Hey, I’m 15 and male. I feel like I’m ready for my first time, but at the same time, I don’t really feel ready. Whenever I think about it, part of me thinks, “Yeah, you’re ready,” but something inside me says, “Maybe you’re too young for this.” I’m also unsure about my sexuality. I’m attracted to both girls and guys, but I still think I’m more into girls. Then I see a really hot guy, and I think, “Oh my god, he’s so hot.” It totally confuses me, and I don’t know how I’m supposed to feel.
I also don’t feel comfortable talking to my friends about it because I don’t think they would understand. Has anyone else gone through something similar, or can offer some advice?
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Save it for your first significant partner. Rushing into things wasn’t rewarding at all for me and I regret that I didn’t wait.
Ok, so I’m not gonna tell you that you’re ready because only you can know that, all I can say is please don’t rush; it’s perfectly fine to change your mind in the middle, and it’s always good to communicate (I cannot stress enough how important communication is in sex). Sex is about feeling good, with someone you (at least) trust and have established boundaries with.
About your sexuality, being more inclined towards one sex is perfectly normal, it does not mean you will feel any less attracted to the other sex. Good luck, dude!
i lost my virginity at 16 and felt the same way you did.
I didn’t feel ready but when the kiss and touching happened, I went with the feeling of it all.
Yes, I had moments when it would cross my mind am I big enough? Am I good enough? Blah blah blah
But get lost in that passion and that moment.
If you don’t want to, there’s no rush at all, plenty will come. For me even if I was attracted to someone, I couldn’t feel any lust unless I had some sort of genuine feelings involved.
Absolutely no rush. That’s hormones. They can drive ya crazy
Best advice is to not get wrapped up in it. You’re not gonna die if you don’t get to have sex so young with someone who’s just as willing as you.
When the time comes you’ll know. Don’t lose sleep over it.
I am 24 and I am still a virgin. I know I could just do hookups but I am not like that at all. I am Roman Catholic and I know I want to wait till marriage. For real, don’t rush into this
In terms of who I like, I didn’t know what I wanted until I had a fling and it turns out it’s (at least for the most part sexually) not women. I didn’t immediately know who I was attracted to after this though, it took a lot of introspection about me as a person. I also had to really understand who I was. Frankly it caused a little crisis of self for like 6ish months and I also realized that I didn’t really have friends I could talk to about this stuff if I wanted to (I don’t, but I like to keep who I like to myself). I only had sex when I thought I initially knew what I wanted, and it doesn’t sound like you’re at step 1 yet, not to mention your age. Honestly, I would hold off, wait a few years and consider what you want and who you are as a person. I know its a little confusing, but a lot of us went through the same thing and it just takes time. Also, I would recommend you find someone in person who you can talk to about. Weirdly enough I find women better to talk to about these things but your mileage may vary