few weeks ago My husband told me he had cheated on me couple years ago . I tried working it out and staying for couple weeks but we eventually decided to separate a week ago . I’ve noticed that every time I eat or go outside the house or interact with people I feel nauseated especialy when I eat to a point where I loose my appetite and can’t eat without throwing up. I feel like I’m abandoning him or something when I’m eating . When I go outside anywhere I feel like I’m not “protected” And “don’t exist “ in the world . I miss him terribly and I feel so alone and “thrown out “ . It also hurts that I know he doesn’t feel the same .
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Sure. I’d imagine it’s very normal to have some severe emotional responses to your marriage ending.
Yes, nausea and many other physiological experiences.
You can’t believe this now, but your life will go on to be better and fuller.
We’ve all been there, just hang tight.
Now is a super good time to visit a therapist if you can
>we eventually decided to separate a week
Why did he choose to tell you now? Why does he want to separate and not work it out?
Yeah, with all the anxiety and uncertainty.
But there is life on the other end. Just hang tight.
I certainly did and no one cheated, severe anxiety makes me want to throw up. Whatever feelings you are having are normal. Eat healthy, drink enough water, and spend time outside. Talk to a therapist if you can afford it. Feel your feels, this isn’t forever.
People often don’t talk about the physical symptoms you can experience after a break up, leaving so many people feeling very confused and alone in their experience. Yes, it is absolutely normal to feel nauseous and other bodily pains when experiencing heartbreak. We feel emotions in our body. Overall, your nervous system is learning to adjust to life without your partner, and that is a shock to your body. It is like experiencing drug withdrawals and a whole bunch of other things. Give yourself time and patience. Now is the time to build support systems, lean on loved ones and implement NEW healthy habits (diet and exercise). Shake it out of your system and have a good cry in loving company. You will be okay, I promise. I am in my 20s and felt physically in pain after every break up! @risingwoman on Instagram is an incredible page, I’m pretty sure the founder began her holistic health and healing journey following a big break up. You got this 🩵
My divorce was THE worst time in my life. I went thru everything. I was an absolute mess. One thing i will say – throw out your marital bedding. Buy all new sheets. If you can afford new furniture for the bedroom id do that but the new bedding made a huge impact. This feelings will pass i promise you. Its totally normal to grieve the life thats passed ❤️
I’m not sure but it certainly happens in marriage
I feel nauseous when I’m anxious or stressed over something big I can’t control. I lose my appetite and the idea of food just isn’t appealing. I think it’s completely understandable to react strongly to what you’re going through BUT it’s also important to give your body the nutrients it needs.
Is there anything you can eat, even in small amounts? And is there anyone you can talk to, to help process everything?
Yes, it’s completely normal — your body is processing grief, trauma, and detachment. You didn’t just lose a partner, you lost a version of your world. Nausea, loss of appetite, and even dissociation are all common responses. Be gentle with yourself — healing feels awful before it feels better
I don’t know what’s normal to feel after a divorce, but I would expect a lot of negative things would happen, including nausea. When I’m upset, I can’t eat. Most people are the opposite or tell me the opposite but not me I think about food, when I’m upset, and I get nauseous. Don’t worry yourself any further you’re fine or you will be.
I got trauma induced tendinitis and 3 years later I’m still fighting inflammation. I assume nausea is also a common response. For what it’s worth I’m sooooooo much happier now. You will be too!
Severe stress will do that to a person, yes. Pretty normal.
Yes deep stress makes us nauseated as our bodies want to rid us of the stomach contents as it is stressed enough without the extra energy required by digestion. The old adage of not being able to stomach something is right. Common responses include gagging and also throwing up. It is part of shock too. This type is experience affects many of us very deeply. I am sorry you are experiencing this. But you will get through it. Small very light meals as often you can get light headed and basically ravenous but still unable to eat. Liquid yogurt helpful in my experience. Light soups, toast, fruit, rice and stew or curry. Also counselling really helped me. Not until you are ready but having a health professional to talk to, really did help me process the whole thing.
Emotion can be very physiological. There’s even a few studies that demonstrate that Tylenol can temporarily diminish the pain of heartache and emotional rejection compared to a placebo.
Not to say that Tylenol is a long term fix, just to validate the physical symptoms that you are experiencing.
Do eat though. As with sickness, we need food, especially protein, to help our bodies fight against symptoms of stress.
Grief tummy is real. It sucks. Try a heating pad and grounding exercises
Bro I’m nauseated after a 3 month situationship ended, I can’t imagine a full on divorce 😳
It gets better!!
Years ago I sent an 8 years relationship partner packing. The stress went to muscles in my legs, painful to walk for a while. It hits people in different ways,
You’re in shock, girl, that’s why you’re getting these symptoms. Take some time out of everything, to think, pray, watch tv, visit family and friends etc and to talk to people if you want to. Look after yourself at this point.
It’s very normal. Last year I had terrible anxiety related to some personal situations. Completely lost my appetite and just the thought of food made me severely anxious. Things that helped was protein shake, yoghurt banana (basically anything soft or mush)
That heartbreak diet hits hard
Oh absolutely. I lost about 30 pounds on a 130 pound 5 foot seven inch frame. I was skeletal and ill. It was horrible. My hair fell out, my eyebrows fell out! No clothes fit, even my shoes were too big. My doctor was very worried. He even prescribed meal-supplement nutrition drinks (I hated them bit tried and they did help some) to fortify myself.
The only thing that helped me was being sure to take a nice fresh air walk every day. 30 minutes whether rain or sun or snow! Sometimes I just cried the whole walk. But then I was able to eat after that half hour walk for some reason. And I did and gradually got better.
Doctor and my divorce lawyer both said it is very common as a trauma response to a divorce like mine (and yours, OP). Good luck and I hope the fresh air walks will help you too. Just 30 mins is all it took. (Sometimes I just did 20 mins.)
Yes I equated it as a part of the 7 stages of grieving. I have to be honest though mine was more like the 7 stages of rage (15 minutes of nausea when I found out who it was with) after I found out about his little affair. I never missed him either. I’m sorry you are hurting. It will get better.
That’s a lot of mourning and a lot of brain reprogramming anticipated life plans. Reality has been completely changed for you. If you’re not exhausted and emotional I think there’s something wrong. I think what you’re going through is extremely painful and absolutely necessary. I’m so sorry.
It’s normal. When I was going through a divorce my friends always reminded me to eat because I just didn’t from the stress. I think the anxiety absolutely can make you nauseous. Hang in there. You are going to be okay in the end . You got this.
I was cheated on and after it all went down I had very little appetite for months. Turned out to be a nice way to lose weight.
I called this the divorce diet. I’ve never been so skinny. I felt awful, but people kept telling me how great I looked.
Yes, I have had the same thing happen after every major breakup. I don’t know the nuts and bolts of why it happens, but I imagine some of it is withdrawal of the love chemicals that get generated in our brain and affect our bodies (googled this): “The “love chemicals” are a group of brain chemicals that play a role in feelings of attraction, pleasure, and bonding. These include dopamine, norepinephrine, serotonin, and oxytocin. Dopamine is associated with pleasure and motivation, while oxytocin is linked to trust, bonding, and emotional connection”. It takes a while for it to ease up, and for you to stop having these reactions, but eventually it will fade. I’m sorry you’re going through this, and unfortunately you are likely to go through it again if/when you get into another relationship if it doesn’t last. The fear of this feeling is one of the reasons I am scared to death of getting in another relationship.
I imagine so, I get the farts when I have a job interview so divorce after infidelity surely would invoke a greater reaction
This sounds like a symptom of anxiety. Please seek counseling when you can and the best of healing to you in moving forward in your life ❤️🩹
Can I give you a big furry comfy hug? 🥺 I feel the emotions in this and I’m going through something similar but with a friend…
Its normal, i actually threw up when i found out about my partner cheating, it does get better but it might be a slow road.
You’re experiencing symptoms of depression and anxiety. I would get a therapist or psychologist and potentially talk about getting on some medication of the talk therapy isn’t helping enough.
My divorce wasn’t too bad in the end. But for the first week, I could not stop vomiting. I lost nearly 20lbs in 2 months. But then things got better, and I’m happier now without that cheating b*stard! Sending you hugs, I know it’s hard.
It’s normal. That betrayal feeling doesn’t go away
The part about feeling protected…I get that. You just feel so vulnerable. Why do you think you feel like you are abandoning him though?
When my ex husband left me I was sick for a few months. Stress and emotional damage can take a toll
That’s anxiety.
Get used to it. It won’t go away.