I currently have a girlfriend and my female friendly recently reached out to me and asked me if I would want to go to a party with a party, but was very careful to preface that there would be alcohol, just as a heads up if that made me feel uncomfortable in any way, also asking if my girlfriend would be okay with me going to such event. I responded and told her that my girlfriend would be okay with me going to a party without her, but I declined the invitation. I did not tell my friend friend this for the sake of my girlfriend’s privacy, but I was worried that me going to a party with just my female friend, especially one with alcohol, would make my girlfriend uncomfortable and I did not want to even remotely stress her out, so I declined the invitation despite wanting to go. At the time of the party, my girlfriend was 90 miles away, so my friend was not trying to exclude my girlfriend or isolate me. In addition to this, because I declined the invitation, I did not tell my girlfriend that I was invited to the party at all, as I did not want to make her feel uncomfortable. Was my decision to decline based on my girlfriend’s comfort a healthy decision or should I feel entitled to accept these invitations while still being open and communicative with my girlfriend? I am unsure if my behavior is correct.
Can I go a party without my girlfriend that my female friend invited me to?
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It seems like you have your head screwed on correctly. you are aware that by going to this particular party, one that your girlfriend wasnt invited to, may possibly hurt her feelings. Congratulations on being a good person.
I don’t say what I’m about to say for shit- and giggles 🙃.. but genuinely, I think you should go! OP
So many times that I was afraid to go out with the boys.. just bec. “My wife said NO- I mean- read that line one more time, She said No to me” and that I wasn’t allowed.. because she said so.
It stopped when I went anyway.
Rebellious obvious.
And I don’t regret it ever today.
I refused to be some knee dog listening obeying to her.
That can sound rude maybe in a way.
I wasn’t some dumb douchebag to her, but as she said I suffered our relationship and all that.. like, yeah.
Excuse my rant..
But, no- u should go!
Have fun- life’s to short otherwise.
Why can’t you take your girlfriend?
why not just tell your gf you’re going to a party and enjoy yourself?
if you can’t trust yourself, or think your gf will have a problem with you enjoying life in her absence then you probably need to think on things.