For starters I’m 24 black male I’m 6ft 184 pounds and in good shape . I constantly feel lonely. I constantly feel like I’m inferior or an outcast . I’ve never been loved by a woman and my own mother was a dead beat . I’m very shy and introverted but I feel verily lonely and it’s killing me on the inside. I just want a hug a how are you doing text a hey I was just thinking about you but I receive nothing . It’s getting to the point where I’m not afraid to die and I actively ask god why are black men cursed especially black men that weren’t raised to be ghetto and to speak proper. I wake up everyday of my life and tell my self another day of hell . My parents never call me and neither do my siblings I’m very suicidal and when I die I’ll be forgotten because I’m black and unwanted. Woman have it so much easier when it comes to dating and being cared about I have mostly sisters and I seen them get in and out of relationships while me as a black man it’s hard to just live life to breath
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Hey. How are you doing? What kind of music you listen to?
Pm me bro! We’re the same exact height and weight!
I’m so sorry that you are experiencing this🖤 here are some websites that may be helpful
https://blackmenheal.org/
You won’t be forgotten. You matter. If you’re looking for somewhere to meet new people.
Personally volleyball leagues/open gyms have given me a good place to make friends bc of the teamwork/communication necessary to play
https://www.ybmenproject.com/
While I cannot directly feel what you feel I understand how it must feel, I was also a weird kid, and I was ostracized due to that I tried fitting in but I stoped as it made me feel like I was being a liar. Hopefully you find friend that can make you feel like you are being listened to 🙂
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Going off what they said you do matter and you are important. You may have already done this but if you have some interests and google the area where you live googling like that has been helpful for me just finding orgs maybe groups meetup app is helpful and finding people your age you can vibe connect with instagram is helpful to find local orgs as well . That can help you feel supported. Sometimes just cold emailing an org and being like hey this is what I’m looking for can you help point me in the write direction of finding a group or what ever it may be your looking for ppl can be helpful.
Also have you told your family how you feel ? if you haven’t maybe talk with them about it if yall are close like that.
I promise, when you learn to love yourself and love people in spite of the pain they hold and bring, love in all forms will find you. Friendships, romances, found family, just please know that your worth extends to the very core of your being. You are worth so much as a human, as a living being, but also for all the unique experiences you’ve had as a young black man!!! You bring your own unique perspective to the world around you, your perspective is important! You will find other people who are like you and just want to love people and be loved back. Just keep chugging along little train, just keep chugging. The desert is vast, but it is always surrounded by SOMETHING. There are edges to your pain and loneliness. There are things beyond this pit of despair you find yourself in. The more you fight to want to have a good life, the more life listens. Just keep fighting for the life you want!!!
SENDING YOU THE BIGGEST HUGS!!!!! You sound like the sweetest, sweetest man. Everyone else is missing out not seeing all the love and light you have to give. It’s so so clear in just this post alone. All I can recommend is to just hold on. You are still just so so young! and thank you for sharing such a vulnerable moment with the rest of us. It’ll all feel better soon<3
message me bro, i’d be happy to talk to you whenever
What are your hobbies?
Cry about it. You’re not going through anything tons of other people are.
Hey man, I’m really sorry you’re feeling like this. I just want to say you’re not alone, even if it feels that way right now. Life can be brutally isolating, especially when you’re trying your best and still feel invisible. What you’re feeling is real and valid being strong doesn’t mean you don’t hurt. I know it’s hard to believe when you’re deep in it, but your life matters. You matter. Please reach out to a therapist or support group if you can it can make a difference. And if you ever just need someone to talk to, people do care, even strangers on the internet. Keep holding on, even just a little at a time.
First off best wishes to you, hope things get better for you and you realize that you matter. But as a black man myself don’t ever say being a black man sucks. I’m only a few years older than you but I’m considered a younger millennial/zillenial and this anti-black sentiment seems to be creeping into your generation more and more and it’s quite pathetic imo. I know too many black men who’ve come from similar dysfunctional familial backgrounds and even worse situations in general who’ve persevered. You yourself stated that you’re tall and in good shape so this thing about not being able to get women sounds like you spend too much time on the internet watching lames like fresh and fit and now you’re stuck in your head. There are black guys that aren’t tall, not in good shape, that speak proper and aren’t ghetto like you said that still manage to find female companionship. Sorry I didn’t send you the same sentimental comments as everyone else but reading this and parts of it just erked me. Your family situation aside, which I hope you get past you don’t seem to be having a rough life and wallowing in self pity isn’t going to help you at all. Be blessed and remember you can change your life around and be in a much better space mentally but if you let the negativity cloud your brain you’ll never get to experience what that looks like.
You got this pal. Hit the gym. Strike up a conversation with someone at the gym. Life will get better!
It will get better , I just know you are a handsome, strong independent black man and that right there is wonderful in its self once you really see and feel it . Im praying for nothing but greatness for you brother ✊🏾✊🏾shoot me a dm when ever you wanna talk I’m here for you 💯
I can’t really relate to what you’re going through but I really hope you’re able to heal. Do you like games? Maybe you could find a group to play with. Roleplaying games have really helped me cope with my ptsd, as has writing. Those can be ways to find community too.
You are still quite young and able to make meaningful connections. The world can be a very lonely place and making friends is hard, it’s a truth that isn’t talked about enough. You should figure out what hobbies you like and choose a few to dive into, see who else nearby has them in common.
What part of the world are you in?
I thought women like black dudes?