I’m always the one people come to when they’re falling apart… but no one notices when I’m not okay.

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I don’t mind being there for people. I actually like it — listening, helping, holding space when someone’s overwhelmed.

But lately I’ve started to realize how one-sided it feels. When I’m low or quiet, no one really checks in. I don’t expect attention, but… it would be nice to be noticed without having to break down first.

Sometimes I wonder if people just like the version of me that holds it together. The useful one.

Anyway. Just needed to let that out.

Comments

  1. Subject-Future-1146 Avatar

    Reciprocate that energy that others bring to you when asking. Practicing vulnerability is such a valuable skill. We all need help, just learn to be ok with receiving 🤍

  2. Mindless-Umpire-9395 Avatar

    that makes two of us.. sucks..

  3. marcus-777- Avatar

    Being the strong one can feel like a blessing and a curse. People forget that even the ones who seem steady need support too. You deserve to be checked on before you reach your limit. Your worth isn’t just in what you give.

  4. withoutwingz Avatar

    Same. And it sucks. I’m sorry, op.

    And op? How are you doing?

  5. bookbutterfly1999 Avatar

    OMG I feel you, I am sorry you are going through this…