Been chatting with someone and things spicy sometimes, they send me pictures and I feel like I should return the favour but I feel I am not attractive enough, so I don’t and come up with excuses.
I don’t want to seem unconfident insecure person but I am, I don’t want make excuses everytime.
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You never have to do something you’re not comfortable doing. Just tell them no and if they don’t respect that, that’s on them
Literally just say “I don’t feel comfortable sending pictures to you right now”
If you’re close enough with someone to be sexting with them, you’re close enough to have this conversation with them.
Be honest and say you’re not into sending pictures 🙂
First option the truth, say I’m uncomfortable sending pictures of myself. If they start to nag then they’re not worth it anyways
And maybe if it’s a sweet kind person you will feel safe enough to send some one day. Who knows.
Second option you lie and say I’ve got a no Pics rule. I was doxxed once and won’t risk anything
Don’t let them pressure you either way
I just say I don’t do pics sorry, and they shouldn’t feel the need to. It’s really not my thing.
Unless they see something awe inspiring or funny lol
If you really don’t want to bring up your insecurities, say you don’t feel comfortable digitally sending photos. The internet is a scary place. It’s completely valid in this age of technology to be skeptical of sending vulnerable photos online/via text, and any person with a stable head on their shoulders can understand that.
I can’t tell you what to do and in no way are you required to send photos to other person whether you ask for then to send them to you are not, your body, your rules, now with that said why are you so afraid? they will reject you?, so if you want to send them then do so, but don’t feel obligated, if they reject you that’s good, i know it sounds strange, but think about it wouldn’t you like to know early on then be in a relationship that’s going no where but you invested yourself into it. If they don’t except you as you are before the picture their not going to after, and if they do their just leading you on, try to establish a connection first before sending photos.and don’t feel uncomfortable with not returning the favor of sending pictures back, you can say no, or if you feel a connection you can say no and explain why, if they reject you because your insecure about your body then they weren’t the right one, also you didn’t state if your male or fenale, so I will make a blank statement for both, ok your a male and insecure because you have a small penis, well if the two of you are possibly going to connect down the road their going to find out in time anyways so better to get it over with and see where they stand on the subject, if they reject you move on who cares, but if they don’t you could end up in a meaningful relationship without having to feel insecure and the same goes with a female if you have small breast, or may be your issue is your weight again better to find out now then later, either way make sure you feel there’s something more than just I like you send me nudes,you should be more connected with the person than a computer relationship. Remember your body/ your rules.
Hey OP, just a friendly heads up that it’s “conscious,” not “cautious.”
As for the pics, try communicating that you’re a little self-conscious and see what they say. If they already like you—which it sounds like they do—then it’s pretty unlikely that seeing you is going to be a deal-breaker.
And if it is, you dodged a bullet. Better to fill your life with people who accept you as you are.
Just say you’re not doing that. Don’t give a reason they can keep pressuring. Anyone that pressures you is no good.
Just say you’re not photogenic so you don’t take pictures, and depending on how the mood is, you could also add that you prefer doing things in person or something
You can just say “I don’t do that”
You don’t owe anybody an explanation. If they’re looking to collect pics, the internet is full of them.
Personally I wouldn’t send pics for the fact that anything you send could end up everywhere.
That being said saying you don’t want to should be enough. No reasons or excuses are needed for something like that just a nope should always suffice. If it doesn’t then that’s another matter all together.
You want to seem like something you aren’t. You don’t want to seem like something you are.
If you want anything out of life, you’ll need to align what you are and what you want. Start here.
Just tell them, but if you do send photos don’t show your face in anything intimate.
If they ask you could be like “I’d rather you see it in person first 😉” flirty while avoiding the real reason but getting the same point across.
Look, I love me a good set of nude pics, was probably my favorite part of being single… You are under no obligation to send anyone any pic for any reason. My ol’ lady flat refuses to do nudes, yeah it sucks, but she is cooler than nudes are.
I will clarify, that if your plan is to just make excuses, do not make HIM your excuse, or you are “making him the problem” in a situation he has no control over, in his head. It will destroy your relationship. Personal opinion, just be honest… If you tell him you’re not confident enough for that stuff, he can support your decision, or kick rocks.
As for your confidence, that is something only YOU can improve. i can promise you, that you’re not just hot to some people, but you are some people kink. The confidence in yourself doesn’t come from others opinions tho, it comes from how you feel about yourself.
“no”
“No” is a complete sentence
Just out of curiosity, how old are you and how old are they? Are you a woman or a man? And what are they?
And more importantly, how long have you been talking? Have you ever met in person? Do you plan to?
I have found men don’t generally respect women who send pics anyway and are more likely to not meet up so stand your ground
“I hate sending photos, and I ain’t gonna do it. I don’t expect you to send me photos either.” And then have confidence in yourself to bat away any further discussion on the issue.
“I’ve sent pictures before and got burned bad so I’m never sending pictures again”
No. Your not comfortable. End of story
So what will you do when you eventually meet up and he sees you in person?
You should work on your confidence. While your under no obligation to do things your uncomfortable with, if you ever want to intimate with this person or anybody you need to get over rejection. Most likely if someone is talking like this with you it’s for a reason. Someone is ugly clothed or unclothed. I don’t want to see something more of that I do not find attractive. So unlike the rest of these comments, I think you need to put yourself out there. If you can’t do pics, it won’t be easier in person. And people will get bored of things not leading anywhere. We’re adults and we’re ok to want to have sex and it’s ok to move on from someone if you don’t see it leading to that point at some point. Some are more patient than others, horn dogs are pieces of shit. But sex is a huge part of an relationship that most aren’t willing to give up to suit another’s feelings.
Goodluck to you.
“Self cautious” meaning that you are both insecure with your appearance and wary about this someone? I would ask ChatGPT?
Just say no.
If they push or refuse to accept it then you know that they only want one thing.
Always the truth. Good people love it, bad people can’t handle it. It’s the absolute best
I don’t want to send pictures because I don’t have control of them once they leave my phone.
No…?
I ask honestly cause I’ve been in similar situations, are you against sending nudes specifically or just ‘spicy’ photos of yourself?For that matter, is this a person you want to exchange photos with?
If it helps at all, maybe look into more boudoir kinda shots. I’m a big dude with a ton of scars all across my body and so truth be told, a lot of typical ways of shooting a photo aren’t flattering of me. But, there are many tasteful ways to take a picture regardless of body type and such. If this is a thing you wanna do, might be worth looking into!
Just say what you mean.
No
start with very small almost teasing pics… they’ll hopefully show some positive reactions and you can go from there, its a give and take sort of thing, trust needs to be built
What is on the internet stays on the internet
“Thank you for the pictures. You didn’t have to send them. I’m not comfortable sending pictures yet. But I really appreciate the ones you’ve sent”