Hi there. I had a situation a couple years ago where someone I consider a bestfriend completely betrayed me. They say it had no malicious intent but it really hurt me bad in many ways.
This person is a family member and I do love them. But no matter how hard I try, whenever I am with this person, I can still feel the rage when thinking of the past. I forgive them for my own sake. But I am split between wanting to be in a relationship and just distancing myself. We used to be really tight but I just can’t look at them the same.
Thanks for reading.
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Not only no, but hell no. I do not forgive betrayal. Ever.
But then, I also don’t have many friends so that may not be the best position to take.
Nope. I cut out all the toxic people years ago even if they never betrayed me and regret nothing.
You mention family member. Took me 40+ years to truly accept my little brother will always be a self centered POS and will always take advantage of any situation even when I am down. Sometimes just for his own entertainment. I always forgave or forgot because we’re brothers.
This year was the final FU straw and I said enough is enough. So yes I have and I wasted a lot of time attempting to remain friends. I’m extremely happy I finally reached a full no relationship zone. You go your way I go mine and I have nothing left to say to you ever.
As far as friends go, in my experience, once a POS always a POS. They may hide it for a bit but when something similar happens their same behavior will repeat. Not worth the time, people will people.
You’re still young and maybe it was a one off. When people show their true colors tend to believe that’s them.