I think it’s kind of stupid that people freak out when it hurts the first time cuz we have been told it’s going to hurt the first time or first few times
That it isn’t automatically connected in any way with romantic love; we’ve just decided that as a society. Sex with your friends should not be a taboo.
Men need to have sex more than women, in most cases. Depriving your man of it is opening the door to more relationship issues later on. Not saying you need to put up by forcing yourself. Just saying if not sex, just some level of light intimacy also goes a far way.
A bunch of things. It’s normal to feel awkward, it’s nothing like in porn, and the communication and mutual enjoyment aspect of it is at least half of what makes sex enjoyable.
It’s OK to resend consent. Like sometimes you think you’re in the mood, you’re feeling it but half way in you’re like mmmm actually I’d rather not? It’s OK to voice that. And it’s no shame to either partner. If someone does that to you it’s not an insult. And if you’re the one doing it don’t feel guilty.
Being a virgin and not being a virgin doesn’t matter nearly as much as society tells you to. Be careful with your body and your heart, don’t share them thoughtlessly. No one can shame you for waiting until you feel right and no one can shame you for doing it when it felt right & even more when it felt good.
I’m still a virgin at 23. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years & have known each other for almost 10. We met as kids and he promised to wait until marriage as a kid & it’s a vow he intends to abide by, even if he often regrets making it lolol. He is my best friend, an incredible soul, and boy we make each other feel good in our own ways. Love and life can, and will, exist without sex… but sex can be a very lovely bonus to them 🥰
Be safe & be w/ people you feel safe with !! 🫶🏻
Multiple surveys show, for around 70% of respondents, getting a little high on weed boosts intensity of pleasure and length and strength of orgasm. I expect some people in the 30% group have issues with sexual trauma or interest, or weed doesn’t work well for them.
Literally no act is inherently dominant or submissive… if you can bring dominant energy to servicing your partner they’re going to want you more than someone who won’t service them at all because “that’s too submissive”.
That it’s completely overrated and not worth near as much focus , attention, and importance that it seems most people place on it. This sub can’t go a millisecond without someone asking yet another sex question. They should just make the sub askredditaboutsex
Sex harder than it looks! I think it’s important that both parties are equally engaged and enjoying it! I also wish there wasn’t stigma about having sex with multiple partners!
That its importance in a relationship varies from couple to couple.
That there is no enduring, healthy long-term solution to mismatched libidos besides breaking up.
That it’s good to be wary of the intimacy that comes from great sex – it’s possible to get blinded to issues when the sex is amazing.
That women’s experiences with orgasms are different – some women come easily from penetration and can have multiple orgasms without experiencing too much sensitivity to continue.
Speaking as a wonan, Women are often shy creatures. There’s so much pressure to do it right and look perfect for the guy that our own pleasure is on the back burner. Don’t let it be that way. If you’re a woman, speak up for yourself. You need to tell them what works and what doesnt. What gets you there. It should be met with understanding and patience from both sides. If you’re a man, please understand that women want foreplay and orgasms and all the good stuff too. There’s just a huge fear there for many women, they’re scared to be “dirty” or weird. It’s so much harder to cum from just penetration for a girl and it’s hard for them to bring it up but DO NOT take it personally. NO penis is going to make her cum if she just can’t do it that way. The important thing is being aware of your partners feelings. Communicate and don’t expect everything to just work on the first try
That you can get the dirtiest sex and the most vanilla with the same person, and everything is about communicating your desires and hearing your partner’s. Some people are just too afraid to ask to try something different that they never do. (Within some limits, obv)
it’s not just a physical act, but a connection emotionally and energetically. It’s about being present, vulnerable, and fully aware of each other’s needs.
When it’s safe, consensual, and conscious, it becomes a deeper exchange of trust and intimacy.
It’s not about performance; it’s about sharing a moment that goes beyond the body, even if it’s just for that brief time.
That everyone needs it. Its a need to stay healthy just as food or water. And the lack of is a big lead towards mental illness as a sidebranch of loneliness. And MOST ppl have super unrealistic standarts that are often beyond their own looks/personality.
“Fix the world, fk an ugly person today!” or smth like that xD
That sex is super overhyped. I severely dislike how much it is pressured to people. Like sure it’s nice and feels good, but it doesn’t make or break your life. Virgins are super pressured to have sex and they go into depressive states and get desperate if it doesn’t happen in a time frame they think is acceptable. It’s really NOT that big of a deal
That’s STD’s and condoms exist!! I cannot tell you how many times in my urgent care we test and diagnose for std’s. I get some wild stories. Saw a patient a few weeks ago that I diagnosed with genital herpes and destroyed her world. She told me this guy she slept with told her he had “poison ivy” on his package and she slept with him anyway. I wanted to ask her why she didn’t think it was weird for him to have poison ivy “down there”. Had to bite my tongue lol
Nobody ever told me how much bodily fluids were involved. Also, I thought semen was “absorbed” by the woman’s vagina. When it came back out the first time I was horrified.
To minimize the risk of a pregnancy each partner should bring their own form of birth control to create overlapping layers of protection so long as they are all compatible with each other.
e.x. Condom AND Pill AND Timing Method
My wife 45F has truly never done it even once in her life.
She’s told me she has never once had the desire or curiosity to do that with herself — so she just never has.
I know people here will call bullshit — but I’m telling you — I’ve been married to her for 23 years and in a relationship with her for even longer — and truly… she never has.
This one is mostly for the relationship dynamic, but foreplay is EVERYTHING that happens from the point of your last sexual interaction with your partner.
Every conversation, action, flirtation, or interaction. Even the seemingly inoculos everyday boring shit.
If you are disrespectful, argumentative, or neglectful with each other in that huge in-between sex time, it will make it more difficult to get back in the mood.
Respect boundaries and stop when anyone says the word No.
If she tells you “don’t stop, just like that” then keep doing it ffs.
Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay.
Lube is your friend.
Reciprocate.
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The more comfortable you are with your partner, the dirtier (better) it gets. You can’t rush it.
Everyone likes things differently so don’t assume!
I think it’s kind of stupid that people freak out when it hurts the first time cuz we have been told it’s going to hurt the first time or first few times
It’s never the same twice. That’s both positive and negative.
The key to having great sex is direct communication between partners.
It can get you pregnant
You can and will be judged based on your sexual history.
You can down vote all you like…it’s just a fact.
That it isn’t automatically connected in any way with romantic love; we’ve just decided that as a society. Sex with your friends should not be a taboo.
You are responsible for your own orgasm. Communication is the key
Bigger isnt better!
Foreplay is worth it
Men need to have sex more than women, in most cases. Depriving your man of it is opening the door to more relationship issues later on. Not saying you need to put up by forcing yourself. Just saying if not sex, just some level of light intimacy also goes a far way.
Its connection to love is absurd.
love/affection is like 80% of the enjoyment
I’d like some.
Y’all didn’t know.
I dunno, not like I’m having sex to be able to form an opinion.
That it’s ok not to like it
That it can be funny and still good. People never goof off in movie sex scenes, it’s always so serious
A bunch of things. It’s normal to feel awkward, it’s nothing like in porn, and the communication and mutual enjoyment aspect of it is at least half of what makes sex enjoyable.
It comes in different flavors
that it shouldn’t be taboo. it’s normal to have it before marriage or meeting “the one”. Also it’s not like porn at all. Lots more sweat and pain.
That it’s okay to say no
It’s not a want it’s a fucking NEED!
It’s OK to resend consent. Like sometimes you think you’re in the mood, you’re feeling it but half way in you’re like mmmm actually I’d rather not? It’s OK to voice that. And it’s no shame to either partner. If someone does that to you it’s not an insult. And if you’re the one doing it don’t feel guilty.
Just because you want something doesn’t mean the other person does.
Communication.
The women’s anatomy. It’s much more complex than what you think you may know.
Good bottoms push back.
There are some of us who equate sex with love.
It’s supposed to be enjoyable for both people.
That woman are objects and you can do whatever you want to them
It’s all about trust, the more trust the more I’m willing to do Woof woof
Being a virgin and not being a virgin doesn’t matter nearly as much as society tells you to. Be careful with your body and your heart, don’t share them thoughtlessly. No one can shame you for waiting until you feel right and no one can shame you for doing it when it felt right & even more when it felt good.
I’m still a virgin at 23. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years & have known each other for almost 10. We met as kids and he promised to wait until marriage as a kid & it’s a vow he intends to abide by, even if he often regrets making it lolol. He is my best friend, an incredible soul, and boy we make each other feel good in our own ways. Love and life can, and will, exist without sex… but sex can be a very lovely bonus to them 🥰
Be safe & be w/ people you feel safe with !! 🫶🏻
Sex does not equal penetration. Yes, penetration can be a part of sex but it does not beed to be.
Multiple surveys show, for around 70% of respondents, getting a little high on weed boosts intensity of pleasure and length and strength of orgasm. I expect some people in the 30% group have issues with sexual trauma or interest, or weed doesn’t work well for them.
There is a larger emotional component to it than most people want to acknowledge.
“Foreplay” is part of sex, not something separate, and for people with a vulva it’s usually the most important or most enjoyable part.
Also, a vast majority of people with vulvas can’t orgasm from PIV and need something else to get there
it is supposed to be fun
Literally no act is inherently dominant or submissive… if you can bring dominant energy to servicing your partner they’re going to want you more than someone who won’t service them at all because “that’s too submissive”.
That it’s completely overrated and not worth near as much focus , attention, and importance that it seems most people place on it. This sub can’t go a millisecond without someone asking yet another sex question. They should just make the sub askredditaboutsex
Sex harder than it looks! I think it’s important that both parties are equally engaged and enjoying it! I also wish there wasn’t stigma about having sex with multiple partners!
It doesn’t automatically make you an adult. I feel like some kids do it too early just because of that.
Pornography isnt a very good reference
That you are having sex with the person/soul, not their body
Cramp
That its importance in a relationship varies from couple to couple.
That there is no enduring, healthy long-term solution to mismatched libidos besides breaking up.
That it’s good to be wary of the intimacy that comes from great sex – it’s possible to get blinded to issues when the sex is amazing.
That women’s experiences with orgasms are different – some women come easily from penetration and can have multiple orgasms without experiencing too much sensitivity to continue.
Speaking as a wonan, Women are often shy creatures. There’s so much pressure to do it right and look perfect for the guy that our own pleasure is on the back burner. Don’t let it be that way. If you’re a woman, speak up for yourself. You need to tell them what works and what doesnt. What gets you there. It should be met with understanding and patience from both sides. If you’re a man, please understand that women want foreplay and orgasms and all the good stuff too. There’s just a huge fear there for many women, they’re scared to be “dirty” or weird. It’s so much harder to cum from just penetration for a girl and it’s hard for them to bring it up but DO NOT take it personally. NO penis is going to make her cum if she just can’t do it that way. The important thing is being aware of your partners feelings. Communicate and don’t expect everything to just work on the first try
Intimacy is what takes sex to another level.
It’s necessary
That you can get the dirtiest sex and the most vanilla with the same person, and everything is about communicating your desires and hearing your partner’s. Some people are just too afraid to ask to try something different that they never do. (Within some limits, obv)
It can’t be changed.
If you enjoy having it, don’t get married.
It is only for fun. Don’t take it too seriously
it’s not just a physical act, but a connection emotionally and energetically. It’s about being present, vulnerable, and fully aware of each other’s needs.
When it’s safe, consensual, and conscious, it becomes a deeper exchange of trust and intimacy.
It’s not about performance; it’s about sharing a moment that goes beyond the body, even if it’s just for that brief time.
The more hard core & deviant & disrespectful, does NOT make it ‘better’ or ‘good’. Its just gross & makes it more harmful for everyone
That it isn’t generally like what’s portrayed in porn and you’re not a porn star
That everyone needs it. Its a need to stay healthy just as food or water. And the lack of is a big lead towards mental illness as a sidebranch of loneliness. And MOST ppl have super unrealistic standarts that are often beyond their own looks/personality.
“Fix the world, fk an ugly person today!” or smth like that xD
Don’t vote for facists! Not sure what it has to do with sex, but don’t you fucking wish?
It’s an art that can be fun…
Post orgasm afterglow. Even from masturbating. Enjoy the moment.
Not all physical attraction? Maybe things I do or don’t do are a turn off?
That sex is super overhyped. I severely dislike how much it is pressured to people. Like sure it’s nice and feels good, but it doesn’t make or break your life. Virgins are super pressured to have sex and they go into depressive states and get desperate if it doesn’t happen in a time frame they think is acceptable. It’s really NOT that big of a deal
That having it with me will be fun.
It’s not the most important thing in the world. Well it’s pretty pathetic if it is
That’s STD’s and condoms exist!! I cannot tell you how many times in my urgent care we test and diagnose for std’s. I get some wild stories. Saw a patient a few weeks ago that I diagnosed with genital herpes and destroyed her world. She told me this guy she slept with told her he had “poison ivy” on his package and she slept with him anyway. I wanted to ask her why she didn’t think it was weird for him to have poison ivy “down there”. Had to bite my tongue lol
That they can ask their partner exactly what they want and hopefully there will be no judgment.
It’s a skill that improves with experience
If they say it’s not herpes, don’t take the risk.
Not to take it so seriously. It is a silly process and things will go wrong, it is best to laugh it off and carry on.
It gets nasty sometimes (in good and bad ways)
It’s fun, it’s supposed to be fun. Learn to laugh at all the slips and noise you bot make and it gets way better.
When we tell you like the way your moving, keep doing that. Don’t take it as a sign that we want your change something or start pounding away 🤌🏻
YOUR CUM IS SOMEONE ELSE’S TREASURE
Well for the people that haven’t done it yet. It’s overhyped and for those that have it’s overrated
Nobody ever told me how much bodily fluids were involved. Also, I thought semen was “absorbed” by the woman’s vagina. When it came back out the first time I was horrified.
Good hygiene is important.
That some people are just naturally not that excited about it — and don’t need it or think about it.
This took me years to believe that it was her, and not me (I always thought I must be doing something wrong).
Its better when you really like eachother
To minimize the risk of a pregnancy each partner should bring their own form of birth control to create overlapping layers of protection so long as they are all compatible with each other.
e.x. Condom AND Pill AND Timing Method
That some people don’t masturbate. Like, ever.
My wife 45F has truly never done it even once in her life.
She’s told me she has never once had the desire or curiosity to do that with herself — so she just never has.
I know people here will call bullshit — but I’m telling you — I’ve been married to her for 23 years and in a relationship with her for even longer — and truly… she never has.
There is a fine line between pleasure and pain… I live to blur those lines.
Asking for sexual exclusivity is implying you want sexual activity.
It’s an energy transfer!!
That Viagra doesn’t just give you an erection randomly.
It’s not all that lol.
Foreplay starts as soon as you stop having sex.
This one is mostly for the relationship dynamic, but foreplay is EVERYTHING that happens from the point of your last sexual interaction with your partner.
Every conversation, action, flirtation, or interaction. Even the seemingly inoculos everyday boring shit.
If you are disrespectful, argumentative, or neglectful with each other in that huge in-between sex time, it will make it more difficult to get back in the mood.
It’s not about getting off. It’s about making a deep connection, otherworldly connection.
Condoms are available for a reason
It’s very hard for someone with a vagina to orgasm through penetration alone.
Other people’s high is better than yours.
Respect boundaries and stop when anyone says the word No.
If she tells you “don’t stop, just like that” then keep doing it ffs.
Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay.
Lube is your friend.
Reciprocate.
Men have a g-spot in their butts and, with practice and patience, can learn to have orgasms that are seemingly very similar to women’s orgasms.
Since I myself have mastered this, do feel free to AMA about it.
Having it doesn’t make you a better person.
That elephants are selfish lovers
That it’s not always a physical need.
As your man gets older (30+), foreplay becomes important for him, too.
Having sex with your best friends wife or husband is worse than having sex with your cousin.
Being into kinky sex, even sex that involves hitting your (consenting) partner, does not mean you’re okay with domestic violence.
It’s not that straightforward (at least not for me).
Without foreplay and variety, it’s just masturbation with extra steps.
That I’m good at it and that more people should do it with me.
There are 2 ways to be a selfish lover: one is to make sex all about yourself and not care at all about your partner’s pleasure.
The second, rarer but no less frustrating, is when you show up and please your partner but say “I don’t know” when they ask what they can do for you.
If you do it and are addicted to drugs, you may get pregnant.
And tweakers aren’t good parents
That it’s not necessary until necessary. It’s not the most important thing between partners
MAY RESULT IN ADDITIONAL HUMANS