In my last relationship, I had sex with her pretty much every day. Atleast once a day and we dated for 5 years. The only stretch of time that we went without sex is if we had a bad fight or were physically apart.
So many people seem to think that sex every day is too much. The sweet spot is 2-3 times a week or whatever. If I say I want to have sex with my partner every single day, people say I’m a sex addict or that I need to calm down.
Why is that such a crazy idea? And by sex I mean all the intimacy that comes along with it, kissing, cuddling, foreplay etc. I’m not just referring to PIV.
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No problem at all – as long as both parties feel the same way.
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I agree, if both parties involved are cool with it, then having sex once a day seems pretty normal to me. I would actually assume having sex once a day is literally the expected default/status quo for most kinds of intimate relationship.
On a side note, I extremely strongly prefer cuddling and foreplay to actual penetrative sex/PIV. I wanted to mention this as a man, because most men I know seem to either actively dislike foreplay/cuddling, or do it for like 30 seconds at most which seems really pathetic/sad to me. I would cuddle for hours non-stop if my partner was down to do so lmao
An unpopular opinion I agree with. My libido’s quite high though, so I’d want sex a few times EVERY day.
Everyone has a preference, there’s nothing wrong with that. However, it’s hard for working adults (especially those with kids) to make time for sex every single day. 2-3 times a week, sure. But I don’t think my partner and I would have time for sex every single day while juggling a ton of other shit, especially considering we both work stressful jobs in healthcare. But if that’s what you want, make sure your partner is on the same page!
Nothing wrong with that at all! Just gotta make sure you’re finding a partner who feels the same way as you. Not everyone is sexually compatible.
For me it would be, how do you feel about not having sex for a day or two, is it just habitual or is it still a passionate thing, and is it a rule or is it a desire?
But for me, I have a fairly high sex drive, but the best sex I have with my girlfriend is when it’s been denied for a little while. Where a bit of anticipation has been built. Where there has been some longing. For me I would worry that having sex every day would start to feel a bit routine
It’s completely fine to want that but it’s also OK to criticize that.
For example I can say “I want to eat 5 meals a day”, I wouldn’t expect many people to agree with me and I would likely be called fat. That’s fine
Revisit this post in your 40s and see if you feel the same 😂
To me its just to timeconsuming and i have better things to do, but if this is a thing for both of you, do your thing.
It sounds a bit obsessive, but who am it to judge .
Not crazy if both have according libidos, motivation and time. The thing is that libidos fluctuate and vary. People have jobs with different schedules and plans, family, kids, stress, health issues etc. I wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with someone who expects to have sex 7/365.
>And by sex I mean all the intimacy that comes along with it, kissing, cuddling, foreplay etc.
Intimacy doesn’t have to involve sex. You can kiss and cuddle without fucking.
>I’m not just referring to PIV.
But you still want/expect it tho?!
AMEN. When I was in my twenties I fucked 4-8 times a day. Now that I’m in my 367’s I only fuck 3-4 times a day but that’s only because the tumor in my penis looks like Abe Vigoda in the right light namsayin
There is no wrong or right amount of sex, it depends on how high both of your libidos are and ideally they are the same.
I would consider sex addicts to chase sex so much that they’ll get it wherever, even if it’s not from their monogamous partner, or harming them and causing dysfunction in their life.
If you’re staying faithful and the eagerness is mutual, and it is not causing dysfunction in your life or relationships, I would not call that a sex addiction. I would call that none of my business.
If both people are okay with it, then sure go for it!
lol, the men will agree and the women will disagree.
Idk sounds exhausting.
lol that’s rich. People who are like this need to chill it’s so childish
Wanting? Yes. Expecting or demanding? No.
I mean, if both partners want it, sure, but there’s many reasons why it’s not as common
I mean if your partner is in agreement then have sex how often you want (*agree on). 3 times a day,, twice a week, once a month.
It’s up to you
Is this really unpopular? Sex is awesome. I’ll have it every day with a second helping, please. Practical? Probably not. But a boy can dream
It’s completely fine because it is your sex life, but doing one thing everyday doesnt just sound fun to a lot of people. So yeah there would be a lot of people that think its not normal, i dont think it sounds healthy or fun if you do it everyday but thats just my opinion. But at the end its your relationship so there’s no issue.
Quite rare to find a woman who’ll have time and energy for this especially when kids come along!
Nobody should care about how often other people have sex. 8 times a day? Fine. 2 times per month? Also fine. It’s nobodys Business.
You can want what you want dude, but there’s no obligation on anyone, including your partner, to oblige
I would assume you are very tired all the time, not having the best sex, or you’re an athlete.
I think people are to sex obsessed and have no business in what others do, or don’t, nor in telling them what they should or shouldn’t. Having to do stuff, because you think society says you should is unhealthy to me and none of society’s business.
The answers to this post are wild. 🤣
I recommend you all start working out and get off reddit. Your sex drives are unhealthy, and you could probably also use the mood boost.
You didn’t say “we” once and I think that’s a little telling.