I (23f) live with my (39f)mom and (9&10f)sisters. I take care of my sisters full time. Their dad is dead so it’s just my mom and I. My mom is incredibly emotionally abusive.
Things my mother has said/done:
– calls them assholes frequently
– called them brats
– speaks down to them
– said they have a big fat mouth
– called them psychotic
– has called both of them “dummy” and “idiot”
– constantly asks them “what’s wrong with you!?”
– has said fuck you to them
– tells them to shut up
– she hit my 10 year old sisters mouth for calling our mom a bitch
– said they’re “acting like a bitch”
– she told them that if she dies from cancer, it’s their fault because they cause her stress
– dismisses their emotions, constantly saying it’s not a big deal
– shames them when they’re naked or curious about their bodies. She said tonight that it’s disgusting that they smell their hands after they touch their vulva. She also said they shouldn’t feel comfortable being naked at their age.
She hits my 9 year olds sister’s butt a lot and doesn’t see anything wrong with it. She said “it’s just there” like????? what the fuck.
I’m in the process of saving up to move out. My goal is $14,000 and I’ve saved up $600 in the past two months. My goal is to move out by march 2026 but I can’t continue to turn a blind eye to the fact that my mother is incredibly emotionally/mentally abusive.
If the only advice you’re going to give me is to move out, i’m already on it so just save the response. I need actual advice.
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This is really challenging because she’s unlikely to respond well to any corrections or suggestions from you. The only idea I have is involving their school counselor—if they reach out to your mom and she gets a little heat, she might be more receptive and less defensive.
You have asked this several times – have you called CPS?
Since there is physical abuse involved you can call CPS, document the abuse, try to get on your feet and then you can petition for custody..
Do you have other family members who could help you out in this scenario? I am very sorry to hear of your situation, and am grateful you’re concerned about your sisters. I hope you are a balancing force for them. 🩷