I love all my friends but I do not like some of their partners. Typical hate reasons being they’re racist, homophobic, serial cheaters, or trying to make your friend sign their name on the lease to an illegal drug house… I have very strong friendships with these women and will continue to love & support them but I make it known when I think a partner is trash
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It depends. I’m cordial with all of them, but some I don’t jive with. It’s not worth my energy being hung up on it. All relationships have pros/cons.
I’m sure my partners friends sometimes think I’m too much or extra or not the best at times, but they are all respectful to me so that’s all that matters.
All of them except for one, yeah.
I can’t think of any I don’t like. Even the one who is clearly bad for her is really nice, just not a good relationship match.
None of my friends have signed onto illegal drug homes for their partners
Most of my friends’ husbands are fine. Great guys who I get along with really well. There is one who posts very cringe political opinions on FB and I don’t like him but the others are fine.
My former best friend’s partner was unimaginably rude to me the first time we met and she did not defend me. He never did anything to redeem himself. She later cut me off for reasons she made up in her head (I had receipts!) and one of the best things about that was not having to see this guy any more.
Mostly yeah. If I end up disliking a friend’s partner, the friendship usually ends up fading. Like, if your husband is going to consistently be a combination pervy, loud, and wrong, then I don’t care about the few moments he’s charming. Not only does HE suck, YOU suck for tolerating a man speaking to your friend that way.
Mostly, yeah, and a few have become equally close friends 🙂
I really dislike one friend’s partner, to the point that it has impacted how I see my friend. I don’t make a big deal out of it though, I just see her less.
Most of them yes, but there are 2 that we don’t like. They actually don’t even like their own husbands but they feel stuck because of finances and kids.
Rarely like their partners, have had some pretty terrible experiences trying to tolerate them / support my friends choices….
I’ve learned (the hard way) that I can’t and won’t be that friend that pretends everything is fine in front of your shitty bf who is actively making your life worse or negatively impacting your mental, emotional, and physical health. I’ve tried radically accepting people’s partners but it ended up being unhealthy for me and the friendship so it’s a no for me now…
I won’t play dumb to make them feel comfortable or enable their bullshit when I’m around. I won’t sugar coat the red flags I see or validate you for staying in an abusive or toxic situation. I’m a compassionate patient person but I need strong boundaries with friends who engage in toxic dynamics.
The ones I do like are supportive, respectful, and actively improving my friend’s lives. They’re a true partner not an emotionally immature child or a constant source of stress. Sadly for most of my friends that’s rare.
I like 75% of them, tolerate maybe another 20%, and then there’s that remaining 5% who are like 1-2 people whose guts I absolutely cannot stand because they fucking suuuck.
(On the bright side, both of these women know their husbands suck so they basically never force any of their girl friends to actually deal with them.)
Damn, yeah I do. Absolutely none of them are anywhere near what you describe! The worst is usually that I find them a little too boring for my friend.
I’m cordial with most of them. I think I am around a group of girls who did the work to not be so messy anymore so we got mostly solid relationships in the group. Reasons why I don’t lkke them are more small and not because they’re an awful and unsafe person.
Out of them though my one friends husband is my favorite so we tend to double date with them. But my besties wife I would consider also my friend and I miss them also when I haven’t seen them in a while.
I like the majority as people.
As partners, I’d be lying if I said I didn’t see most of them as millstones around my friends’ necks.
I love my friends partners in a friendship setting, they’re all good people, but I think most of them are sub-par partners to my friends (admittedly I think majority of women are too good for their male partners).
There are a few that I don’t necessarily enjoy spending time around or care to get to know better than I already have. It helps that I see my friends during the day while their partner is working.
It really depends. But yes generally I do like my closest friends’ partners, with some exceptions. They’re not necessarily all close friends to me (though some are).
My best friend has a habit of dating… the absolute worst men. I have pretty much hated all of them, with glaring red flags coming out immediately (and we live across the country from one another so it’s not like I see/meet these people for very long). It’s rough. We’ve had many conversations about this and about her trying to pick better partners since inevitably all these relationships end terribly… but at the end of the day she is her own person and makes her own choices. It’s hard to watch though.
Being supportive while honest is hard sometimes.
I really like one of my friend’s husband. Her ex boyfriend though, was a piece of shit. I made it known. It really affected our friendship in a big negative way. Thankfully she got out and her husband now is wonderful though and I make that known as well.
My friends who are trash (liars, cheaters) have (rightfully) insecure partners. They are unbearable. Everyone else yes.
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