I never really thought about it until I found myself without any close friends later in life. It used to be so effortless back in school, and only now do I realize how different and challenging it becomes as we grow older.
Finding normal friends as an adult who relocated. The times I’ve gotten close to people it has ended up CRAZY. I’ve had two different women I’ve connected with for a few months and then one told me about her wild life of crime and scandal ( this wasn’t the dealbreaker, she was using me for free childcare to live this wild life with money her husband scammed people out of.) The other tried to bait my husband to hit on her and include us in their weird jealousy kink that her husband has. We are all married with kids.
Silver lining- I’m grateful for my boring life and excellent husband. Id just like a nice compatible girlfriend to go get dinner or have some wine maybe 2x a month. At 39, this is not easy.
Drawing.
When I watch other people draw or paint, it often looks so effortless. But when I sit down to do it myself, I realize just how much knowledge and skill it takes to create a good picture.
Sex, I decided to try to be my husband just for shits and giggles once. I tried the motions basically on a pillow and was taking it seriously because I wanted to see if I could do it… Idk how they do it, every muscle in my body was on fire and my husband was laughing so hard he choked and couldn’t breathe.
Kayaking.
It looks easy but it is very demanding on your abdominal and back muscles. So if you don’t have well trained core muscles, it can get pretty darned tough after a while.
Raising the power level of an RBMK reactor quickly when the core has been poisoned by xenon gas and my assistants have left than 4 weeks experience, and decide to shut it down instead with the Az5 shutdown scram switch.
Snow boarding… An advanced skier for 30+ years and my son was just learning. Thought we could be beginners together. Fell on my ass more times in one morning than in 30+ years of skiing!
Running social media for a brand – I thought it was just posting cool content, but it’s a constant grind of strategy, timing, engagement, and analytics. Way more complex than I expected.
Learning a language. I’m having much more success with it lately, but each time I tried before I gave up, and it’s the same language. I refuse to give up this time.
Riding a bicycle on an actual street full of people. I never learnt to ride as a child, but always wanted to. I got my bicycle at the age of 37 (last year) and learned to ride it in our enormous basement parking lot. But the moment I take it out to ride outside, I panic and get down immediately.
Writing on a cake. I worked the bakery at Walmart. I was the bread lady because I couldn’t do it. And I have some artistic talent.
A couple of hours before closing I would be alone. So many people insisted they could do it themselves.
Maybe three out of fifty looked decent. I warned them. I offered them parchment paper to try it on first. Most people were cool about the disaster they created, lol
The people who do it well just make it look so easy!
I occasionally teach at my job and it’s not the public speaking part that I find difficult , it’s making sure I explain things in a way that other people understand.
New students are hard in their own way but teaching career professionals have more experience than me is especially challenging.
Having money. Growing up you didn’t worry about any of that stuff. Kinda took the house you lived in, car you rode in, food you ate for granted. It’s a long journey to figure out how to have money in adulthood.
Driving. People cutting you, not using their turn signal, trying to pass you in dangerous places, not doing their stop, tailgating you when the road is icy AF…it’s not driving in itself that’s hard, it’s driving surrounded by dangerous idiots.
Gardening. It seems so simple. Seed, ground, water, sun. Yeahhhhh, the amount of curveballs thrown at you. All the factors, keeping things alive while they fruit and flower. The ph, amendments, scaffolding, soil management, disease& fungus, pests, too much sun, too little sun, too much water, too little water, this plant likes to be solitary, this one likes to be crowded, and it just goes on and on. But I love it.
pilates. i thought bc i do yoga it should be a fairly easy transition.
I have never had any interest in ballet but my instructor (at least seems to be) trained and after witnessing how strong she is- I have a whole new respect for the athleticism. Even if I do not understand the art. To have that much control over your movements is insanely impressive.
Fencing is not easy. I tried it once, and sweating in a helmet was miserable I can’t see shit, and I’m trying to stab idk where, with sweat dripping in my eye. Never again.
Doing a boot camp at the Y with a bunch of young house wives. I was a 30 year old male on a hospital schedule and signed up Weds afternoon. I literally puked my guts up after the second class. The box stepping ladies weren’t even sweating. Kind of embarrassing really
Executing anything consistently over years. We feel as though we aren’t achieving our goals because we aren’t using the “secret hacks” or “sophisticated techniques that the pros don’t want you to know” but sometimes something as simple as a walking everyday for a year is more valuable than sprinting 5K once a month.
I think I stopped thinking things were “easy” a very long time ago, I remember wanting to learn how to drive a power boat when I was a teen, don’t know what gave me the confidence lol.
Parenting. Like I knew it was going to have it’s challenges but being a parent really makes you look back on your childhood and makes you feel like crap for some of the ways you chose to treat your parents growing up.
Acting. Like true, dramatic or comedic script acting. There’s a reason we see the best of the best in movies and think it’s easy. Because they’re pros. It is insanely difficult to make everything you say a genuine reaction to what another character says when you already know the lines and what’s coming.
I learned clarinet from a young age and kept with it, but picking up a different instrument like a guitar was harder than I thought it would be. It may be easier for others, but it required serious effort on my part. If you’re just starting off for the first time and trying to learn to read music (especially as an adult), I give you my kudos.
Frontflip tuck no handers on dirt jumps, had frontflips dialled and thought taking the hands off wouldn’t be that difficult as the body position for both tricks is pretty much the same. Did not end well on the first try.
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controlling your movement precisely while free falling
Adulting.
Parallel parking looked like a breeze, until I found myself doing a 12-point turn while getting judged by a line of impatient drivers..
Living alone
Cooking
Cooking
A Pilates class. Holy hell that was hard.
Making—and keeping—friends as an adult is tough.
I never really thought about it until I found myself without any close friends later in life. It used to be so effortless back in school, and only now do I realize how different and challenging it becomes as we grow older.
Finding normal friends as an adult who relocated. The times I’ve gotten close to people it has ended up CRAZY. I’ve had two different women I’ve connected with for a few months and then one told me about her wild life of crime and scandal ( this wasn’t the dealbreaker, she was using me for free childcare to live this wild life with money her husband scammed people out of.) The other tried to bait my husband to hit on her and include us in their weird jealousy kink that her husband has. We are all married with kids.
Silver lining- I’m grateful for my boring life and excellent husband. Id just like a nice compatible girlfriend to go get dinner or have some wine maybe 2x a month. At 39, this is not easy.
WHERE ARE THE NORMAL WOMEN LOL
Drawing.
When I watch other people draw or paint, it often looks so effortless. But when I sit down to do it myself, I realize just how much knowledge and skill it takes to create a good picture.
Sex, I decided to try to be my husband just for shits and giggles once. I tried the motions basically on a pillow and was taking it seriously because I wanted to see if I could do it… Idk how they do it, every muscle in my body was on fire and my husband was laughing so hard he choked and couldn’t breathe.
Dating
Kayaking.
It looks easy but it is very demanding on your abdominal and back muscles. So if you don’t have well trained core muscles, it can get pretty darned tough after a while.
Twerking
Cleaning windows and mirrors, or is it just me?
Socializing
Raising the power level of an RBMK reactor quickly when the core has been poisoned by xenon gas and my assistants have left than 4 weeks experience, and decide to shut it down instead with the Az5 shutdown scram switch.
getting older
Owning a business
Being a parent
Harmonica
Losing weight whew.
Skiing
The Dougie
BJ’s
Yoga
Studying
Golf, I don’t mean scoring holes in one, but at least being able to hit the ball.
I was really good at hockey at school, so I thought it would be a doddle, I could barely hit the ball, I was awful.
I was so bad, after eight lessons, I still couldn’t decide if I was better playing left or right-handed (I’m a lefty, but only for writing).
Plastering a wall – never, never, again, there’s a reason to pay some trades!
Making sourdough from scratch.
I saw curling on the Olympics and thought it would be fun- it’s hard AF. Especially the not falling on the ice and dying part
Exercising consistently
Relationship
Depression
Plastering. TikTok is not your friend.
Having plants
Skiing 🫠
My anxiety levels went through the roof attempting at skiing down slopes 🥲
Snowboarding. I grew up on skis and when I tried snowboarding I literally just rolled down the entire mountain like a slinky on the stairs
Sailing. Thought it was “get on a boat, grab the tiller, crack a beer and sail into the sunset.”
Nope. Not even close
Lockpicking. The Lockpicking Lawyer on YouTube makes it look so easy.
Minimum wage jobs
Therapy
Parenting
Learning a foreign language
Snow boarding… An advanced skier for 30+ years and my son was just learning. Thought we could be beginners together. Fell on my ass more times in one morning than in 30+ years of skiing!
Running social media for a brand – I thought it was just posting cool content, but it’s a constant grind of strategy, timing, engagement, and analytics. Way more complex than I expected.
Following your passion.
Trying to make your dreams come true. The realization is that not everyone can make their dreams come true.
Learning a language. I’m having much more success with it lately, but each time I tried before I gave up, and it’s the same language. I refuse to give up this time.
Marriage.
getting viral for social media content
Braiding
Riding a bicycle on an actual street full of people. I never learnt to ride as a child, but always wanted to. I got my bicycle at the age of 37 (last year) and learned to ride it in our enormous basement parking lot. But the moment I take it out to ride outside, I panic and get down immediately.
Making hashbrowns. I can make anything but can’t crisp up some hashbrowns
Acting. I’m an emotionless robot.
Playing guitar
Writing on a cake. I worked the bakery at Walmart. I was the bread lady because I couldn’t do it. And I have some artistic talent.
A couple of hours before closing I would be alone. So many people insisted they could do it themselves.
Maybe three out of fifty looked decent. I warned them. I offered them parchment paper to try it on first. Most people were cool about the disaster they created, lol
The people who do it well just make it look so easy!
Metal growl-singing.
Hard enough to do it right without destroying your vocal cords, but try to actually hit notes and pitches while doing it.
Dealing with back pain/injury pain as an adult.
Golf
Having to plan multiple meals a day, everyday
Backing up a short trailer
Marriage
Getting pregnant in your 30s.
Buying a house
Acting and singing. Wheeewie
I didnt realize how much technical those two really are. Dancing to me has always felt natural
Teaching
I occasionally teach at my job and it’s not the public speaking part that I find difficult , it’s making sure I explain things in a way that other people understand.
New students are hard in their own way but teaching career professionals have more experience than me is especially challenging.
Putting on a fitted sheet. It’s like wrestling an octopus made of cotton.
Curling. I discovered my lack of coordination was amplified on an icy surface.
Figuring out what to feed myself and my family each day
Plastering
Having money. Growing up you didn’t worry about any of that stuff. Kinda took the house you lived in, car you rode in, food you ate for granted. It’s a long journey to figure out how to have money in adulthood.
Getting out of the corporate wheel of death.
Deciding what to have for dinner every single night. It sounded easy when I was a kid…
Driving. People cutting you, not using their turn signal, trying to pass you in dangerous places, not doing their stop, tailgating you when the road is icy AF…it’s not driving in itself that’s hard, it’s driving surrounded by dangerous idiots.
Life as an adult.
Gardening. It seems so simple. Seed, ground, water, sun. Yeahhhhh, the amount of curveballs thrown at you. All the factors, keeping things alive while they fruit and flower. The ph, amendments, scaffolding, soil management, disease& fungus, pests, too much sun, too little sun, too much water, too little water, this plant likes to be solitary, this one likes to be crowded, and it just goes on and on. But I love it.
pilates. i thought bc i do yoga it should be a fairly easy transition.
I have never had any interest in ballet but my instructor (at least seems to be) trained and after witnessing how strong she is- I have a whole new respect for the athleticism. Even if I do not understand the art. To have that much control over your movements is insanely impressive.
Crip walking, and moon walking.
I seriously cannot coordinate myself to do the motions with my legs / feet. It took me YEARS to even do 2 steps into the moon walk.
Embroidery.
Looks so elegant and pretty 😍
The most time consuming, delicate, easy to tangle and stitch wrong activity I have ever done in my life!
Fencing is not easy. I tried it once, and sweating in a helmet was miserable I can’t see shit, and I’m trying to stab idk where, with sweat dripping in my eye. Never again.
GOLF
Not easy but I thought ice skating wouldn’t be as difficult as it was first time around
Doing a boot camp at the Y with a bunch of young house wives. I was a 30 year old male on a hospital schedule and signed up Weds afternoon. I literally puked my guts up after the second class. The box stepping ladies weren’t even sweating. Kind of embarrassing really
Being a good partner in a relationship. I’d seen it done wrong so many times I thought it would be a breeze. It is HARD work, inside and out.
Executing anything consistently over years. We feel as though we aren’t achieving our goals because we aren’t using the “secret hacks” or “sophisticated techniques that the pros don’t want you to know” but sometimes something as simple as a walking everyday for a year is more valuable than sprinting 5K once a month.
I have become more introverted the older I get so making friends is difficult. I feel lucky that I have had the handful that I’ve had for years.
Quitting smoking is a lot tougher than it appears to be.
I think I stopped thinking things were “easy” a very long time ago, I remember wanting to learn how to drive a power boat when I was a teen, don’t know what gave me the confidence lol.
Keeping an apartment clean. Can’t imagine a house
planking lol
any sport.
You’d think its manageable whilst watching it on tv and then you get humbled once you do play it.
Being a stay at home parent.
Parenting. Like I knew it was going to have it’s challenges but being a parent really makes you look back on your childhood and makes you feel like crap for some of the ways you chose to treat your parents growing up.
Just being an adult – as a teen, I would always get angry with my mom and say something like “Well when I grow up I’ll do whatever…
If I had only known…dang.
Acting. Like true, dramatic or comedic script acting. There’s a reason we see the best of the best in movies and think it’s easy. Because they’re pros. It is insanely difficult to make everything you say a genuine reaction to what another character says when you already know the lines and what’s coming.
Making money. There are so many billionaires in the world, which makes me think that I can be one of them
Pilates. Been lifting for 10yrs, done all kinds of sports, military, and Pilates is legit one of the hardest things I’ve done haha
Learning a musical instrument.
I learned clarinet from a young age and kept with it, but picking up a different instrument like a guitar was harder than I thought it would be. It may be easier for others, but it required serious effort on my part. If you’re just starting off for the first time and trying to learn to read music (especially as an adult), I give you my kudos.
Frontflip tuck no handers on dirt jumps, had frontflips dialled and thought taking the hands off wouldn’t be that difficult as the body position for both tricks is pretty much the same. Did not end well on the first try.
Loving yourself & having confidence/self-esteem.
Drilling into brick.
With Bosch masonry bits and an Harbor Freight drill.
Snowboarding
Everything
Guitar. It’s just six strings. How hard can it be?
Parenting
making music. 3 years in, still got a lot to learn