It seems so difficult to do now. Everyone lets you down or hurts you because no one is perfect. It’s hard to get a career you like because everything is oversaturated. Friends only want to be around you when things are good. Family gets on your nerves but you gotta keep them around…etc etc
How do you “choose” to have a positive attitude when everything seems hard?
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A lot of effort.
Yea, shit sucks sometimes. But there’s always something positive to either latch onto and savor, or look forward to. You won’t be able to do it overnight, but if you keep trying to hold a positive attitude in your life, eventually you’ll learn how to do it.
Smoke weed.
You keep living life and it keeps knocking your hopes and expectations lower and lower, until you look at the shit around you and think ‘hey it ain’t so bad.’
I seek out heartwarming information, the little things in life, philosophers that spoke with love and compassion, i do what I am passionate about as much as I can, and I do little acts of kindness that result in happy little moments. I try to be content with what I have by focusing in the good.
You choose to control what you can, yourself and your reactions. Being upset about a hard situation in life won’t change it. Neither will being happy about a pleasant one. Toxic positivity is a thing, think of the good vibes only folks you might know. Life sucks sometimes and it just is what it is. You can make the choice to dwell on it, or choose not to and just move forward in the present moment.
Echo on the weed. Weed helps.
I try to find SOMETHING positive in every situation if I can and cling to it desperately.
Dinner at the in-laws? Free food.
Bad food at the in-laws? Once it’s over you don’t have to go back for a while.
Your friends are mad at you? Fewer holiday gifts to buy.
Dog ate your shoe? Oh no, I have to buy new shoes.
Dog ran away? Save money on dog food and potential vet bills. (This one is a bit desperate I’ll admit)
Find something positive. Anything. Relish and live in it.
It either everything is going to be better or depression
Depends on what. There are things you just have to accept and then is having faith and hope in everything you do
I don’t. Fuck the world and a majority of the people in it.
Every morning when I get up and every evening before bed I think of a couple of things I’m thankful for. There is always something.
“I cried because I had no shoes until I met a man who had no feet.” – Helen Keller.
Just fake it till you make it
I try really hard to feel my feelings when I need to, so I can be positive and happy the rest of the time. I try to ask myself that annoying question “is this going to matter in 5 years?”
Also when I find other people being terrible and rude I remind myself it’s not me they’re mad at but more Than likely are going through a hard time and don’t know how to properly express themselves
My mom had a little plaque that hung on the wall which I now keep on my desk. It’s called the Serenity Prayer.
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change
the courage to change the things I can
and the wisdom to know the difference.
Things happen.
Then things happen to you.
You can only choose one.
Cus i go hard thats the only way
When I’m upset about something I have to remind myself that being upset isn’t going to change the outcome. So I can be in my feelings, or I can accept it and move on. Now, reminding yourself of that won’t always work and that’s what weed is for.
Stay away from people. Stop being negative, try another outlook
This is a skill that is hard to master. It’s not always about being positive or happy, it’s about what you think you should be feeling or desire.
Identify the areas/triggers/feelings understand them, devise a plan on how your going to change this and why. The rest is just hard work and persistence.
I force myself to think of a positive for anything. I also stay grateful and think about what I do have, instead of what I don’t have.
Gratitude practice. Sometimes it’s really, really hard, and often I find myself stuck being grateful for the same few things over and over, but it does help.
Carefully controlling what I read, watch, and allow into my life. There is so much negativity out there, but I can keep a lot of it out.
Focusing on what I can control, rather than what I cannot.
And when all else fails, alcohol. Especially tequila.
But seriously, with practice, you can learn to be positive most of the time, although there will be times when you have to allow yourself to grieve, or feel sad, or angry, or even throw yourself a pity party.
Finding things that make me laugh, every day. And things that remind me that there is still beauty, and heroism, and love in this world.
I start with being amazed that I am actually alive. Then I go out into nature and I’m in awe of its beauty. Then I reflect on my own circumstances – I am healthy, I have a roof over my head, I have a son I love so much, a partner I love and great friends ect. Of course everything isn’t great all of the time but I don’t dwell on it. It’s all about perspective.
What other choice do I have? Breakdowns, inpatient facility stays and grippyb socks are for the rich! I’m a Mom and we don’t have time to let negativity win. It’s a helluva battle
I think that when you go through shitty things multiple times in your life, your mind realizes that the current shitty thing will pass and you just gotta hang in there and finish it out knowing that better times always come.
I despise toxic positivity and everything about it. I believe your attitude is an emotion, and you can’t choose your emotions. You can only choose how you respond to them.
Yes, you have some control over your brain by choosing what you focus on (avoid doomscrolling, for example). And things like sleep, diet, activity, social connections, and self care can help you cope with your emotions better. But there’s no magic button that turns off anxiety or stress or fear or sadness. Hard things don’t get easier just because you smile and think about baby ducks.
I actually find my emotions easier to cope with when I’m honest with myself. This thing I’m going through? It is hard. It’s objectively hard. That thing that’s happening in the world? Feeling frightened is a reasonable response to that. It would be very strange if a terrible thing happened and you didn’t feel sad or afraid.
It was always hard. We grew up in a time where the media was booming and social media was just coming out. We see only what the corporations or influencers want us to see. Life has never been, and will never be easy. that does not mean it isn’t beautiful and wonderful. We just need to accept that bad things will happen, and good things will too. More often than not the good requires some labor, some elbow grease, but it is always worth it.
Eh, I have a BIG problem with this kind of advice. I am not capable of gaslighting myself. Perhaps it’s because of the autism. I find it hard to comprehend how this works for others, but I highly doubt that it is healthy.
Look into CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy). There are lots of resources online and you can practice it yourself, you don’t need to see a therapist for it. A lot of it has to do with recognizing cognitive distortions and reframing your thoughts so that things feel more manageable. It’s really hard at first and it can seem kinda pointless, but I’ve been working on it for years and I feel like I do have a much more positive attitude now even though I still struggle.
I saw at least a couple comments telling you to smoke weed and while I won’t deny that it has its benefits, be careful of getting too reliant on it. I heavily self medicated with weed (and alcohol) for a while and after the first couple years it stopped helping and started being actively harmful because I was so dependent on it and it made my mental health issues worse.
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