like feet
Foot guy here and I agree with you.
I am firm in my belief that the sort of behavior you are experiencing is equal to sexual misconduct and should be treated as such.
You wouldn’t stare openly at someone’s breasts without consent. feet are not in any way different in that context.
Sorry you have to deal with this. There are those of us who very firmly respect boundaries and know well how to treat folks with what should be basic human decency.
I was under the impression that a foot fetish is universally regarded as one of the creepiest most shameful fetishes a man can have? It’s often joked about in a lighthearted way but it is by no means a socially accepted fetish. At least not in America. Where are you from? Maybe it’s a cultural thing.
Some Foot Fetish guys had to ruin it for the rest of us
I used to manage a pizza hut and had to tell one of my drivers that he wasn’t allowed to work the front anymore because he couldn’t stop commenting on the toes of every woman who came in wearing sandals/flip flops. Really nice guy otherwise, but goddamn it man stop harassing our customers
Do not have such fetish, but it’s not really a fetish issue as a behavior issue. Plenty different people have respect for boundaries, some dont.
Bruh i want a life where my biggest problem is people looking at my feet 😂😂😂
I feel this so hard. So many of them think it’s okay to impose this fetish on underage girls as well, because feet aren’t a sexual body part. I can’t tell you the number of foot guys that were creepy towards me when I was underage. One 23 year old doxxed my snapchat when I was 16 because I wouldn’t send him feet pics.
What the fuck… What happened to keeping your kinks private, guys? How does anyone with a functioning brain not realize that’s not APPROPRIATE?
lol I think he’s just a creep. Period. Just keep your hands and thoughts to yourself. Should’ve definitely told the bf and get his ass handed to him
There is so much foot content out there too, like I swear the foot fetish is secondary to a weird rejection/embarrassment fetish. It truly feels like they like the thrill of making others uncomfortable more than the feet themselves.
I don’t think this is isolated to foot fetish guys. More creepy guys in general.
Can I just say- “The burden of keeping your dick soft” is just about the best wording I’ve come across in a long time.
They cause me trouble in a different way, because a couple of times I have been accused of being a foot guy due to a habit of staring at people’s feet, the truth is I actually have a phobia of exposed feet, and it’s like being an arachnophobe in a room with a loose tarantula, there is no way they would take their eyes of it.
Chuggaaconroy moment
I understand where you’re coming from and I’m sorry
The Internet has sorta memed foot fetishes for so long that it’s turned into “funny” and “not a big deal” area because joking about it has become so commonplace.
Literally EVERY picture of a woman that has her feet prominent (a lot of the times with socks too) will have people making jokes about it.
Problem is it’s like a “hahaha jk…..unless?” point now.
Super objectifying and people think it’s ok bc they’re “joking” Can’t imagine being a girl and having so many precautions to take to post a photo or idk not wearing socks at home???
I’m a foot guy, but I admire in silence. I dont see myself ever saying it out loud that a woman has some dainty feet. The only one I’d do that for is my future gf or wife. Sorry that guy made you uncomfortable.
It’s so funny how feet guys are at the bottom of the fetishist totem pole.
Their brains are wired wrong. They’re literally unable to turn it off and their entire life eventually devolves into feet. Stalkers but for the toes.
Are there really that many? It’s weird fr
This has nothing to do with his foot fixation and everything to do with his lack of control. You made it clear that you didn’t want his advances and contact, and he ignored you.
>whenever my bf was not in the room he was telling me how beautiful my feet are. I told him to stfu and leave it alone. Then after bf went to bed he would not leave me the hell alone, would not stop trying to touch and hug me even though I told him to stop it so many times, kept making comments about my feet even though I asked him to stop so many times, and I kicked him out when he asked for a kiss
Have you told your boyfriend this? If not, he needs to know that his friend crossed a line.
I’ll admit, I have a strong attraction to boobs, but I’m not going to go out into public and stare at the boobs of every woman I see or tell them how beautiful their boobs are. That’s just creepy. Happy trails.
Nope, nope,nope,nope you don’t blame ALL of us for an incident you had just for ONE NIGHT. We foot warriors are out & proud it is our motto to be respectful & treat her with the utmost sensitivity of each lass with the baby smooth arches the curves don’t get me started on the classy French tips ahem moving on.
What I’m trying to say is we don’t claim that motherfucker you could easily admire in silence. Many girls at church go Barefoot I may or maynot glance down say to myself lord you’ve out done yourself with this one then continue about my day zero harm done.
Your making us guys out to be like the anime weebs who own body pillows of their favorite anime girlfriend we are not the same.
My FF was created by total accident at like age 13 😅
Show me ur beeeeeeans lil shawdy/s
I’m just enjoying seeing foot weirdos get called tf out lmao, very gratifying.
Sounds more like an impulse control issue. I wouldn’t attack foot people for it. Also, I doubt these people woke up one day during childhood thinking like: “I wish I had fetish that ostracizes me”
You should look into it. It has something to do with child development and the genitals forming around the same time as the feet
Bottom line that guy is a creep and super disrespectful And should go. Just not because he is in to feet.
It’s weird the dude tried to molest you basiaclly, and instead of zeroing in on that, you decided anyone who likes feet is the enemy. You don’t say this to men who like boobs, or asses. Kind of makes you seem like a bad/non-critical person.
I refuse to believe OP’s feet are that irresistable.
I had a foot fetish guy STARE at my feet. In public, with his girlfriend standing right next to him. When I moved to stand behind a couch to not have them in his line of sight he gave me the creepiest perviest smile I have ever seen in real life. It was so gross, and I didn’t go out without my feet covered for a long time after that.
As a man with a foot fetish, I absolutely abhor the community. I’ve been on some of the ff subreddits here, and tried to participate. But I should have known better. Most of them are absolutely self-loathing due to how they think they’re treated (real incel vibes.) And there are too many posts about “How do I get feet?” And I kept trying to tell them that they don’t deserve to satisfy their fetish if they can even be respectful enough to meet women and form a healthy relationship before trying to perv on their feet. I miss the days where folks just kept their foot fetish to themselves unless they’re talking to someone with whom it’s appropriate to bring it up. I’m sorry strangers are constantly trying to coerce you into participating in their kink. It’s not fair and it’s not kind. I think many guys rationalize it by saying “it’s just feet!” Well, to most people, they’re just feet. But clearly if you have a foot fetish they’re more than that. I’m not saying I never look if an attractive lady is wearing sandals or is barefoot, but just as anyone has ever furtively checked out a person they find attractive, I don’t presume to think they want to hear about my attraction. I won’t say these idiots have ruined anything for me, but there’s always the concern of being lumped in with them, because 8/10 times, if someone has a story about a dude with a foot fetish, it’s on like this. Again, I’m sorry you had experience ms like this.
As a foot guy, I don’t understand those types at all.
I just give my gf massages. But then you have the obsessive dirty/stinky foot sniffing dudes.
Oof sorry you had to experience that. Yeah unfortunately the bad apples ruin the bunch for the rest of us. I assure you we are not all like this. We are all disgusted when people act like this it’s embarrassing as hell.
“So SICK of CREEPY BULLSHIT”
There, fixed it for you. It’s not just one type of person being creepy. I know so many vanilla PEOPLE (men, women, and in between) who are absolute creeps unwilling to care about consent. I understand your frustration, but give the credit where it’s due, please.
Yeesh. I have never been so glad for my runner’s feet in my life. Have you considered a sport that involves you ruining your feet?
Only joking. Kind of.
I’ve never met someone unironically into feet
I may be a simple man and I’ve seen quite a bit. But I have no clue why dudes love feet.
I agree with your sentiment, and on top of that I think feet are absolutely disgusting. Like literally the thought of touching anyone’s feet, even my husband’s, makes me want to barf. So yeah that’s one of the few kinks I will say is gross AF.
I’m always amazed at the ki d of people that folks surround themselves with, when I’m on reddit. Idk where yall find these freaks.