My friends are all getting pregnant. I am not excited for them – I’m sad I’m going to lose being able to spend time with my friends, or have to deal with screaming children if I do want to hang out with them.
My friends are all getting pregnant. I am not excited for them – I’m sad I’m going to lose being able to spend time with my friends, or have to deal with screaming children if I do want to hang out with them.
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This is part of life, either you accept it or you will lose your friends.
Unfortunately, that’s just how it goes for a lot of people. The majority of people want to start families of their own.
My friends with children always make time to see me and sometimes they bring their babies and sometimes they don’t.
I always offer to drive to their house so they don’t have to worry about packing up the baby for an outside excursion.
It’s all about how much you value your friendships. Babies aren’t my thing, but my best friends are now moms and they love their babies! Since I love my friends, I love their babies too.
Friendships grow and evolve. You have to choose if you want to stay or if you want to go. It’s fine to be upset and mourn the loss of what you had, but dont ever tell your friends that.
It’s definitely part of life and their just at that stage in theirs. It’s ok that you are not there or don’t want to be yet but don’t stop being their friends just because their parents now. Still reach out to them and talk to them and maybe instead of going out to drink maybe go on coffee dates (if you don’t already) lol it don’t have to be as much as it is now but don’t completely drop them. That shit hurts us too
That how it goes as you grow older some people want to have families. Doesn’t mean you can’t hang out witb thrm but if you despise crying kids maybe start slowly as things are changing they won’t have same time as you do. Eventually the frienda with kids will hang out and isolate you, so maybe try making new friends .
sounds like you suck
I’m 37 and have had the same friends since I was 12. All except me and one other have multiple kids, not babies anymore, kids. We get together but definitely not how we used to. I’d suggest getting out there and making some new friends, and get used to little kiddos running around when you all hang out. You sound very selfish TBH. Things change as you get older, adapt and adjust and keep it moving.
Are you 4 years old and jealous your parents are having another baby? Grow up.
If you continue to try and be a part of their lives and support them through the difficulties of early parenthood, they will make time for you. Sounds like you’re more interested in having people to hang out with than having actual friends…
They’re your friends.
If they are good friends, the kind you plan on having for the rest of your life, then you may have to suck it up and get over your hang ups about “screaming children” and make it work.
Their kids won’t be infants or little forever and there may be a time in your life where your decisions are inconvenient and annoying to them too. That is how life works. All relationships take some work and sacrifice including friendships.
Part of life, I would suggest looking for people with same interests or hobbies…
While some other commenters have said that it is to be expected and it is part of life, that is true but it is okay to be a little sad. Change is scary but it doesn’t always have to be bad. I have a 1 y/o and often leave her with my husband in the evening to see my friends or invite friends over once she’s in bed. I really enjoy some adult time without her, because I spend so much of my day with her. If you suggest meeting your friends for dinner in the evening, after the kids are in bed, then you may find they are excited to have some adult only time as it is precious once you start having children.
Yeah I see it with my wife, parents with similar aged kids become bff’s cause they do kids stuff and socialize as adults on the side.
Old friendships are more for touching base periodically.
Just don’t be like my former best friend. Instead of being a big girl and talking to me about it, she decided to be petty and just ghost me until I finally asked if something was up. She said that I, who had already been married for years at that point, should have asked her permission before I decided to have my second baby. Since I didn’t, we couldn’t be friends. She was supportive and friendly all throughout my first child, who I actually named after her, but somehow a second child was different. Showed her true colors in the end and I couldn’t be happier without her. Good riddance.