We’ve been together for 2 years, living together for 8 months. Lately, she’s been acting weird — always hiding her phone, changed her passcode, and gets super defensive if I ask about her day.
Last weekend she said she was going out for a girls’ night. Cool. But one of her friends messaged me a meme, so I replied and casually asked how the night was going. She said, “What girls’ night?” and a few minutes later, she messaged again saying she was “just joking” and sent a photo of her. But it felt weird — like it was staged and she wasnt there. In the photo i cant see her clothes or anything, just the face.
I haven’t said anything yet. Am I overthinking this… or being played?
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Yup, most likely
If it looks like a duck…
You are being played.
Have an open and honest convo with her and tell her how you feel and how her actions make you feel.
Most likely..sorry bro but dip now before if get worse. Also, I guarantee when you say you want to break up she’s gunna throw the cheating right in your face. Just a heads up.
Yeah leave. It started that way with me. I would invite her to drink/smoke with me and she would say thats all I wanted to do. Fast forward to girls night I found out that she smoke and drank with a group of guys before going into their restaurant/club. I was done done. Dont settle for less. Also friends covered up so much when it was clear as day. They just kept going on with the lie even though I knew the truth.
run bro
Is she still having sex with you like always? Is she buying new sexy underwear or anything similar?
Yup
Is it wrong to hire a private detective to investigate? I know a couple of people who once did it. But I feel like it’s a point of no return and honestly i am afraid of what he could find
Why use chatgpt?
This is the kind of pressure that led to me to suicidal depression, as hurtful as ANYTHING can be, take care of yourself, you do not owe anyone anything, just try and take care of yourself.
Well, based on your brief post history, you like anime but get invested in the female characters to the point that you don’t want to see the nice girl get hurt in a love triangle, and you voted for the economic chainsaw guy but now think he’s being controlled by the jews…
… so I’m just gonna look at that and say, yeah, your girlfriend is probably cheating. The question about if you should hire a PI instead of like… talking to your significant other… is also a pretty good indicator of the bad thought processes on your end that are leading her to lay roads out of the relationship.
Sorry but I’m not even going to read your situation. If you think she’s cheating your relationship is fucked either way. Either she’s cheating on you or the other side of the coin you don’t trust her. No trust in a relationship is just as bad as cheating in a relationship.
Definitely cheating. I’m so sorry.
It’s done. Move on. She wasn’t out on a girls’ night. She was out on a date.
Updateme
If genders were reversed, everybody would immediately say yes and break up with him. Nobody can tell for sure, obviously, but probably the answer is yes.
Shiddd, at this point ask her.
Hiding phones is one thing, I get it sometimes personal messages from parents/siblings or even best friends need to stay private. However changing her password and the defensiveness should be a huge red flag. Just like everyone else saying if it looks like shit and smells like shit then it’s probably shit….leave or don’t leave that’s up to you we’re all just strangers answering your question and giving you advice. It’s up to you to determine what’s best for you…however if it were me I’d have kicked her ass to the curb without a second thought
Fuck her friend
I mean, this is Reddit so she’s clearly cheating.
In reality… Best bet is to talk to her, outline what you’ve observed and connected. Like, we don’t know her, you, your history, or your relationship. If something is bugging you like this and you can’t talk to her about it, probably a sign.
Anyways, My ex was cheating, many of the same behaviors, had the convo and was assured nothing was going on. Only caught her by accident… I checked her location on find my iPhone to see if she was on her way to start dinner since she wasn’t responding and wouldn’t while driving. Turns out she was at a place in town instead of way out of town where her friend lived. I didn’t confront her with that. I regret not pushing on that.
Maybe but also ive seen almost a very similar story but the gf was planning to throw a surprise and that’s why she was being secretive and the friends lying was when she was going out to do setup or work on the present. So just talk to her ig?
Yes
> always hiding her phone, changed her passcode
You would only know this if you were looking for her phone and knew her passcode. If you can’t trust her, and you are going through her phone, then you have things to work on. She deserves a modicum of privacy, and so do you. This relationship doesn’t give you the stability to feel like you have unshakeable trust in the other person. Time to move on.
Hey man… as a guy who put up with too much shit for years and ignored red flags for way too long, you need to end that relationship yesterday.
It’s sounds extremely likely that she’s cheating or at the very least hiding something from you. The anger and resentment you have towards her will build and get more and more toxic until she leaves.
I get that you say she’s “your world” but the right one shouldn’t make you feel this way. Honest opinion I wish friends would have given me in the past: rip the bandaid off now, you are standing up for yourself and not putting up with whatever it is she is hiding from you. I don’t think she has much respect for you, you deserve better. Does she treat you like a king or the help?
Men don’t have to put up with shitty partners.
Final tidbit from an older dude… you’re happier alone than you are in the wrong relationship. I know the need for companionship/sex can be very strong, especially when you’re younger, but DO NOT let women use that need against you. There are a lot of shitty people out there, you have to take care of yourself first because no one else will.
Be wary of being gas lit. These bitches always play that card and blame you. Always blames the men.
If it isn’t cheating it’s for sure a red flag
She’s cheating.
Leave her.
It’s not worth it.
This pain and doubt your feeling now, will never go as long as you’re with her.