I just want to have sex or intimacy with a guy

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I’m so lonely and bored and just want a connection.

I’m waiting for marriage to have sex (to the best of my ability).

I just don’t get asked out. I feel like intimacy (or close to sex idk how to call it), is going to feed my soul.

Comments

  1. Inspection-Aware Avatar

    Play with yourself

  2. BetterUseTwo Avatar

    It won’t. Not the way you want it to at least.

  3. BoudreauxBedwell Avatar

    It is a requirement.

  4. Solo_Entity Avatar

    If you look purely for intimacy you’ll find everything else. Look for a guy friend that’s genuine and go from there.

    90% of society is not interested in waiting until marriage. No shame if you decide to find a fwb or whatever though. Just do what you’re comfortable with.

    Good luck

  5. yung_tyberius Avatar

    It’s okay to want these things, but remember how an animal acts when it’s hungry. Desperate, and looking for anything. Remember to not be a hungry animal and just take care of your needs to the best of your ability, and look for someone who will actually give you intimacy, or sex, whatever. Just make damn sure you know what you want and don’t settle for less

  6. Timetogetbusyliving Avatar

    I’ve never understood the whole waiting until marriage, not saying it’s right or wrong, but my way of looking at it is, imagine you think you found the one and then sexually you just aren’t compatible. There is an argument that you won’t know any different, but I guarantee your partner will. Good luck with whatever you do though, and I hope you find someone soon.

  7. todudeornote Avatar

    First, I’m not a fan of waiting until marriage. Go to r/relationships or r/sex and you’ll find an endless series of issues with sexual incompatability. But YMMV.

    1. I don’t know what “feed your soul” means. But intimacy, even if it’s just cuddling, can be soothing and can reduce anxiety. But it won’t help with sexual urges – or it may make them stronger and harder to manage

    2. Mastebation is great – but it’s not the same as being with someone. Still, if you don’t do it, give it a try. learning to give yourself joy is a great gift to yourself and will help you learn your body and turnons so that when you have sex, you’ll know what works for you.

    The desire for touch, for intimacy and for sex are all natural. We live in an age when you can safely explore them, and you should for your own mental health.

  8. sar1562 Avatar

    I just want to say so far the first 10 comments are all genuine, polite, restraint based, mentally healthy advice. Good job reddit.

  9. ParalegalGuy Avatar

    Would you be interested in a guy with manboobs?

  10. Quick_Rain_4125 Avatar

    You don’t need sex to find love don’t worry, falling in love does feed the soul like nothing else. Speaking from experience. I found her when I wasn’t looking for anyone.

  11. DCT715 Avatar

    Have you tried asking people out yourself?