I’m a first time homeowner (19) and I live with my boyfriend . The trash truck comes Thursday morning. (As I’m typing it’s Monday night)I have one trash can. The neighbors in question have two. Our trash cans usually stayed together where the trash truck comes in the alley between our houses. Sometimes they’d put trash in my can , and It would get full sooner, so in turn I’d put a bag in theirs, it was fine. Well, clearly they didn’t think so because about 2 days ago they moved both their trash cans inside their fence. (Side note: My trash bags are all black and theirs are white, that’s how I know the difference) tonight I noticed two white trashbags in my trash can when there is clearly no room for them. With days left until the trash is picked up, I set the trash bags leaning against my fence with note asking them to take back their trash , explaining I have no room, and that I don’t mind if they put a bag in mine that last night if I have room and they don’t,as long as the trash is coming the next morning. And also apologizing and stating I’m not trying to be mean , but I still feel bad
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I’m a first time homeowner (19) and I live with my boyfriend . The trash truck comes Thursday morning. (As I’m typing it’s Monday night)I have one trash can. The neighbors in question have two. Our trash cans usually stayed together where the trash truck comes in the alley between our houses. Sometimes they’d put trash in my can , and It would get full sooner, so in turn I’d put a bag in theirs, it was fine. Well, clearly they didn’t think so because about 2 days ago they moved both their trash cans inside their fence. (Side note: My trash bags are all black and theirs are white, that’s how I know the difference) tonight I noticed two white trashbags in my trash can when there is clearly no room for them. With days left until the trash is picked up, I set the trash bags leaning against my fence with note asking them to take back their trash , explaining I have no room, and that I don’t mind if they put a bag in mine that last night if I have room and they don’t,as long as the trash is coming the next morning. And also apologizing and stating I’m not trying to be mean , but I still feel bad
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> (1) the action taken was leaving their trash outside in they alley. And leaving a note telling them to take it back
(2) I took their trash out of my trash can and put it near their house for them to deal with because I don’t believe I’m responsible for their trash
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Id have yeeted the trash over to their side and let your bf handle it. As a male in a relationship id welcome a chance to hear out their reasons for this double standards
NTA. Best to keep out of theirs even though they started it and are the AHs. The audacity (cue Charlotte Dobre) that they put their bins away and STILL put trash in yours.
They put their garbage in your can & you think you’re an asshole by putting it by their fence? NO This has happened more than once. I’m petty – I’d have tossed their bags OVER the fence.
NTA
NTA, you have to pay for garbage service. Making it so you can’t use a service you paid for is stealing it from you. You might look into a lock for your bin for between pickup days. It’d be a hassle, but would prevent them from using your trash without being a confrontation.
Fuck em. NTA.
If they put their trash in your can go out late at nite and take it out of your can hide it somewhere after the garbage truck leaves go stack it next to their fence or the can better yet save it fie a month or so then place it next to their can on garbage day they will look like total idiots
NTA but side note being a home owner at 19 is wild
NTA. I got to the point where I had to put a lock on my trash can because others in my complex would use it but never take it out. At that time I was only living 50% of the week at my place and always came home to it being full. I previously had no issue with others using it but when I kindly asked them to put the bin out if they used it if I wasn’t home and they didn’t I had to lock it up
NTA
> I don’t mind if they put a bag in mine that last night if I have room
Do not give their entitled asses an inch.
My city will charge extra for overflowing garbage. Make sure you haven’t gotten charged for this. NTA.
My trash can is behind a locked gate, when I put it out on Wednesday night I’ve told my neighbors that I don’t mind if they need to put stuff in my can, just don’t over fill, I want my lid completely shut, I don’t want to pick up someone else’s trash that falls out when the can is lifted.
Side note…it’s just my husband and I so we don’t fill the trash can.
Remove their trash bags and put it in their yard move your trashcan.
Isnt digging through someone elses garbage can illegal in america?
Can you get a camera? Maybe there is a reason they moved theirs inside their fence. Can you put yours inside your fence?
NTA. You laid out a clear policy, gave them historical context, identified the trash bags by colour like a forensic analyst, and even apologized for not wanting to be someone else’s landfill.
You are not the trash can. You are the homeowner. They pulled their bins inside the fence like it was a medieval siege and then still tossed their garbage over the wall like disrespectful raccoons.
Leaving their bags with a polite note is more grace than most would offer. You’re allowed to use your own trash can for your own trash. The fact that you even offered future conditional sharing is honestly saint-level neighbor behavior.
NTA.
Are you sure it is that neighbor? My mother had someone drive by and leave trash in her can because they don’t pay for pick up themselves. She called the city and they knew exactly who it was because they kept doing it all around town. She lived in a small town.
I would find another place to keep your can that isn’t as easily accessible. You can put it in the pick-up spot the night before. NTA
Before you get crazy retaliation ideas from reddit and start an all out neighbor battle make sure that it is not some third neighbor putting extra trash in both yours and your neighbors barrels.
Why not just go over and talk to them instead of all this passive aggressive back and forth? ESH
NTA. You haven’t agreed to rent out space in your trash can.
NTA, my guess is they see that y’all are young and are trying to see what they can get away with. Set some ground rules, sit down with your bf and go over what you would consider unacceptable, and don’t fucking budge from it. For instance, my neighbors can come over, but the furthest they can go is the porch, no one is allowed inside.
You are nicer than me. I assume you pay for garbage pickup? If so they are technically stealing by using something you are paying for. I would have removed it and set it on their gate or doorstep so they see it immediately upon leaving their residence. NTA-