What’s something you wish more people understood about sex?

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What’s something you wish more people understood about sex?

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  1. gumbeari Avatar

    The more comfortable you are with your partner, the dirtier (better) it gets. You can’t rush it.

  2. hauntedtoaster77 Avatar

    Everyone likes things differently so don’t assume!

  3. Diligent-Building201 Avatar

    I think it’s kind of stupid that people freak out when it hurts the first time cuz we have been told it’s going to hurt the first time or first few times

  4. curiouskittyclub Avatar

    It’s never the same twice. That’s both positive and negative.

  5. Kaiser-Sohze Avatar

    The key to having great sex is direct communication between partners.

  6. stunspelledbackwards Avatar

    It can get you pregnant

  7. Old_Router Avatar

    You can and will be judged based on your sexual history.

    You can down vote all you like…it’s just a fact.

  8. Ridicklious Avatar

    That it isn’t automatically connected in any way with romantic love; we’ve just decided that as a society. Sex with your friends should not be a taboo.

  9. KaleidoscopeWeak9284 Avatar

    You are responsible for your own orgasm. Communication is the key

  10. Apple-Dapple12 Avatar

    Bigger isnt better!

  11. ShadowWolfSpider Avatar

    Foreplay is worth it

  12. Quartermastered Avatar

    Men need to have sex more than women, in most cases. Depriving your man of it is opening the door to more relationship issues later on. Not saying you need to put up by forcing yourself. Just saying if not sex, just some level of light intimacy also goes a far way.

  13. thr0waway2morrow Avatar

    Its connection to love is absurd.

  14. Hoxtilicious Avatar

    love/affection is like 80% of the enjoyment

  15. Toilet_Sandwich_Fan Avatar

    I’d like some.
    Y’all didn’t know.

  16. JimAbaddon Avatar

    I dunno, not like I’m having sex to be able to form an opinion.

  17. Comfort_Not_Speed_50 Avatar

    That it’s ok not to like it

  18. FortuneSignificant55 Avatar

    That it can be funny and still good. People never goof off in movie sex scenes, it’s always so serious

  19. petitecrivain Avatar

    A bunch of things. It’s normal to feel awkward, it’s nothing like in porn, and the communication and mutual enjoyment aspect of it is at least half of what makes sex enjoyable.

  20. PSULioness Avatar

    It comes in different flavors

  21. EnvironmentalCase246 Avatar

    that it shouldn’t be taboo. it’s normal to have it before marriage or meeting “the one”. Also it’s not like porn at all. Lots more sweat and pain.

  22. Purepoise Avatar

    That it’s okay to say no

  23. deftrouble2018 Avatar

    It’s not a want it’s a fucking NEED!

  24. garbagegoat Avatar

    It’s OK to resend consent. Like sometimes you think you’re in the mood, you’re feeling it but half way in you’re like mmmm actually I’d rather not? It’s OK to voice that. And it’s no shame to either partner. If someone does that to you it’s not an insult. And if you’re the one doing it don’t feel guilty.

  25. NoKidsJustTravel Avatar

    Just because you want something doesn’t mean the other person does. 

  26. axiomatic13 Avatar

    Communication.

  27. Lazy_DreadHead Avatar

    The women’s anatomy. It’s much more complex than what you think you may know.

  28. BiMetalGuy420 Avatar

    Good bottoms push back.

  29. AlexThrisgata Avatar

    There are some of us who equate sex with love.

  30. jessek Avatar

    It’s supposed to be enjoyable for both people.

  31. ToasterPs4 Avatar

    That woman are objects and you can do whatever you want to them

  32. MeghanSOS Avatar

    It’s all about trust, the more trust the more I’m willing to do Woof woof

  33. lilcatastrophe Avatar

    Being a virgin and not being a virgin doesn’t matter nearly as much as society tells you to. Be careful with your body and your heart, don’t share them thoughtlessly. No one can shame you for waiting until you feel right and no one can shame you for doing it when it felt right & even more when it felt good.
    I’m still a virgin at 23. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years & have known each other for almost 10. We met as kids and he promised to wait until marriage as a kid & it’s a vow he intends to abide by, even if he often regrets making it lolol. He is my best friend, an incredible soul, and boy we make each other feel good in our own ways. Love and life can, and will, exist without sex… but sex can be a very lovely bonus to them 🥰
    Be safe & be w/ people you feel safe with !! 🫶🏻

  34. BlingLoveGlitter Avatar

    Sex does not equal penetration. Yes, penetration can be a part of sex but it does not beed to be.

  35. WorthDragonfly2691 Avatar

    Multiple surveys show, for around 70% of respondents, getting a little high on weed boosts intensity of pleasure and length and strength of orgasm. I expect some people in the 30% group have issues with sexual trauma or interest, or weed doesn’t work well for them.

  36. u6crash Avatar

    There is a larger emotional component to it than most people want to acknowledge.

  37. StringBeanCheez Avatar

    “Foreplay” is part of sex, not something separate, and for people with a vulva it’s usually the most important or most enjoyable part.

    Also, a vast majority of people with vulvas can’t orgasm from PIV and need something else to get there

  38. PedantJuice Avatar

    it is supposed to be fun

  39. geoffbowman Avatar

    Literally no act is inherently dominant or submissive… if you can bring dominant energy to servicing your partner they’re going to want you more than someone who won’t service them at all because “that’s too submissive”.

  40. Illlogik1 Avatar

    That it’s completely overrated and not worth near as much focus , attention, and importance that it seems most people place on it. This sub can’t go a millisecond without someone asking yet another sex question. They should just make the sub askredditaboutsex

  41. Badaxx1995 Avatar

    Sex harder than it looks! I think it’s important that both parties are equally engaged and enjoying it! I also wish there wasn’t stigma about having sex with multiple partners!

  42. pr0ghead Avatar

    It doesn’t automatically make you an adult. I feel like some kids do it too early just because of that.

  43. fckvapiano Avatar

    Pornography isnt a very good reference

  44. Outrageous-Eagle-443 Avatar

    That you are having sex with the person/soul, not their body

  45. Aggressive_Day_6574 Avatar

    That its importance in a relationship varies from couple to couple.

    That there is no enduring, healthy long-term solution to mismatched libidos besides breaking up.

    That it’s good to be wary of the intimacy that comes from great sex – it’s possible to get blinded to issues when the sex is amazing.

    That women’s experiences with orgasms are different – some women come easily from penetration and can have multiple orgasms without experiencing too much sensitivity to continue.

  46. Clean-Custard6834 Avatar

    Speaking as a wonan, Women are often shy creatures. There’s so much pressure to do it right and look perfect for the guy that our own pleasure is on the back burner. Don’t let it be that way. If you’re a woman, speak up for yourself. You need to tell them what works and what doesnt. What gets you there. It should be met with understanding and patience from both sides. If you’re a man, please understand that women want foreplay and orgasms and all the good stuff too. There’s just a huge fear there for many women, they’re scared to be “dirty” or weird. It’s so much harder to cum from just penetration for a girl and it’s hard for them to bring it up but DO NOT take it personally. NO penis is going to make her cum if she just can’t do it that way. The important thing is being aware of your partners feelings. Communicate and don’t expect everything to just work on the first try

  47. aurora_ethereallight Avatar

    Intimacy is what takes sex to another level.

  48. ogcanwait Avatar

    It’s necessary

  49. Calcifer07 Avatar

    That you can get the dirtiest sex and the most vanilla with the same person, and everything is about communicating your desires and hearing your partner’s. Some people are just too afraid to ask to try something different that they never do. (Within some limits, obv)

  50. DamonOfTheSpire Avatar

    It can’t be changed.

  51. hindermore Avatar

    If you enjoy having it, don’t get married.

  52. Odd-Sink-7338 Avatar

    It is only for fun. Don’t take it too seriously

  53. lmao_dead_reddit Avatar

    it’s not just a physical act, but a connection emotionally and energetically. It’s about being present, vulnerable, and fully aware of each other’s needs.

    When it’s safe, consensual, and conscious, it becomes a deeper exchange of trust and intimacy.

    It’s not about performance; it’s about sharing a moment that goes beyond the body, even if it’s just for that brief time.

  54. StupidestThing2Day Avatar

    The more hard core & deviant & disrespectful, does NOT make it ‘better’ or ‘good’. Its just gross & makes it more harmful for everyone

  55. AlienInNewTehran Avatar

    That it isn’t generally like what’s portrayed in porn and you’re not a porn star

  56. InsaneBasti Avatar

    That everyone needs it. Its a need to stay healthy just as food or water. And the lack of is a big lead towards mental illness as a sidebranch of loneliness. And MOST ppl have super unrealistic standarts that are often beyond their own looks/personality.

    “Fix the world, fk an ugly person today!” or smth like that xD

  57. Jutter70 Avatar

    Don’t vote for facists! Not sure what it has to do with sex, but don’t you fucking wish?

  58. Hot_Print1597 Avatar

    It’s an art that can be fun…

  59. midnightrambler224 Avatar

    Post orgasm afterglow. Even from masturbating. Enjoy the moment.

  60. NoNamed86d Avatar

    Not all physical attraction? Maybe things I do or don’t do are a turn off?

  61. Sun-607 Avatar

    That sex is super overhyped. I severely dislike how much it is pressured to people. Like sure it’s nice and feels good, but it doesn’t make or break your life. Virgins are super pressured to have sex and they go into depressive states and get desperate if it doesn’t happen in a time frame they think is acceptable. It’s really NOT that big of a deal

  62. Jazzlike_Entry_8807 Avatar

    That having it with me will be fun.

  63. JustScratchinMaBallz Avatar

    It’s not the most important thing in the world. Well it’s pretty pathetic if it is

  64. dahuckinator Avatar

    That’s STD’s and condoms exist!! I cannot tell you how many times in my urgent care we test and diagnose for std’s. I get some wild stories. Saw a patient a few weeks ago that I diagnosed with genital herpes and destroyed her world. She told me this guy she slept with told her he had “poison ivy” on his package and she slept with him anyway. I wanted to ask her why she didn’t think it was weird for him to have poison ivy “down there”. Had to bite my tongue lol

  65. Global_Werewolf6548 Avatar

    That they can ask their partner exactly what they want and hopefully there will be no judgment.

  66. Illustrious_Sort7586 Avatar

    It’s a skill that improves with experience

  67. WatchingInSilence Avatar

    If they say it’s not herpes, don’t take the risk.

  68. MistressLiliana Avatar

    Not to take it so seriously. It is a silly process and things will go wrong, it is best to laugh it off and carry on.

  69. Coffeeworklife Avatar

    It gets nasty sometimes (in good and bad ways)

  70. Blankasbiscuits Avatar

    It’s fun, it’s supposed to be fun. Learn to laugh at all the slips and noise you bot make and it gets way better.

  71. omogbyn Avatar

    When we tell you like the way your moving, keep doing that. Don’t take it as a sign that we want your change something or start pounding away 🤌🏻

  72. DictionaryJoke Avatar

    YOUR CUM IS SOMEONE ELSE’S TREASURE

  73. Egaroth1 Avatar

    Well for the people that haven’t done it yet. It’s overhyped and for those that have it’s overrated

  74. Oxynod Avatar

    Nobody ever told me how much bodily fluids were involved. Also, I thought semen was “absorbed” by the woman’s vagina. When it came back out the first time I was horrified.

  75. NimBold Avatar

    Good hygiene is important.

  76. Ordinary_Ice_796 Avatar

    That some people are just naturally not that excited about it — and don’t need it or think about it.

    This took me years to believe that it was her, and not me (I always thought I must be doing something wrong).

  77. GushyMcGoobyBoi Avatar

    Its better when you really like eachother

  78. PrintedCircut Avatar

    To minimize the risk of a pregnancy each partner should bring their own form of birth control to create overlapping layers of protection so long as they are all compatible with each other.
    e.x. Condom AND Pill AND Timing Method

  79. Ordinary_Ice_796 Avatar

    That some people don’t masturbate. Like, ever.

    My wife 45F has truly never done it even once in her life.

    She’s told me she has never once had the desire or curiosity to do that with herself — so she just never has.

    I know people here will call bullshit — but I’m telling you — I’ve been married to her for 23 years and in a relationship with her for even longer — and truly… she never has.

  80. cece_mimi Avatar

    There is a fine line between pleasure and pain… I live to blur those lines.

  81. iggybdawg Avatar

    Asking for sexual exclusivity is implying you want sexual activity.

  82. vagazine- Avatar

    It’s an energy transfer!!

  83. Low-Lemon-9805 Avatar

    That Viagra doesn’t just give you an erection randomly.

  84. Berdname- Avatar

    It’s not all that lol.

  85. VampyrKween Avatar

    Foreplay starts as soon as you stop having sex.

    This one is mostly for the relationship dynamic, but foreplay is EVERYTHING that happens from the point of your last sexual interaction with your partner.
    Every conversation, action, flirtation, or interaction. Even the seemingly inoculos everyday boring shit.

    If you are disrespectful, argumentative, or neglectful with each other in that huge in-between sex time, it will make it more difficult to get back in the mood.

  86. zioxusOne Avatar

    It’s not about getting off. It’s about making a deep connection, otherworldly connection.

  87. W4OPR Avatar

    Condoms are available for a reason

  88. gayjospehquinn Avatar

    It’s very hard for someone with a vagina to orgasm through penetration alone.

  89. DaToasta Avatar

    Other people’s high is better than yours.

  90. Fast_Isopod3568 Avatar

    Respect boundaries and stop when anyone says the word No.
    If she tells you “don’t stop, just like that” then keep doing it ffs.
    Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay.
    Lube is your friend.
    Reciprocate.

  91. Learning-Power Avatar

    Men have a g-spot in their butts and, with practice and patience, can learn to have orgasms that are seemingly very similar to women’s orgasms.

    Since I myself have mastered this, do feel free to AMA about it.

  92. DepressedOaklandFan Avatar

    Having it doesn’t make you a better person.

  93. Not_Ban_Evading69420 Avatar

    That elephants are selfish lovers

  94. NoTyOuRaVeRaGeJoE41 Avatar

    That it’s not always a physical need.

  95. Common-Syrup5694 Avatar

    As your man gets older (30+), foreplay becomes important for him, too.

  96. moonlandingisfalse Avatar

    Having sex with your best friends wife or husband is worse than having sex with your cousin.

  97. drunky_crowette Avatar

    Being into kinky sex, even sex that involves hitting your (consenting) partner, does not mean you’re okay with domestic violence.

  98. Intelligent_Put_3606 Avatar

    It’s not that straightforward (at least not for me).

  99. RazorsEdge89113 Avatar

    Without foreplay and variety, it’s just masturbation with extra steps.

  100. fradrig Avatar

    That I’m good at it and that more people should do it with me.

  101. Livid_Parsnip6190 Avatar

    There are 2 ways to be a selfish lover: one is to make sex all about yourself and not care at all about your partner’s pleasure.

    The second, rarer but no less frustrating, is when you show up and please your partner but say “I don’t know” when they ask what they can do for you.

  102. TreefrogJ Avatar

    If you do it and are addicted to drugs, you may get pregnant.

    And tweakers aren’t good parents

  103. millionsofdollars_ Avatar

    That it’s not necessary until necessary. It’s not the most important thing between partners

  104. PaperFlower14765 Avatar

    MAY RESULT IN ADDITIONAL HUMANS