I (24F) have a Dad who puts down my dreams. I have dreamed for over a decade of working in London, which is where all the jobs are for the particular career I want. My Dad, every time we talk, says I shouldn’t move to London. It is expensive, I am well aware, but it is also where all the jobs are for my dream career. I also would like to move to Europe as I have an EU passport. Dad again puts me down at every chance that I shouldn’t move outside of our country. EVERY TIME we talk he puts down my dreams, says I have to be realistic. As he wants my life to be, working in some small town in our country. And it is MY LIFE but he seems so determined that I can’t move to London or any of the European cities I want to. Bear in mind, in my home country I cannot have a career really in the industry I want to so need to leave. And he puts down EVERY DREAM. Even my romantic dreams he’s like “it’s not going to be like the films you watch.” I dream big in life – we only have one life after all – but my Dad crushes me at every opportunity. Even though I have built an impressive CV and have the qualifications, he seems convinced that I’ll be a failure in life. I have already had experience on a programme with a very famous company in our field – but he just downplays this and other achievements. It doesn’t help I currently live at home with him, so constantly, every day, it’s just putting me down at every opportunity.
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Follow your dreams. It can be hard for parents to see their children grow up and leave. He probably doesn’t want to face the inevitable.
He sounds miserable, and full of regret. Don’t let him get to you or drag you down to his level. He probably doesn’t want you to leave because it’ll tell him how he didn’t follow his dreams. YOU CAN DO OR BE ANYTHING YOU WANT TO BE.
Don’t talk to your dad about your dreams. Jsut go and live them. You can do it!! For the time being don’t talk about them with your dad.