I really don’t like the idea of this but also don’t want to be a prude. It seems so disrespectful to me. I am ok with pretty much any other place, but why the face? He asked me to think about it. I am sorry if this isn’t the right sub to be asking this question and apologize if this offends anyone.
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It’s porn
Honestly this would be a question to ask your hubby. I’d also explain you find it disrespectful and you’re ok with any other place. We don’t know exactly what he’s thinking.
Not sure if this is just a personal thing but I think it’s a turn on. But if you don’t like it just tell him. I’m sure he’ll be ok especially since you said anywhere else is fine.
Territorial marking.
Maybe it’s one of this fantasies. Everyone has their fantasy.
Dominance, really.
If you find it disrespectful though, let him know, and that stops the conversation dead in it’s tracks. If you’re not comfortable with something you’re not comfortable!
I knew a guy once who wanted to come on like my forehead and my glasses and s***.. it’s sometimes weird where guys want to come it’s like they just pick a random part of your body or want to hit all of the parts of your body eventually
Number one turn off for me is when my partner is not into whatever we’re doing. I’d hope your partner also would not want to do anything you don’t want to do. Cumming on the face is certainly a thing porn normalizes, seems pretty gross and pointless to me.
It could be so many things, that maybe asking him to be more direct is better. Maybe he respects you but has a degrading kink, maybe sex got a bit too much routine and he wants to change things up, maybe he just wants to come somewhere different and anywhere else would scratch that itch, etc. Just ask!
Motivations are specific to the individual. Most likely he’s been seeing it in porn forever and something he wants to try, maybe he’s extra attracted to sluttness. A good number of men to different degrees enjoy a level of dominance or very minor levels of sadistic. Either lean into it or tell him no if it’s really a no go. Half measures will make both of you unhappy in my experience. Talk to him maybe it is something like sluttness he just wants and you can find different ways to add some flair.
He watches too much porn
It’s a common misconception from watching porn videos, and looking at pictures. They think it’s something they’ll enjoy doing, but in most cases it’s just not like they imagined. It’s usually successful when both parties are engaged in said act, but even still it’s just not what they thought.
It’s a weird porn thing. I would never want to treat my wife like that. That’s just me
Not wanting jizz on your face does not make you a prude. It’s honestly pretty gross in practical application. I’ve never understood busting off on a chick. I’ve done it before, not on the face, but I’ve never specifically wanted to. It was actually done as requested. As a person who has watched a lot of spicy content I’ve found that most things are better to watch than do. I’d also be afraid that I would get that shit in her eye and screw her vision up.
“Too much porn” mfers in this thread thinking humans had exclusively straight missionary porn for thousands of years until the invention of the internet lmao
I’m answering as a woman who enjoys when my husband does this, but I think men like when you like their come. It’s hot when you’re turned on by their orgasm and their come, and it’s hot when you want it on your body, especially the most delicate, vulnerable places, like your face.
Lots of men watch porn as if it is some kind of instructional video.
Ask him. It’s usually a domination degrading thing. Like you said it’s disrespectful but some people really like that aspect of it.
It’s because your Husband has a porn addiction.
Why the face? Because porn shows men ejaculating on women’s faces while they smile & enjoy it. If that’s not your idea of a good time, then shut it down. If you’re curious, go for it.
My wife’s face is beautiful and sexy and generally what I think of when I think of her. Seeing it covered in cum is just so unbelievably sexy to me, and sometimes when she’s all done up and we’re out and about it just turns me on so much knowing I’ve cum on that beautiful face before and it makes me want her more. There is definitely a submissive aspect involved, like she is letting me cover her public face (literally) in something naughty and private. Hot.
I did it accidentally once when she was giving me a HJ , it shot out and it went in her eye, she said it stung like fuck, so probably best to leave it to the porn actors who get paid to get jizzed in the face
I hate the porn comments
Hey so I 32F actually enjoy this and have since I was younger before I ever saw it in porn. It is not for every one though! I enjoy it because its a whole power play for me and it’s fun for me and my partner. We also typically shower together after too. I equate it to me cumming on his face when I ride his face. If you do it here are some key factors to discuss
-what do you hope to get out of it?
-describe the fantasy to me
-he needs to let you know when he will cum. Seman in the eye is painful and will cause an inflammatory response. Close your eyes (this is if you do it)
-you get to set expectations as well. I would suggest that if you are on your knees when he finishes he at a baseline gets you a towel before he cleans himself up. Mine will typically just help stand, tak me to the shower, get me in and then helps wash my face and hair. Remember aftercare is huge with any degrading tasks (and cum on the face counts) advocate for your needs!
Male here who has this kink.
For me, personally it is NOT about humiliating or degrading you (the woman). It’s a little bit dominant, a little bit validating, and a little bit old school “rooooooar you are my female”. I also am not a complete animal, always try to avoid up the nose/eyes/hair. There’s just something about the around the mouth area finish that is just so wild.
For me conversely, I enjoy after going down on my wife how her wetness is around my mouth. As the giver there I take pride in the satisfaction I gave, and the natural reaction that occurs as a result.
Man, I on the other hand have asked my boyfriend to cum on my face and he won’t because it’s too disrespectful. Can’t win em all.
Just tell him you aren’t into it, he should respect that!
Do you wear glasses by chance?
That’s usually the why given to me 😅
Personally, getting semen in my eyes or up my nose, is not enjoyable. When you are able to wipe it off, it’s cold and goopy.
That being said, I’ll occasionally allow it, because my partners do things for me that they wouldn’t otherwise do for other people.
Probably because hubby watches porn featuring people cumming on faces. Likely had his sexual awakening to facial porn. It has basically become the standard porn-scene ending over the last 20 years, is normalized to him and that’s what he expects/turns him on.
Porn induced fantasy
As a man I’m personally not into it and I can see why some women aren’t either. I don’t think there is any particular reason why he wants it other than it literally gets him off I guess. As some others stated, seeing my partner not enjoying themselves with what we’re doing is not worth it to me.
He’s been watching porn
You’re not a prude and of course you have the right to refuse: it is disrespectful and humilliating, we’re just desensitized to it because of porn exposure, where humilliation of women is normalised and in many cases an important part of the appeal. It is almost cliché to come on a woman’s face in hetero porn, just like calling her a “bitch”, a “whore”, etc.
If you don’t like it, communicate clearly and establish that line with your husband. Sex must never include any practice that doesn’t feel good for all partners involved.
Blame the Internet
It’s my partner’s thing too. It’s a sign of trust, in my opinion. It’s pretty mellow compared to other fetishes. Try it out. My relationship with my partner has gotten strong/closer since we started doing this.
The decision is yours. COMMUNICATION with your partner is key to anything with sex and relationships.
As a guy, I honestly don’t know. It’s never appealed to me. I think it might be something to do with ownership, with a sprinkling of degradation, but I’m not sure.
It’s an odd one, at least from my perspective.
It’s a sexy way regrading someone you love.
Because its dirty and degrading so it shows how willing you are to please him.
Ownership. A sense of complete surrender.
My guess is he saw it while watching porn and now thinks you’d react the way the porn star was paid to react. It IS disrespectful and demeaning. It’s also a power move on the man’s part. That’s why it shows up in porn. I personally wouldn’t do it.
Because he saw it in porn.
He has seen too much porn.
Because men have been seeing it in porn since day 1 of looking at naughty things on the Internet
After seeing your post history, do you think he might not respect you much?
Guys jissing on girls face when they come is a porno thing. No girls like it and most guys don’t do this.
I do not enjoy this. I think it’s an idea they get from porn. I am a firm believer in not doing something you don’t like
Depends, but if he continues to insist after you tell him it is unpleasant or degrading to you then it’s pretty safe to assume the degrading and unpleasantness is the point.
Whether you’re down to clown like that is up to you. Some dudes don’t know ‘play’ time from ‘lovemaking’ time though. So.
If you don’t like it and feel disrespected or degraded by it, then the answer is no and he should accept that.
Bear in mind, you can try and still say no afterward. Just like you can say no now and change your mind later. Consent can be given and taken away. It’s not a lifetime contract.
Half the comments on this thread be like “It should have been me!!”
Likely cuz he saw it on porn and thinks it’s what he’s supposed to do
Say no if you don’t want to do it.
Because of porn. If you don’t want it, don’t do it.
Men like it because it’s degrading
As a guy it’s fun “marking” your territory
As a man who enjoys doing this with a wife who also half enjoys it on occasion, you know what turns me on the most? Doing what makes my wife get hot.
Do no do anything you don’t want to do. Period. Maybe try it once if you’re open, but sex has to deliver mutual enjoyment.
My ex wanted to do this often. I wanted him to be happy but also feel like it isn’t the most comfortable, especially when it gets in my hair. But I still let him do it from time to time as a sort of treat 😂
Because (I think) he loves you and wants to tag you as his property. In a good way, and in context.
Because us men like it lol, try it once, if you like it let him do it, if u don’t then let him know u don’t like it and would not do it the next time
Ask him why he likes. He is your husband, not ours.
Also remember you have a right to say NO.
I personally would never let him cum on Face
And im into some weird shit in bed.
I love doing this. Nothing says that the female loves you like enjoying this particular sex act.
Didn’t see myself getting into this much detail on a Monday morning, but I love my wife’s fluids on my face. Something seems more sensual with the fluids on my lips than lets say on my arm. Something about her giving me something of hers that is now inside me. On the flip side I could see me wanting to give her something, but I wouldn’t pressure her into it. To kind of add to why….you said anywhere except the face because it is disrespectful. What makes it disrespectful only there? I’m not disagreeing with you, but maybe in his mind it means something different than disrespect? Just explain yourself to him…and have him explain himself to you. I mean you two are married so…that’s kind of what married people should do?
People get conditioned into it from porn. Thats the answer for a lot of things
He been watching some porn lately for sure
He watches too much porn.
Hmm as a dude I find it slightly disrespectful to do that. That’s just my opinion though
simple, if you don’t want to do it then don’t do it
Ego boost.
Communication is the key! Sexual fantasies are only better if your partner is turned on by them too. Not all his sexual fantasies will resonate with you and vice versa. Discuss, experiment if you are open to trying them but don’t ever do something that you dislike.
They have seen it in porn.
It’s a act seen in a lot of porn, also it is a dominant act , if you are not comfortable , he should respect that , if not , tell him you want to get a strap on and fuck him in the ass
Porn I think. Tell him to aim for the neck,it’s pretty much just as fun
It’s not that he wants you to do it necessarily it’s that he wants you to want it.
Idk but he cheated on you so don’t let him. He doesn’t respect you, don’t allow him to degrade you this way.
OP, it’s your face, your choice. But please give your husband credit for asking you and respecting your decision.
You should know that, as some others have said, men do find this exciting. I know I do. But men find it exciting to do all sorts of things, and that doesn’t mean you have to oblige.
Remember that men are very visual when it comes to sex and arousal, whereas women tend to be more touch and sound centered.
You can look into your own reasons for not wanting this. Other parts of the body are fine, but not the face…. is it about getting it in your eyes, hair, or mouth? Did you have a bad experience with a previous partner? Is it the taboo-ness of it? Then, ask yourself if that’s all reasonable to you or if there’s something that would make allowing this act comfortable and/or fun for you. Does knowing your husband loves you and finds you exciting make you want to test boundaries together? Are there things YOU want to try with him? (PS. Do NOT answer these here. I don’t really want to know, these are between you and your husband. And your husband doesn’t really need to know all of this.)
If you take the time to examine your feelings about this, and then have a frank and honest discussion with him about it, you may come to some reasonable compromise. Neck and under the chin, or not in the eyes. You may find your unease about getting cum on your face changes over time.
Its the dirtiness and taboo nature of it that does it for me and my fiancee
Why aren’t you asking him? This is a personal preference of his and you’re asking strangers. How can you get his answer from anyone but him?
I love when my partner is turned on or satisfied. If it is a safe space and you allow yourself to be vulnerable with one another. It can be fun. My partner still talks about the moment I let him do it. It’s been months!
Here’s an idea, tell him he can cum anywhere he wants on you just not the face. Bring it up the next time y’all are going to town.
Hubby: “Babe, I’m gonna cum”
You: “Cum anywhere you want baby, just not the face”
Alternatively maybe finish in your mouth?
I don’t have too much experience with this but there’s gotta be some common ground in the dispute.
Classic porn related kink
Porn fantasies drove your husband crazy.
Is he still standing, hard and waiting while you think about it?
My wife likes it when I do this, she likes to feel “used” occasionally. It usually goes along with dirty talk throat fucking and anal. Its not an every day thing, usually a once in a while thing. It’s something to do to mix it up.
Be a proud prude
A crude prude
Why are women obsessed with home decor? I don’t know we just built different
Because he watches too much porn
Speaking only from my own experience here, but I’ve wanted to do it with my girlfriend for quite a while (we’ve already tried but I missed her face every time, you can’t make this shit up) and personally it’s not about degradation. I just think it caters to the base instinct of getting your semen into/on your partner and the fact it is visually appealing adds to the hotness. It’s kinda like a creampie but more rooted in sight than physical feelings.
Honestly as a gay man I’ve had it done to me once deliberately and I felt degraded.
They call it the money shot in porn.
If they come on your face by accident that is one thing:
I think coming on your face is like an ownership thing a dominance thing.
If you don’t like it then speak up otherwise you will feel degraded
I had a friend that would say the most misogynistic shit but also would say shit like “I’ll never ask my wife to suck my dick cuz that’s disrespectful”
Hubby watches too much porn.
I was told by several guy friends they like it because it feels like they are marking their territory, so that might be true for others
Degradation. And/or power trip.
probably because he saw that in porn and it turns him on
My husband likes cumin on things he’s looking at that makes him cum. Take it as a compliment that he wants to look at your face because your face makes him cum and therefore cum gets landed there lol
It’s a bit of a Dom fantasy thing. I admit that I have thought about doing it, but ultimately for me it just seems disrespectful. It’s done in porn a lot (so I’ve heard)… so that’s where he is probably gettin the idea. If you don’t like it, tell him not to do it. Period.
If it does happen – protect your eyes! A female friend of mine got pinkeye from… ya know. It wasn’t me!
Its just fun for me sometimes i pull out and cum on my wifes glasses but its kida game to see how far i can shoot it
Have we as a society outgrown the term hubby yet
In my experience, for many men, it’s a turn on because they find you attractive, pure — or whatever — and cumming on your face is a corruption of that. Some guys might just want to do it because they’ve seen it in porn or something or it plays into whatever role they prefer in sex. In the sense of the former, their respect and love for you may be why they want to do it, ironically.
A lot of women, too, like being on the receiving end of it and that will be tied to some sort of kink for them or will play into the role they prefer for sex.
That being said, if you don’t like it and don’t feel comfortable doing it for your husband then tell him how you feel about it and discuss it.
Hope you guys can work it out!
He probably watches too much porn
Ugh my ex pressured me into letting him do this, it got in my eye and in my hair. -10/10 experience, would not recommend. Stay firm with your boundaries, if he keeps pushing it warrants a serious talk
Because he views you as an object
Do NOT get it in your eye dear. It stings
You are doing it wrong think different
Disrespect and degradation during sex are and should be meaningless. It stays in the bedroom and shouldn’t change anything in real life between you two. Get over it and have way more fun in the bedroom (if you trust the other person). You gotta turn the burn off and let the horny u lead.
Because he loves you
Talk to.him and express your concerns and then based on his reaction go from there