I know this might sound ridiculous to some people, but it’s honestly starting to mess with my head. My husband and I have been married for 5 years, and every single time he realizes I’ve pooped, he has to make a comment. Every. Time.
I’ve tried everything—air freshener, opening the window, even using the other bathroom in the house—but he always notices. And instead of just… moving on like a normal adult, he says something like “gross” or “that’s so unattractive.” It’s gotten so bad that I literally avoid going in my own home. I try to only go at work, which is insane, because it’s my house too and I should be comfortable here.
Tonight, I had a bad case of indigestion. I was already uncomfortable, and instead of asking if I was okay or just leaving me alone, he made another comment. He always asks if I “have to go number 2” the moment I walk toward the bathroom, and I’ve started just saying “yes” out of spite. He still says “gross” every single time.
I’ve told him it’s hurtful. That this is a normal human function. That it’s honestly not okay to make someone feel disgusting for having a body that works. But he doesn’t stop. And the worst part is, I know he means it. He’s not joking. He actually thinks it’s disgusting that I go to the bathroom like any other human being.
I don’t know what to do anymore. I feel so disrespected in my own home. Just needed to vent somewhere because it’s starting to really affect how I see myself.
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make eye contact and when he makes his comment let it rip . Maintain eye contact
Divorce or couples counseling. Dude needs to grow up and you don’t deserve that treatment.
Your husband is a bad husband
Tell him he is a pussy and needs to grow up
What the actual fuck?! Why would he do that?! I would get it if you walk around farting 24/7 and being impossible to be around, but something as natural as going to the toilet? Nah, that is far from normal to shame someone about.
Either he is an imature person who needs to grow up, he is trying to make your shit sound worse than his because he for some reason is insicure, or he is into some freeky shit (pun intended).
I really really can’t see why else an adult man would say and do something like that, and to his wife of all people?!
That is horrible. Your husband is immature and doesn’t respect you or care about you. I would leave or kick him out
Meanwhile I talk about how big my dump was with my boyfriend or that I only had to wipe once. Your husband sucks and this is clearly on purpose. You’re not doing anything excessive or unnatural and he’s shaming you.
It’s probably not the best way to deal with this, but I’d just start doing the same
He’s on the toilet? Go in after him, smell, say “gross” and spray a whole can of aur freshener
He says he has to go? Say “thats gross, i need fresh air” and once he’s done use the air freshener
My advice is divorce and find a man that does not belittle you over things. This will go more south and escalate to other things Your hubby has mental issues. As you live together longer he will pick at you for a lot of minor things such as chewing too loud. Dump him move on. Better to waste 5 yrs instead of looking back at this moment and have wasted 25 yrs
Get him the children’s book, “Everybody Poops”
If he’s gonna act like a child, treat him like one. Stand UP for yourself.
I would leave over this. He’s not going to change, and things won’t get better
Please do this to him every time he goes to the bathroom while you set up to leave him.
This is emotional abuse and it will not stop and possibly move on to encompass other things. Have you considered leaving him? His actions are extremely immature.
You are married to a man child.
Why are you married to a man with the same mentality and understanding of human bodies as you’d expect from a 10yo?
He think woman don’t poop lol same as guys think woman don’t fart. As a test, Fart in front of him until he gets comfortable with it. If he doesn’t then he will be too of a high maintenance job of you. And tbh I will leave such a guy. Later on in life he will see/hear way worse than just poop. We are human, we get disgusting at times.
My ex did the same thing, but thankfully, not all the time. It made me so mad, like, was I supposed to make it smell nice somehow for his convenience?
My mother does this to me and did it my entire childhood. I’ve never met another adult who behaves this way around people pooping normally.
I don’t have advice to offer other than you behaving similarly to him, but it sounds exhausting to actually behave this way.
Is your husband by chance nine years old?? If so, I’m calling the cops
Your husband is disgusted by women and wants to date men. He hates women. If I were you that’s exactly what I would tell him every time. I’d start not flushing and leaving poop stains in the bowl when I do flush. No spray. I’d come out of the bathroom saying DAMN THAT WAS THE GREATEST SHIT. also start making a fuss about all his farts and poops. Ask him if he washed his hands after handling his dick when he pisses and when he says no call him disgusting cheese dick and refuse to get into bed until he washes his hands.
This may be why I have no healthy relationships though🤣 this made me so angry for you I can’t help it
Unfortunately you married a little boy. Women know how to make life uncomfortable for a man. Don’t fix him any food, no sex, public embarrassment, etc. He deserves a taste of his own medicine. Make fun of his toilet habits too. Next time he comments, just slap the shit out of him and say, “I told you to stop so many times!” I bet he never says another word when he remembers the searing hot sting of your slap. Sometimes people don’t hear words and you gotta wake them up. You’re so frustrated that I think you can pull it off!!
Throw the whole man out