Not so much now that they established themselves, but when they first got out on their own. They rarely left my house without a bag full of stuff, I used to joke that they stopped by dad’s house to shop.
Not so much now that they established themselves, but when they first got out on their own. They rarely left my house without a bag full of stuff, I used to joke that they stopped by dad’s house to shop.
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My daughter just moved out a few days ago, so we’ll see!
We did. I was glad to be rid of everything they took.
They’re both farther away now but I always try to bring a pile of
crapstuff with me when I visit. I’m to the point in my life where the less stuff I have, the happier I am.Yes. Eventually they grew out of it, when they got full time jobs and could afford stuff. As students , they struggled.
My son doesn’t ask, but I voluntarily load him up with my (mostly) homemade food.
Ya mean the Mall of Mom?
Mine shops my art pieces, paintings, posters, etc. We supply foods they can’t find in Chicago. Now just waiting on the day they buy a home of their own to offload the massive (I don’t know anyone in my circle with more)Lego collection and any family furniture they may want.
All the time. I was happy to let them have things.
I wish! My son moved to the west coast from mid-America. I have furniture that I would love for him to take. I kept it because he wanted it, but it’s still waiting!
I did until they all moved back in!
Yes. I’d act offended, but I would purposely buy things they liked. They’re older and financially secure now but I always try to bring them candy or other snacks they like
Absolutely. I bought muffin tins they come in a pack of 2. I only have one. Anything i buy in bulk, my kids take some. Now it’s the grandchildren. They come over and raid my pantry and fridge because, apparently, Nana has all the good snacks. I cook and freeze soups. I never have any left after a visit. This is what happens to good parents.
We give them stuff. My son was remodeling one of the bathrooms on their house so I loaded him up with all the tools’ he’d need. Daughter decided she wanted to get into baking so we loaded her up with a stand mixer and tons of baking pans. Granddaughter decided she wanted to get into archery so I gave her a bow, arrows, a target, etc..
These are all things we seldom, if ever use any more. Why not save them money and make use of something that is just sitting there unused? We encourage them to let us know if they need something. If we’ve got it and aren’t using it, it’s theirs!
One of ours still lives with us. He eats a lot, sometimes even buys food other than at work.
During his first year back home, we had this exchange:
Him: “We’re out of X.”
Me: “You work in a grocery store.”
My older kids are established & still pantry shop every time they come over. I don’t mind. Most times I buy extra of things I know they like so they can take them.
My coworker had to go buy lunch the other day because his daughter came over at midnight and raided the refrigerator.
She even took his lunch that he packed.
No, but our neighbors do.
We live in a condo downtown in our metro area. This couple sold their house in a far out suburb and moved in nextdoor. At first their 20 year old didn’t want to come with to the city. So kid got roommates out in his burb.
A year later kid got an apartment like 6 blocks from our condo, but never told the parents. Showed up as a surprise one day on door step. Dad was pissed, wanted to be away from all of his kids. Mom was super excited.
Kid is at their house every night for dinner. He just jumps the patio fence and has a key to their patio door. He doesn’t drive. He walks home several days a week with groceries and household items.
My wife and I laugh our asses off. Our kid finished college around same time, came home for 3 months and flew the coop to never return.
Neighbor dad won’t stop complaining. His son points out he finished community college, pays his own rent and bills and just stops by for dinner.
The mom completely loves it.
I did that at my mom’s when I first left home. She always told me too and she’d offer me stuff she thought I’d need. I think she was happy to still be helping me.
Yes, and I am happy to see things that I have inherited and don’t use, go to an appreciative home and lessen my load.
As the kid I’d do that, especially if it was junk they didn’t want or need. Most of the time it went to a donation place on the way home.
My kids live too far away, but I used to do it at my folks’ house mostly to get old, expired food out of there.
Oh yes and I love it. 😻
Mrs. 1LW and I are getting rid of “things” hand-over-fist these days. Every weekend, we make a run to the Goodwill.
Meanwhile, our kid works super-hard and doesn’t get paid nearly what she’s worth. If she and her partner want to take some stuff off our hands, I’ll help load the car!
I used to fill bags for them. Give them what I could. I don’t mind at all.
Now my grandkids are doing a little shopping. My grandson that is getting married asked me if he could “Use” my cast iron. I boxed my cast iron all up for him, threw in some of my pyrex bowls, and my sifter that he played with when he was a baby…..My granddaughter asked me about getting a hope chest started for when she goes off to college, so I gave her my pots and pans. LOL…Those pots are pre 1970s….lol.stainless steel. Each of my grandkids want something….one wanted my dehydrated and I gave it to him…another wanted my recipe books, gave them to her. I mean, it’s all about their own interests. My granddaughter that will head off to college next year is putting together all of their favorite recipes. I write them down and she provides contest to them….this is nana’s delicious Christmas dessert she has made forever….youknow…and the brownie recipe minus the canna butter. LOL>. Yes, my grandkids are all about keeping memories alive and while I’m alive. They fight over my rock and fossil collection.
Not my kids, but my grandkids never leave without something when they come around. Jewelry, tools, stuff out of granny’s stash box… we joke we’re the corner market.
I do! Mine are all in their twenties. Dad and I buy in bulk, then load the kids up when they come over. Or bring a bunch of stuff when we visit them.
They appreciate it!
I wish they would! It’s usually the opposite. Whenever they visit I’m trying to give them whatever they’ll take. Or they’re dropping things off in a closet or garage, then I don’t know whose it is or where it came from.
Yes that’s why I shop at Costco. You gotta help them, it’s not easy these days for young ppl , it’s actually catastrophic that most even chose not to have children bc of cost of.life. I will always help them until I die , my pantry is their pantry.
YEP, not so much anymore as they’ve moved farther away and are much older. My oldest would come over every night around dinner and say “What are you cooking” and eat. My middle would come over and open the pantry and just start loading lol. I got smarter with my youngest and taught him how to cook and his girlfriend seems to be not only surprised but pretty happy about it. 🙂
Hell, one of my grown kids still lives with us. He’s a college student and can’t afford to be on his own. But, having him there has its perks. He does the yard work, takes out the trash, runs various errands for us, and whatnot. When I say grown I mean grown. He’s 25. If his mother had any say, he’d never move out.
I have the opposite problem. My son is 2 hours away at college and orders his big items to my house because he has no room in his apartment. He asked me the other day if I would store a Pac-Man machine he found online in the basement for him.
My girls who live in the area will come by for a free meal. Their dad might send them home with some extra food or something like that but that’s it.
They still live here. Lolz.
The top shelf in one of my closets is where I store random purchases (because of cuteness not need-ness) and gifts I can’t use. My girls go shopping there every Christmas.
I don’t have kids, but when I first moved out on my own I did do a lot of grocery shopping at my parent’s house. Until the day my dad “caught me.” (To be clear, my mother knew exactly what I was doing) But I showed him how expensive it is for one person because either you pay a premium for single serving sizes or you buy a more economical size and end up throwing half of it away. And I was only taking things like a small chunk of cheese when he also had a full block or four eggs out of a whole dozen.
So we settled on 1) I was not allowed to write anything on his grocery list (which I would do to be a smart ass) and 2) I had to buy my own frozen pizzas.
My mom used to load us up on stuff whenever we visited, even in our forties. It got a tiny bit better once we had our own Costco and Trader Joe’s to go to at home.
They did and I encouraged it. I’d often “redecorate” so they could have nice things in their homes. It was better than them living with nothing – or asking me for money for bills, lol.
Not by choice, I can’t stop my mom from giving me her stuff! I’m 40 and she still sends me home with at least a shopping bag full of stuff every time I visit. No mom, no one wants your scratched up, flaking teflon from 1970 that is not actually safe to cook on anymore.
But I’m happy to help in her efforts to clean out her house. Otherwise I’m going to have to do the whole thing by myself.
At 49 years old, married over 25 years, mom still sent us home with everything under the sun. I do the same for my kids
My grandmother’s legendary attic helped furnish all four of her grandchildren’s houses. Her flea market addiction paid off.
Not my kids but my sisters
I “shopped” at my parents’ home for the first few months after moving out of my parents’ home because I didn’t have a job.
Haha. We were those “kids”. We called it “Big House” shopping.
Before I had to move away to help my own mom, I would have my adult children and their SO’s over for dinner once a week, both to see them and make sure they got at least one decent meal. They’ve both been out for 5 years now, and never asked me for money. My son borrows my tools, but I still need them and he respects that by bringing them back. I’ll give him something if I have a duplicate tool, or “sponsor” him with hot rod parts if I have something he needs.
Yup. They throw the cabinets open and shop. Who cares? We love when they visit & bring my grandkids.
Yes! Mine definitely did. One time my daughter had her arms full of stuff from my pantry and said, “Mom, I think I need a cart!”
I just did this yesterday lol! I’m 48!
Nope.
We have been their furniture outlet for years.
Haha I used to do this at my dad’s house in my 20s. I would smuggle out some soap and toilet paper shampoo etc. He would’ve given it to me and probably knew I was taking it. He usually still sends me off with some fruit and other food.
lol my 40 yo daughter does it. If we visit her she robs mom’s suitcase contents.
When we were first married, we used to shop my in-laws house, I don’t think they ever threw anything out
Yup. I have one who brings her laundry over too.
My oldest has been out on her own for almost a year. Every time she comes home she leaves with stuff. Whether it’s tp and paper towels, or cat litter and canned foods from the cabinet. Kid took an entire family sized bag of chicken breast once. I’m like girl what you doing!? 😂😂😂 first thing she does when she comes home is shop
LOL, totally off topic, but my grandson stopped by on he’s way to the Basketball Court, with his friend, to shop for snacks today.
I need to stock the pantry with higher value snacks. LOL
Hahaha… a couple of times my daughter has “shopped” my pantry. Although once she left me$100
I feed them weekly and have the elder grandchild overnight (the baby is too young yet)
If there’s enough leftovers I’ll pack them work lunches.
I’ve been slowly sending son home with his kid stuff, lol.
Lol….my parents couldn’t wait for me to finish getting my crap out of their basement. Took a few years though. First apartment was a 1 bedroom.
It was all out well before I bought my house. Then the real problem started: they began trying to unload their stuff on me.
My mom went through a time about a year or so before she died where she was pushing household goods on me. I was like….dad’s still alive. He’s gonna need SOME of this stuff.
Yep. My 21 yo takes laundry pods, dish pods and toilet paper every single time he comes over
After I bought my 1st house I liberated my parents vacuum cleaner Still works 26 years later
Oh sure. When our kids were first setting up on their own it was definitely a thing. Among other things my wife and I had been married well over 20 years by then. And like a lot of couples we had a lot of ‘extra’ stuff. Things we’d grown tired of and retired to storage. My wife would decide she wanted to change the color scheme of a bathroom so all the peach colored washrags and towels and knickknacks got changed out for blue stuff. And she didn’t want to just toss the old stuff because it was still in good shape. And so forth.
And, of course, just starting out there would be the visit where son or daughter was saying they were a little short until payday and my wife would be loaded up sacks or box loads of food, some laundry detergent, tube of toothpaste, or whatever. We were somewhat of preparedness types. In our basement we had about a 3 month supply of about anything you might need. And a visit by one of the kids would deplete the supply. With my wife saying, ‘Of course, no problem. You know we have extra.’
LOL … Geez … I never got asked my opinion about all of that.
But it was okay, they eventually got their feet under them and got to going on their own okay.
My #2 isn’t allowed in my house anymore because of “casing” the house for things he can sell for drugs.