Taking an argument to the internet. They cropped one sentence of a very long message to make me look like the villain. They also did this the day after I attended my uncles funeral.
found out he slept with my girlfriend high school girlfriend and held that secret for 10 years. He also invited my 13 year old sister out to drink and party with his/our friends.
Drew the line, ended the friendship, and clocked him in the jaw for that one.
I didn’t learn he slept with my high school girlfriend until many years after the friendship ended. But that made a lot of things make complete sense.
He was always extremely angry and ticked off at me whenever I spent time with her.
Asked “why can’t you date white girls” after I began dating my now wife and then starting wearing that stupid ugly ass red maga hat. Was pretty done after that.
Couldn’t be bothered to come and see my daughter who had just been born.
Kept messaging me asking when we would meet up, told him to come over but he just kept saying he didn’t know my new address, despite the last conversation and the one before including said address.
She was unvaccinated and refused to take a covid test before seeing me. My mother was terminally ill and severely immuno-compromised, so I was absolutely trying to minimise the risk of getting covid so I could still see my Mum.
She refused to take a test, twice, despite kind and calm requests and explanations, on the basis that she “didn’t want to get a sinus infection.” (This was in the time of nasal swabs, not mouth swabs, for covid tests. You know, those nasal swabs that are sterile and can’t cause infection.)
I’m 100% sure that it wasn’t about a sinus infection. It was about control. She had been annoyed because I hadn’t validated her anti-vax stance in the past.
Similarly, I know she wanted more validation for her religious views, which she’d acquired in her 30s and which I didn’t share. I’d told her that I was happy her faith made her happy, but I think she wanted me to truly share her beliefs. I’d also said that her sister’s bisexuality was “fine with me” when she’d stated that a wedding of 2 women was “not what God wants.”
I think all of those different views just threatened the way she saw the world, and how she saw herself.
Her last texts thanked me for “sharing my views” re covid and it’s potential to kill my Mum, then became pseudo-concerned when I didn’t reply. I read the whole situation as “I want to say whatever I want to you, but I want to still feel like a nice person, so please reply and give me that validation.”
I didn’t reply to her, but I still ask myself whether the mature thing to do would have been to clearly reply and state that I didn’t want to stay in contact. It’s taken me until now (over a year later) to see through the pain and formulate what I might have said.
We’d been friends since the first days of high school. 20+ years. In essence we just aquired very different views from each other as adults, but I can’t pretend her attitude towards my Mum, and towards the horrible journey my family had to take, wasn’t devastating.
Life is a bloody painful journey at times, that’s for sure.
When me and my parents migrated to the UK, i started school but was unhappy in it. Then in my second year i got moved and he became my first (of very few) friends in that school. We were basically inseperable, until we graduated from the school 4 years later.
He went to a different secondary school and we kinda lost contact. After that i tried to restore it through our parents since they were still friends, even getting his number but no matter what i tried i just never got a reply back.
Eventually, after trying for god knows what time years later, i asked myself “Do i really respect myself that little to chase someone who doesn’t have the decency to reply?” and deleted everything related to him.
Funny enough it was right wing propaganda years ago. Pre the Orange Idiot. I could forgive the things like him oversleeping so I’d go to the gym before 6am and end up working out by myself repeatedly. But infowars and all that, it became a constant stream of conspiracy theories.
A month of 1 words texts from her while I was prepping to move. Explained to her that I was physically moving & she kept quiet.. then we quit talking altogether. A few months later my mom and nephew told me her mother died and she told them not to tell me.
She had the audacity to show up when my family dog had to be put down (old/ health issues) and I lost my shit.
I quit talking to my nephew after that as well.
I was around 5 or 6 then. I had a neighbor playmate same my age whom I considered as best friend. I am an only child and she comes to our house to play with me. Then suddenly she said she got a new bicycle and she said “she don’t have to come to me”
He yelled at me for correcting him on the pronunciation of a word, something he did to me all the time, despite being wrong. He yelled and yelled at me. I said I’m done, bye, but not before calmly getting in one barb at him.
I felt that i was doing all the leg work. I started every conversation, was the first one to email, text etc. so one day i decided i was going to wait for her to message first. And sure here we are 18 years later.
Everything was someone else’s fault. On both the macro and micro levels.
If it was an interpersonal issue it was never him at fault, ever. Relationship problems, always his partners at fault. Even when the same reasons caused each break up. Got into a verbal altercation at the bar? Someone else’s fault completely.
My best friend/best man at my wedding slept with my married sister on my wedding night.
Turns out the full open bar at the reception wasn’t the best idea.
I found out after the honeymoon that the whole family knew what had happened that night.
I don’t hold a grudge but things weren’t the same with my friend and I.
In honesty, I had a chance to sleep with my friend’s sister years before all that, but I turned her down in respect for my friend–so when that happened it was especially difficult to swallow.
She told me she was addicted to drugs to avoid apologizing to me for something that hurt me (apparently being a drug addict cancels out being an ass to your friends)
I later found out she lied to me and made that up
We were friends for more than half my life (14 years)
My best friend I grew up with kept getting drunk and pissing the area she was sleeping on (my work colleagues couch and my own bed on my birthday)
We lived about 3hrs drive from eachother so i wouldnt see her regularly. I pleaded with her to talk to me about it, I wanted to support her and help her if it was a drinking problem or a social thing. She just flat out refused to discuss it at all, im sure she was ashamed but her demeanor felt like she didn’t care.
I haven’t seen her in 10 years and it still hurts alot 😔
Her and I were friends since 5th grade, on her 35th birthday a group of people went out to an all you can eat Korean BBQ. One guy in the group decided to pay for everyone (story was he was Ace and didn’t spend money on partners bc single, so he liked spending on friends), my friend was massively drunk and yelled at him in front of the entire restaurant that he shouldn’t have spent that much money.
He went off the political deep end when Trump ran in 2016 and I ignored a lot of it, When covid hit, he opted to post a meme reference wearing a mask during covid as the equivalent of volunteering to get on a train to a concentration camp. This post came after a negative comment on my posting about my wife making masks for the family. I reminded him of my heritage and how the part of my family that remained in Germany never survived. His response was “So what, still rings true”. Didn’t bother responding, just removed him from social media and haven’t said a word to him since.
We were friends for about 14 years or so. What the final straw was was that not only did he turn more and more racist over time which was something i frowned up on and i didn’t want to talk about this with him. But ALSO that he openly started to flirt with my then-girlfriend when they met for the first time (and he knew about our relationship) he started showing his “muscles” and wanted to demonstrate how strong he was by randomly doing push-ups. He was a very “look at me i’m an attention whore” kinda guy.
Spoke about it later on and he told me “you know you’re like this because you’re on cloud nine. You’ll come running back to me as soon as the relationship ends”
Well mate, it’s been a year since the relationship ended, it’s been a year and 6 Months since we last spoke. I don’t think so.
She burst into a dinner party of people neither of us know, to make an announcement. She didn’t knock on the door – the guests were seated at the table -and she loudly said that I had given her herpes (a lie.) The hostess of the party (it was a gathering of her work friends) knew us both, so she told me in private.
That ripped the rug out from under my feet and I went NO CONTACT on the crazy woman. That was 40 years ago.
She told me she “didn’t have time for my problems” because she was a mother when I wanted company and support the weekend my service dog was diagnosed with lymphoma. She got angry and ghosted when I said that’s kinda fucked up when I’ve always supported you. This is the third time she’d pulled that shit, so I didn’t reach out when she tried to start texting like nothing happened, just told her she’d have to set up a time to talk this out, and she never did. She moved out of state 2 years later with my godson and didn’t even tell me.
She started routinely paying rent weeks late. And blocked me from her social media so she could secretly post about going to concerts and music festivals with her rent money.
He dated my best friend (they met because of me) and she utterly trashed his heart and cheated on him. Just… awful, I regret introducing them. Our friendship got ghosted during their relationship, and after they broke up, it was clearly done. Sucks, but I get it. Still miss the dude. Hope he’s happier now that he got the fuck away from everyone.
Kept “borrowing money” for me to “feed their kids” or get “their kids medication, it’s an emergency!” And, truly, they were destitute, these instances were plausible. But, one day, after being told one of the kids had been hospitalized and released home, and between the uber rides to and from the hospital they didn’t have enough for his meds at the pharmacy, I signed on to Facebook and saw pictures of them – “sick” kid included – at a block party. Destroyed the friendship for me.
For the record, I never expected them to pay back borrowed money for food or medicine. I was happy to help. Those kids were like my kids, too. It was betrayal and finding out I wasn’t loved like I loved that got me.
Taking my Blackberry and sending a message deriding me to every single one of my contacts. I only found out because a few of them called me and asked who is the person who did this.
One of the smartest guys I know. Talented in almost everything he did, just naturally and I grew up so jealous of him. Late nineties and he discovered speed and ecstasy and through years of abuse it changed him. Even down to his face. When he was on E his face would sag and slowly but surely that droopy saggy face became his only face. Final straw was finding out he had sold some of my things he had borrowed then lied about it blaming others. I miss him a lot but the guy I miss is gone now.
Friends from middle school up to our mid 20s due to him living across the street from my parents. Even after I moved into my own place he was still in walking distance. He’s always been a bit “off” but regardless we were close.
First he tried banging my girlfriend (at the time) while we were going through a rough patch. Saying she should dump me.and he’d “treat her right”. She let me scroll through all the texts.
I initially broke it off there.
Well he got arrested/ convicted for trying to get with a 9th grader while he was 27. Like real explicit texts. It’s ironic too since he used to criticize people for dating others who were a year or two older.
What a creep. As far as I know he’s still mooching off his mother (who doesnt have much to begin with) and probably still just plays video games all day.
So I haven’t ended this friendship, per se, but I have stepped back from it.
I grew up with my buddy, and his family wasn’t the greatest. Mom was a stripper, dad wasn’t too bad but a little stern (think typical boomer/gen X blue collar father). Parents got divorced, and the home life devolved a little further. He fell in with “the wrong crowd” in high school, and we drifted apart a bit. I left, but we’d reconnect years later whenever I’d come back to town. I always made a point to try and see him.
My father died in January of ’24, and since this guy was like another brother to me, and another son to my father, I hoped he’d join us at the memorial. He swore he’d be there but never showed.
My older brother’s wife graduated with her masters in May of that same year, and I invited this guy again, gave him about a months heads up, and reminded him a time or two leading up to it. Swore he’d be there, but he never showed.
I still love him like a brother but I came to realize he just wasn’t in a place, mentally or emotionally, to maintain lasting adult friendships, likely stemming from all the shit he went through as a kid. I’ll leave the ball in his court, but I wouldn’t be surprised if I never heard from him again.
I was prepared to die and he reacted by going silent. His wife decided to treat me less than human and alienated me from our circles. I made my third attempt ever that weekend. It has now been four months and I’m just barely alive. Barely showing up to work. I can’t find joy in my hobbies or my healthcare role (nurse, attending).
I was in the middle of a divorce and my childhood bestie told me that I was a shit Christian and that I deserved being mentally abused. Spread lies to my family (saying I was on drugs and drinking wildly every night) and made my life much harder during an already difficult time. A few years later she also got divorced but it was ok because God wanted her to leave him. She has tried to reach out over the years to try to get info on my life to talk to my parents (we are technically related by marriage) and cause drama. I had to delete all social media to get her to leave me alone.
I finally got tired of how she treated me. She was a terrible friends loved drama and shit talking people and the last day we saw each other I was driving her drunk ass around while she tells me no one likes me and attacks all insecurities. I wait till next morning no apology blocked her on everything
When I realized that me being a good friend to her was actually just me being a caretaker with poor boundaries and putting up with years of emotional abuse.
When that fog lifted it was completely life changing.
One of my friends who I had known for about 15 years, encouraged me to go to rehab. They were very supportive about it and even helped me find a place and put together everything I needed.
We had a falling out over something completely unrelated a few months after I got out.
Fast forward about a year and I decide I want to try and make amends with her. She, rightfully, asks me how I’m doing with sobriety. And I admit to her that even though I was sober for more than a year, I had recently relapsed.
Her response was “I knew it. I knew I was right and that you weren’t going to stay sober.”
Not “Wow I’m really sorry to hear that. That sucks. What can I do to help?”
It was sad seeing her going down the path she was going on, but that told me I personally could not help her and I needed to distance myself for my own sanity and mental well being. Been a good 8 years since then and she seems to be doing ok, but I have no desire to reach out.
Not lifelong but recently ended a long friendship. Realized if I spoke, she didn’t listen. She told me I had too many problems when I would “force” her to finally hear me. It was always her problems taking precedent and 99% of those problems were self inflected. Happy to be living with much less drama and wouldn’t you know some of my problems cleared up with the friendship ending.
This ended a lifelong friendship in our circle of 4 friends:
During the height of Covid, my friend ‘Ann’ had separated from her husband the previous year and was alone. She asked our friend ‘Jane’ if she could be part of her family bubble ( where we live this was allowed/encouraged for individuals living alone, so they didn’t have to be totally isolated). Ann came from a bad family upbringing and had none and Jane always told her that ‘ family is who you make it, it’s not just your blood, we (meaning our friend group) can be your sisters.’
Jane was particularly anxious about Covid, but wouldn’t discuss it. She would cancel (distanced) plans last minute, stuff like that. And during Covid Jane told Ann that sorry, she couldn’t be part of her family bubble. Her daughter had met a guy and immediately Jane invited him and his family over and be part of them, even though they were strangers. It was very important for her to welcome him and his family in with open arms but unimportant to do the same with her alone friend of 30 years.
I tried to get Ann and Jane to talk about it but Jane wouldn’t acknowledge that Ann was deeply hurt and Ann didn’t want a hurtful full blown fight so that ended our long time friend group. I see Ann all the time and Jane a few times a year but it’s super awkward and a total shame.
Good old fashioned narcissm and bullying. Even came with a DARVO value meal. (Deny any wrong doing, Attack me personally, unoReverse the roles of Victim and Offender to control the narrative) After i went no contact he even waged a one man crusade/smear campaign against me in a failed attempt to turn my friends against me including trying to weasel his way into my girlfriend’a good graces to get to me.
All of these attempts failed spectacularly due to me essentially doing nothing while he kept proving my point about him with his abusive behavior.
Now hes just a lolcow from the past and looking back on it, im glad i finally stood up to him.
I was diagnosed with cancer a year after moving across the country from my friends from high school. I didn’t ask for them to do anything except play some online games with me while I recovered from surgery.
Not one of them did. They were playing other games (I could see in my various friends lists) but none of them would put aside the games they were playing to keep me company and take my mind off of things. No texts, no phone calls, nothing. The only thing I asked for was time/online company and they put in zero effort.
This was the last straw in a long, long string of feeling like an afterthought. It’s been 9 years and not a single one of them has even tried to contact me since then. Guess being an “afterthought” was too optimistic even.
She said that I should have told her to break up with her college boyfriend that was emotionally abusing her (I lived over 20 hours away and only spoke with her over the phone for years, only met the guy once at the end of their relationship, wasn’t aware he was emotionally abusing her, and I actually did ask her why she was with him). She said that I wasn’t supporting her but rather enabling her and that she had lost all respect for me.
Went on vacation to Miami with a few other friends and him. During the trip he went to the hotel pool where a model photo shoot happened to be taking place. He took pictures of the girls while they were changing.
We were in a fight because I was trying to set boundaries with her (codependent friendship), and she kept questioning everything and not listening.
Told me I was too emotional, accused me of giving her the silent treatment after about 12 hours (even though we were talking on Facebook, not live, and most of the time was at night when I was asleep). Told me she was disappointed in me.
I realized she must not like me very much as a person, and that steeled my resolve to completely end things. I knew it wasn’t going to survive the way it was.
Still miss her all the time, and we do talk on rare occasions (she messaged me when I was in the hospital, and me with her, etc) but there were too many things that happened overall to make me believe we can never truly be good, or best, friends again.
She couldn’t stop doing heavy drugs! She gave up two kids to their grandparents to raise and just kept making stupid choices over and over again. I was the blunt one that always told her she is on some bullshit and eventually she just stopped talking to me. Friends will let me know they see her on the streets of our home town. I think she lost all her teeth. She will randomly send me memes on ig tho!
She started off in a better place than life than me in many ways. But Her life had gone to shit. Partially as a result of her own choices, not entirely.
I made a life myself, got a good career, moved to London, got a good education, bought a house, met my husband.
She was supposed to be in my bridal party but pulled out due to poor mental health. She had a meltdown at my hen do when she realised I had a whole, large group of friends.
I think she expected life to just hand it all to her on a plate and it simply didn’t. I think she always thought I’d be the worse off friend next to her.
It just didn’t pan out that way.
I think the lead up to my wedding just highlighted all my successes against her perceived failings. She ghosted me after the wedding and hasn’t really spoken to me since.
I hold out hope she’ll see sense. But I think the friend I loved and cherished is gone. A husk of herself. It’ll be hard for me to overcome the fact she casually threw our friendship away over what boils down to envy.
Sometimes it’s a weird thing that you can’t even explain. I’ve stopped talking to some really close friends for no reason at all – just growing apart and becoming different people that no longer click, I guess.
I’ve come to terms with the fact that some friendships just come with an expiry date. Move on. Be thankful they came into your life. Next.
I had supported her through a terrible break up (canceling her wedding the morning of, with an abusive alcoholic) and countless other personal tragedies for a decade. She has a wonderful heart but cannot get out of her own way and is completely unreceptive to any type of advice, no matter how gentle. I became worried about her as I noticed her mental health declining, and essentially had a “come to Jesus” with her and 2 other friends in an incredibly supportive, safe setting.
She lashed out at me and said she was sick of my drama and didn’t need me as a friend if I couldn’t support her. I told her if by “support” she meant “watch her spiral into yet another black hole she’ll need help crawling out of”, then she was right. I said “I am always here to help you but I can’t watch this and do nothing.” She never spoke to me again. It broke my heart but after speaking to another former friend of hers with a similar experience, I realized it’s just her pattern.
He tried to start a band with me and some other dudes he met online in musicians’ forums. Was really good and fun at first, but one of them was a lot more into it and started to take charge. Kinda induced a quarter life crisis in my friend (we grew up as neighbours) and he thought we all needed to practice more often and record an album and book gigs, while we were still at the point of badly covering Green Day songs in his basement. One day, both of them pressured me via Whatsapp and I just had enough. Told him this is not really what I signed up for and would therefore quit the band. We also had some political differences, so I don’t think either of us was keen on trying to ease tension. Haven’t heard from him since, but I know the other dude tried the same with at least two other bands.
Best friend of 19 years tells me to go talk to a cute guy at a wedding
Guy and I hit it off and start a long distance relationship
Best friend of 19 years gives me the silent treatment for no reason for 3 weeks including my birthday because I told her that guy and I are doing really well
Best friend of 19 years starts talking to me again but never explains herself and never apologizes for acting like a child. Never says she’s happy that I’m happy in a new relationship; never shows any support
Best friend of 19 years and I start hanging out again but I keep a safe distance emotionally because why did she get upset about me starting a relationship with someone that she told me to go talk to in the first place
After 1.5 years of hanging out again, found out that best friend of 19 years still talks shit about my relationship behind my back. That was the final straw for me. Blocked on everything. Moved on. Actually much less stress in my life since cutting her off
She texted me after I retweeted something in support during the 2020 protests. She was probably drunk and trying to pick a fight with me via text. Then tried calling me and getting mad when I didn’t answer. 20+ years down the drain.
A guy I’ve been friends with for over 15 years has alienated me and most of our friend group. He was always an abrasive person, but we all knew he had a good heart and when the chips were down, would do anything to help.
It’s a group full of LGBT people. Not by intent, but like attracts like. As time went by he became a “Libertarian” and kept insisting he was far smarter than anyone else politically.
He also became a MASSIVE Chud. And would constantly argue with us on pointless shit because he considers himself “a debater”. It would always end with everyone else telling him to stop because he would always push it way too far, which resulted in everyone being pissed off, including him.
Eventually, he gave me in particular an ultimatum. Telling me that I had changed. I laid out that no, he was the problem and that we were worried about him.
He refused to change. So I left. Along with my wife. And a few other friends. And then other friends who didn’t want to be the only ones left around to manage him.
Most of the time I see him sitting on discord in our server, on voice, alone. Two of our friends go and check in on him out of loyalty and pity (like I said, he helped us out a lot in the past) but it’s clear everyone is now much happier without his influence.
It sucks. It really does. I mourn the person I knew before he changed. The man of reason and rationality he thinks he still is.
Told me I was a bully, I “always get what I want” in a snarky way as if I was stealing it from her, I was no longer kind and considerate like I “once was,” and other insults, but refused to elaborate and specify what I did wrong.
The guy drank the conservative kool-aid. Started laughing at my political posts, attacking people in the comments.
I tried to maintain the friendship by establishing boundaries. Explained that if he didn’t comment on my political posts I would maintain the same level of respect.
It lasted about three months before he started attacking people commenting on my posts and dropping laugh emojis like confetti.
I cut him loose and his reply was “that’s a bit extreme isn’t it?”
I explained that we had agreed on boundaries that he had violated and he replied by calling me a commie and acting like a victim.
She invited me to her birthday party that was happening that weekend, so a last minute ask. I told her I couldn’t attend because I already had preset plans for the weekend to see family visiting from out of town and whom I hadn’t seen in years.
She got angry and said a number of mean things, including how much of a bad friend I was for not dropping my plans to go to her birthday party. She was turning 32.
We never really talked again. Coincidentally, I was also feeling like garbage that week because little did I know, I was also pregnant and about to undergo some serious morning sickness. Blegh.
He got into a relationship, and suddenly he would only hang out with his new boyfriend’s friends and drop his own. Any invitation to hang out or go to dinner was flaked on by saying he ‘couldn’t afford’ dinner (even though I’ve offered to pay and have paid several times), then a week later I see his IG story of him fucking off to Miami with his boyfriend. But he couldn’t pay for dinner, where I was excited to tell him I got engaged.
Kinda had an epiphany after my current girlfriend told me he had made a pass at her after he knew we were dating. He’s done the same with basically every woman I’ve dated, and for one reason or another at the time I’d forgive him or give him a pass because of extenuating circumstances.
I dunno why but after that last time I decided that I actually don’t give a shit what his excuse is, trying to actively sabotage my relationships is not something I should have to tell a friend is not cool, let alone reiterate it every time I enter a new relationship.
When I was a freshman in college I shared a room with my best friend from high school. I kept a diary that I wrote in every day, and I would hide it in my locked closet.
One day I came back from class to find her reading out loud from my diary to a group of our friends. She had broken into the closet just to get the diary.
I haven’t spoken to that bitch in 30 plus years.
He fucked my ex like a day after it ended. Grabbed beers with him the night we broke up to ease the pain. Then he stabbed me in the back. Never talked to him again
My boundaries were disrespected repeatedly and if I voiced my opinion I was ghosted for months with no explanation. During the time of ghosting I was not even contacted about important events like me being sick from covid, birthdays or Christmas.
I’d not care if that person did not insist of calling me her best friend.
I had a hysterectomy with post op complications including two allergic reactions and a blood clot. A week and a half after surgery, one of my students died. My boss didn’t even tell me, I had to find out from a colleague and another student who was his best friend. My daughter was then going to bail on a trip we already paid for. I tried talking to a friend about all of these things because it felt like it was one thing after another. He told me the problem was my hormones. When I told him to stop bringing that up because he did bring it up before. Then he told me I was censoring him. It was then I realized he was misogynistic because even though I was going through a really hard time, he blamed it all on my hormones from my hysterectomy.
I don’t have many friends. Met this mum at a kids party once, both our children were there. And we just hit it off! Over the year, we became so close. We would hang out after dropping kids off at school. Go shipping together, get nails done. “FINALLY!” I thought to myself , “i found my best friend”.
Then I noticed she started getting closer with another mum who was like a mutual friend. She would go shopping with her, go for coffee dates after school drop off and not invite me along. I would find out through social media. At first I didn’t think much of it. But when I would ask her to catch up, assuming it would be just us, she would invite this other friend too. This stared to really upset me. I asked her privately when I saw her alone at school if everything was OK between us and she said yes everything was totally fine.
The thing the made me end the friendship was she went out for her birthday with the other friend and I obviously wasn’t included. She posted on socials things like ” best birthday with my bestie” etc…
I was so hurt, I just blocked and deleted both of them and haven’t spoken to them since. I see them at school and I just politely smile and walk on by.
I still do not know what I have done wrong and why she decided to pull away. I’m still hurting over this and still trying to process where I went wrong. But Im healing slowly.
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Backstab me
fucker went crazy.
Envy
He insulted the lady who has been my assistant for almost 30 years.
A paper one
Maga, racism and fox news started it. The last straw was him bitching about Peanuts characters painted “brown” on a Mexican grocery store window.
He had the gall to unexpectedly die on me.
(kidding about the gall, I still miss him)
Slept with my husband then she blocked me
He died.
Taking an argument to the internet. They cropped one sentence of a very long message to make me look like the villain. They also did this the day after I attended my uncles funeral.
The super Mario movie
Being late all the time. Always leaving it to me to make plans.
Pushed my boundaries one too many times.
He kept having kids with different girls then bailing on them. I just couldn’t watch it anymore.
I left after the third one. Pretty sure he’s at 6 or 7 now.
found out he slept with my girlfriend high school girlfriend and held that secret for 10 years. He also invited my 13 year old sister out to drink and party with his/our friends.
Drew the line, ended the friendship, and clocked him in the jaw for that one.
I didn’t learn he slept with my high school girlfriend until many years after the friendship ended. But that made a lot of things make complete sense.
He was always extremely angry and ticked off at me whenever I spent time with her.
He was never a friend really
Religious rhetoric
Being told my children don’t matter because Jesus says so via MAGA rant.
30y down the tubes in under 30 minutes.
Asked “why can’t you date white girls” after I began dating my now wife and then starting wearing that stupid ugly ass red maga hat. Was pretty done after that.
Couldn’t be bothered to come and see my daughter who had just been born.
Kept messaging me asking when we would meet up, told him to come over but he just kept saying he didn’t know my new address, despite the last conversation and the one before including said address.
Thought fuck it.
Why should I have to drag my newborn to see him.
Some friends are not worth it.
She was unvaccinated and refused to take a covid test before seeing me. My mother was terminally ill and severely immuno-compromised, so I was absolutely trying to minimise the risk of getting covid so I could still see my Mum.
She refused to take a test, twice, despite kind and calm requests and explanations, on the basis that she “didn’t want to get a sinus infection.” (This was in the time of nasal swabs, not mouth swabs, for covid tests. You know, those nasal swabs that are sterile and can’t cause infection.)
I’m 100% sure that it wasn’t about a sinus infection. It was about control. She had been annoyed because I hadn’t validated her anti-vax stance in the past.
Similarly, I know she wanted more validation for her religious views, which she’d acquired in her 30s and which I didn’t share. I’d told her that I was happy her faith made her happy, but I think she wanted me to truly share her beliefs. I’d also said that her sister’s bisexuality was “fine with me” when she’d stated that a wedding of 2 women was “not what God wants.”
I think all of those different views just threatened the way she saw the world, and how she saw herself.
Her last texts thanked me for “sharing my views” re covid and it’s potential to kill my Mum, then became pseudo-concerned when I didn’t reply. I read the whole situation as “I want to say whatever I want to you, but I want to still feel like a nice person, so please reply and give me that validation.”
I didn’t reply to her, but I still ask myself whether the mature thing to do would have been to clearly reply and state that I didn’t want to stay in contact. It’s taken me until now (over a year later) to see through the pain and formulate what I might have said.
We’d been friends since the first days of high school. 20+ years. In essence we just aquired very different views from each other as adults, but I can’t pretend her attitude towards my Mum, and towards the horrible journey my family had to take, wasn’t devastating.
Life is a bloody painful journey at times, that’s for sure.
Distance i guess?
When me and my parents migrated to the UK, i started school but was unhappy in it. Then in my second year i got moved and he became my first (of very few) friends in that school. We were basically inseperable, until we graduated from the school 4 years later.
He went to a different secondary school and we kinda lost contact. After that i tried to restore it through our parents since they were still friends, even getting his number but no matter what i tried i just never got a reply back.
Eventually, after trying for god knows what time years later, i asked myself “Do i really respect myself that little to chase someone who doesn’t have the decency to reply?” and deleted everything related to him.
Funny enough it was right wing propaganda years ago. Pre the Orange Idiot. I could forgive the things like him oversleeping so I’d go to the gym before 6am and end up working out by myself repeatedly. But infowars and all that, it became a constant stream of conspiracy theories.
I realized that I was the only one that reached out. So I stopped reaching out and that was that.
He fuck his oldest friends soon to be ex girlfriend and then lied about it.
He found a girlfriend who didn’t like him being friends with me
Ruined my hen do because she couldn’t stand not being the centre of attention for one day
not lifelong but when maga is gonna maga around me I said nope and ended it!
A month of 1 words texts from her while I was prepping to move. Explained to her that I was physically moving & she kept quiet.. then we quit talking altogether. A few months later my mom and nephew told me her mother died and she told them not to tell me.
She had the audacity to show up when my family dog had to be put down (old/ health issues) and I lost my shit.
I quit talking to my nephew after that as well.
magats
I was around 5 or 6 then. I had a neighbor playmate same my age whom I considered as best friend. I am an only child and she comes to our house to play with me. Then suddenly she said she got a new bicycle and she said “she don’t have to come to me”
Clearly she’s just after my toys lol
Getting punched in the dick and everyone siding with the puncher
Cocaine.
He knew she was abusive, he dismissed it and dated her anyway. Alcoholism and Sex Addiction are real things.
He turned into a Trumper.
He tried dobbing me in to my gf about some coke I’d had all so he could borrow a tenner.
He failed to recognise that just because he lies to his partners about his usage, I don’t.
It may get me a bollocking but I’ll always be honest with my partner. Always.
He yelled at me for correcting him on the pronunciation of a word, something he did to me all the time, despite being wrong. He yelled and yelled at me. I said I’m done, bye, but not before calmly getting in one barb at him.
I felt that i was doing all the leg work. I started every conversation, was the first one to email, text etc. so one day i decided i was going to wait for her to message first. And sure here we are 18 years later.
Dude lost his mind one too many times on fake coke or whatever, enough was enough, just kinda avoided em, been years now. Couldn’t be happier.
Everything was someone else’s fault. On both the macro and micro levels.
If it was an interpersonal issue it was never him at fault, ever. Relationship problems, always his partners at fault. Even when the same reasons caused each break up. Got into a verbal altercation at the bar? Someone else’s fault completely.
It was too exhausting.
My best friend/best man at my wedding slept with my married sister on my wedding night.
Turns out the full open bar at the reception wasn’t the best idea.
I found out after the honeymoon that the whole family knew what had happened that night.
I don’t hold a grudge but things weren’t the same with my friend and I.
In honesty, I had a chance to sleep with my friend’s sister years before all that, but I turned her down in respect for my friend–so when that happened it was especially difficult to swallow.
MAGA. so so many…😔
Trump
he was bangin’ my wife for 3 years, and had the temerity to say that it was my fault.
I survived what killed her child.
She told me she was addicted to drugs to avoid apologizing to me for something that hurt me (apparently being a drug addict cancels out being an ass to your friends)
I later found out she lied to me and made that up
We were friends for more than half my life (14 years)
She faked dying of cancer.
Voting for Trump.
My best friend I grew up with kept getting drunk and pissing the area she was sleeping on (my work colleagues couch and my own bed on my birthday)
We lived about 3hrs drive from eachother so i wouldnt see her regularly. I pleaded with her to talk to me about it, I wanted to support her and help her if it was a drinking problem or a social thing. She just flat out refused to discuss it at all, im sure she was ashamed but her demeanor felt like she didn’t care.
I haven’t seen her in 10 years and it still hurts alot 😔
Stated he enjoyed watching ads on YouTube. 45 years of friendship done in one statement.
He was foaming at the mouth saying he was going to kill me, while swinging a baseball bat and destroying his own kitchen
Her and I were friends since 5th grade, on her 35th birthday a group of people went out to an all you can eat Korean BBQ. One guy in the group decided to pay for everyone (story was he was Ace and didn’t spend money on partners bc single, so he liked spending on friends), my friend was massively drunk and yelled at him in front of the entire restaurant that he shouldn’t have spent that much money.
He went off the political deep end when Trump ran in 2016 and I ignored a lot of it, When covid hit, he opted to post a meme reference wearing a mask during covid as the equivalent of volunteering to get on a train to a concentration camp. This post came after a negative comment on my posting about my wife making masks for the family. I reminded him of my heritage and how the part of my family that remained in Germany never survived. His response was “So what, still rings true”. Didn’t bother responding, just removed him from social media and haven’t said a word to him since.
We were friends for about 14 years or so. What the final straw was was that not only did he turn more and more racist over time which was something i frowned up on and i didn’t want to talk about this with him. But ALSO that he openly started to flirt with my then-girlfriend when they met for the first time (and he knew about our relationship) he started showing his “muscles” and wanted to demonstrate how strong he was by randomly doing push-ups. He was a very “look at me i’m an attention whore” kinda guy.
Spoke about it later on and he told me “you know you’re like this because you’re on cloud nine. You’ll come running back to me as soon as the relationship ends”
Well mate, it’s been a year since the relationship ended, it’s been a year and 6 Months since we last spoke. I don’t think so.
She burst into a dinner party of people neither of us know, to make an announcement. She didn’t knock on the door – the guests were seated at the table -and she loudly said that I had given her herpes (a lie.) The hostess of the party (it was a gathering of her work friends) knew us both, so she told me in private.
That ripped the rug out from under my feet and I went NO CONTACT on the crazy woman. That was 40 years ago.
She told me she “didn’t have time for my problems” because she was a mother when I wanted company and support the weekend my service dog was diagnosed with lymphoma. She got angry and ghosted when I said that’s kinda fucked up when I’ve always supported you. This is the third time she’d pulled that shit, so I didn’t reach out when she tried to start texting like nothing happened, just told her she’d have to set up a time to talk this out, and she never did. She moved out of state 2 years later with my godson and didn’t even tell me.
How they voted in the past election
When I found out my best friend had been sleeping with my girlfriend.
She started routinely paying rent weeks late. And blocked me from her social media so she could secretly post about going to concerts and music festivals with her rent money.
Theft. Denial and theft.
Too much karen energy.
He wouldn’t shut up about wanting to fuck me.
Realized that we were only friends when they needed something but was never around for me.
He dated my best friend (they met because of me) and she utterly trashed his heart and cheated on him. Just… awful, I regret introducing them. Our friendship got ghosted during their relationship, and after they broke up, it was clearly done. Sucks, but I get it. Still miss the dude. Hope he’s happier now that he got the fuck away from everyone.
Kept “borrowing money” for me to “feed their kids” or get “their kids medication, it’s an emergency!” And, truly, they were destitute, these instances were plausible. But, one day, after being told one of the kids had been hospitalized and released home, and between the uber rides to and from the hospital they didn’t have enough for his meds at the pharmacy, I signed on to Facebook and saw pictures of them – “sick” kid included – at a block party. Destroyed the friendship for me.
For the record, I never expected them to pay back borrowed money for food or medicine. I was happy to help. Those kids were like my kids, too. It was betrayal and finding out I wasn’t loved like I loved that got me.
Taking my Blackberry and sending a message deriding me to every single one of my contacts. I only found out because a few of them called me and asked who is the person who did this.
“I’ll call you next week!”
Did not call me the next week. After a long string of stuff like that, why bother being friends?
One of the smartest guys I know. Talented in almost everything he did, just naturally and I grew up so jealous of him. Late nineties and he discovered speed and ecstasy and through years of abuse it changed him. Even down to his face. When he was on E his face would sag and slowly but surely that droopy saggy face became his only face. Final straw was finding out he had sold some of my things he had borrowed then lied about it blaming others. I miss him a lot but the guy I miss is gone now.
Friends from middle school up to our mid 20s due to him living across the street from my parents. Even after I moved into my own place he was still in walking distance. He’s always been a bit “off” but regardless we were close.
First he tried banging my girlfriend (at the time) while we were going through a rough patch. Saying she should dump me.and he’d “treat her right”. She let me scroll through all the texts.
I initially broke it off there.
Well he got arrested/ convicted for trying to get with a 9th grader while he was 27. Like real explicit texts. It’s ironic too since he used to criticize people for dating others who were a year or two older.
What a creep. As far as I know he’s still mooching off his mother (who doesnt have much to begin with) and probably still just plays video games all day.
So I haven’t ended this friendship, per se, but I have stepped back from it.
I grew up with my buddy, and his family wasn’t the greatest. Mom was a stripper, dad wasn’t too bad but a little stern (think typical boomer/gen X blue collar father). Parents got divorced, and the home life devolved a little further. He fell in with “the wrong crowd” in high school, and we drifted apart a bit. I left, but we’d reconnect years later whenever I’d come back to town. I always made a point to try and see him.
My father died in January of ’24, and since this guy was like another brother to me, and another son to my father, I hoped he’d join us at the memorial. He swore he’d be there but never showed.
My older brother’s wife graduated with her masters in May of that same year, and I invited this guy again, gave him about a months heads up, and reminded him a time or two leading up to it. Swore he’d be there, but he never showed.
I still love him like a brother but I came to realize he just wasn’t in a place, mentally or emotionally, to maintain lasting adult friendships, likely stemming from all the shit he went through as a kid. I’ll leave the ball in his court, but I wouldn’t be surprised if I never heard from him again.
I was prepared to die and he reacted by going silent. His wife decided to treat me less than human and alienated me from our circles. I made my third attempt ever that weekend. It has now been four months and I’m just barely alive. Barely showing up to work. I can’t find joy in my hobbies or my healthcare role (nurse, attending).
At this point I want out.
I was in the middle of a divorce and my childhood bestie told me that I was a shit Christian and that I deserved being mentally abused. Spread lies to my family (saying I was on drugs and drinking wildly every night) and made my life much harder during an already difficult time. A few years later she also got divorced but it was ok because God wanted her to leave him. She has tried to reach out over the years to try to get info on my life to talk to my parents (we are technically related by marriage) and cause drama. I had to delete all social media to get her to leave me alone.
I finally got tired of how she treated me. She was a terrible friends loved drama and shit talking people and the last day we saw each other I was driving her drunk ass around while she tells me no one likes me and attacks all insecurities. I wait till next morning no apology blocked her on everything
When I realized that me being a good friend to her was actually just me being a caretaker with poor boundaries and putting up with years of emotional abuse.
When that fog lifted it was completely life changing.
One of my friends who I had known for about 15 years, encouraged me to go to rehab. They were very supportive about it and even helped me find a place and put together everything I needed.
We had a falling out over something completely unrelated a few months after I got out.
Fast forward about a year and I decide I want to try and make amends with her. She, rightfully, asks me how I’m doing with sobriety. And I admit to her that even though I was sober for more than a year, I had recently relapsed.
Her response was “I knew it. I knew I was right and that you weren’t going to stay sober.”
Not “Wow I’m really sorry to hear that. That sucks. What can I do to help?”
LOL fuck you, bye.
He tried to get some other guy to SA my girlfriend. I shit you not.
Being told “you’re one of the good ones.”
It was sad seeing her going down the path she was going on, but that told me I personally could not help her and I needed to distance myself for my own sanity and mental well being. Been a good 8 years since then and she seems to be doing ok, but I have no desire to reach out.
She joined a cult and I couldn’t vibe with that. Told her how I felt, she didn’t like it and ex communicated me from her life.
Found out my bf had been lying to my face for decades, then his trump fueled racism was the final straw
Voting for Trump a second time
Not lifelong but recently ended a long friendship. Realized if I spoke, she didn’t listen. She told me I had too many problems when I would “force” her to finally hear me. It was always her problems taking precedent and 99% of those problems were self inflected. Happy to be living with much less drama and wouldn’t you know some of my problems cleared up with the friendship ending.
Bro got a girlfriend and every other priority just faded away.
If it didn’t involve her or her family, it was irrelevant. His brother told me that he doesn’t even make time for his nephew. Kind of sad really.
Friend became a gun nut and hung out with racist gun nut friends.
This ended a lifelong friendship in our circle of 4 friends:
During the height of Covid, my friend ‘Ann’ had separated from her husband the previous year and was alone. She asked our friend ‘Jane’ if she could be part of her family bubble ( where we live this was allowed/encouraged for individuals living alone, so they didn’t have to be totally isolated). Ann came from a bad family upbringing and had none and Jane always told her that ‘ family is who you make it, it’s not just your blood, we (meaning our friend group) can be your sisters.’
Jane was particularly anxious about Covid, but wouldn’t discuss it. She would cancel (distanced) plans last minute, stuff like that. And during Covid Jane told Ann that sorry, she couldn’t be part of her family bubble. Her daughter had met a guy and immediately Jane invited him and his family over and be part of them, even though they were strangers. It was very important for her to welcome him and his family in with open arms but unimportant to do the same with her alone friend of 30 years.
I tried to get Ann and Jane to talk about it but Jane wouldn’t acknowledge that Ann was deeply hurt and Ann didn’t want a hurtful full blown fight so that ended our long time friend group. I see Ann all the time and Jane a few times a year but it’s super awkward and a total shame.
No mutual respect.
Good old fashioned narcissm and bullying. Even came with a DARVO value meal. (Deny any wrong doing, Attack me personally, unoReverse the roles of Victim and Offender to control the narrative) After i went no contact he even waged a one man crusade/smear campaign against me in a failed attempt to turn my friends against me including trying to weasel his way into my girlfriend’a good graces to get to me.
All of these attempts failed spectacularly due to me essentially doing nothing while he kept proving my point about him with his abusive behavior.
Now hes just a lolcow from the past and looking back on it, im glad i finally stood up to him.
I was diagnosed with cancer a year after moving across the country from my friends from high school. I didn’t ask for them to do anything except play some online games with me while I recovered from surgery.
Not one of them did. They were playing other games (I could see in my various friends lists) but none of them would put aside the games they were playing to keep me company and take my mind off of things. No texts, no phone calls, nothing. The only thing I asked for was time/online company and they put in zero effort.
This was the last straw in a long, long string of feeling like an afterthought. It’s been 9 years and not a single one of them has even tried to contact me since then. Guess being an “afterthought” was too optimistic even.
She said that I should have told her to break up with her college boyfriend that was emotionally abusing her (I lived over 20 hours away and only spoke with her over the phone for years, only met the guy once at the end of their relationship, wasn’t aware he was emotionally abusing her, and I actually did ask her why she was with him). She said that I wasn’t supporting her but rather enabling her and that she had lost all respect for me.
Went on vacation to Miami with a few other friends and him. During the trip he went to the hotel pool where a model photo shoot happened to be taking place. He took pictures of the girls while they were changing.
We were in a fight because I was trying to set boundaries with her (codependent friendship), and she kept questioning everything and not listening.
Told me I was too emotional, accused me of giving her the silent treatment after about 12 hours (even though we were talking on Facebook, not live, and most of the time was at night when I was asleep). Told me she was disappointed in me.
I realized she must not like me very much as a person, and that steeled my resolve to completely end things. I knew it wasn’t going to survive the way it was.
Still miss her all the time, and we do talk on rare occasions (she messaged me when I was in the hospital, and me with her, etc) but there were too many things that happened overall to make me believe we can never truly be good, or best, friends again.
She couldn’t stop doing heavy drugs! She gave up two kids to their grandparents to raise and just kept making stupid choices over and over again. I was the blunt one that always told her she is on some bullshit and eventually she just stopped talking to me. Friends will let me know they see her on the streets of our home town. I think she lost all her teeth. She will randomly send me memes on ig tho!
I got married.
She started off in a better place than life than me in many ways. But Her life had gone to shit. Partially as a result of her own choices, not entirely.
I made a life myself, got a good career, moved to London, got a good education, bought a house, met my husband.
She was supposed to be in my bridal party but pulled out due to poor mental health. She had a meltdown at my hen do when she realised I had a whole, large group of friends.
I think she expected life to just hand it all to her on a plate and it simply didn’t. I think she always thought I’d be the worse off friend next to her.
It just didn’t pan out that way.
I think the lead up to my wedding just highlighted all my successes against her perceived failings. She ghosted me after the wedding and hasn’t really spoken to me since.
I hold out hope she’ll see sense. But I think the friend I loved and cherished is gone. A husk of herself. It’ll be hard for me to overcome the fact she casually threw our friendship away over what boils down to envy.
Sometimes it’s a weird thing that you can’t even explain. I’ve stopped talking to some really close friends for no reason at all – just growing apart and becoming different people that no longer click, I guess.
I’ve come to terms with the fact that some friendships just come with an expiry date. Move on. Be thankful they came into your life. Next.
I had supported her through a terrible break up (canceling her wedding the morning of, with an abusive alcoholic) and countless other personal tragedies for a decade. She has a wonderful heart but cannot get out of her own way and is completely unreceptive to any type of advice, no matter how gentle. I became worried about her as I noticed her mental health declining, and essentially had a “come to Jesus” with her and 2 other friends in an incredibly supportive, safe setting.
She lashed out at me and said she was sick of my drama and didn’t need me as a friend if I couldn’t support her. I told her if by “support” she meant “watch her spiral into yet another black hole she’ll need help crawling out of”, then she was right. I said “I am always here to help you but I can’t watch this and do nothing.” She never spoke to me again. It broke my heart but after speaking to another former friend of hers with a similar experience, I realized it’s just her pattern.
Waking me up at midnight on New Year’s Eve from a deep sleep to confirm I really was at home and not going out without them.
He tried to start a band with me and some other dudes he met online in musicians’ forums. Was really good and fun at first, but one of them was a lot more into it and started to take charge. Kinda induced a quarter life crisis in my friend (we grew up as neighbours) and he thought we all needed to practice more often and record an album and book gigs, while we were still at the point of badly covering Green Day songs in his basement. One day, both of them pressured me via Whatsapp and I just had enough. Told him this is not really what I signed up for and would therefore quit the band. We also had some political differences, so I don’t think either of us was keen on trying to ease tension. Haven’t heard from him since, but I know the other dude tried the same with at least two other bands.
Dude became a racist. Welp that’s the end of that friendship
Slept w his girlfriend while he was at work. He died shortly after. Known him since kindergarten. Still miss him!
2024 election ‼️
Best friend of 19 years tells me to go talk to a cute guy at a wedding
Guy and I hit it off and start a long distance relationship
Best friend of 19 years gives me the silent treatment for no reason for 3 weeks including my birthday because I told her that guy and I are doing really well
Best friend of 19 years starts talking to me again but never explains herself and never apologizes for acting like a child. Never says she’s happy that I’m happy in a new relationship; never shows any support
Best friend of 19 years and I start hanging out again but I keep a safe distance emotionally because why did she get upset about me starting a relationship with someone that she told me to go talk to in the first place
After 1.5 years of hanging out again, found out that best friend of 19 years still talks shit about my relationship behind my back. That was the final straw for me. Blocked on everything. Moved on. Actually much less stress in my life since cutting her off
No longer best friend of 19 years
a 60+ year friendship over and done because she went full maga. we had been friends since we were in diapers.
She told me “What happened to you really wasn’t that bad” when I started my recovery from an abusive relationship I was in.
Nope.
Trivialized my bipolar disorder and triggered me into a manic episode that led to hospitalization.
She texted me after I retweeted something in support during the 2020 protests. She was probably drunk and trying to pick a fight with me via text. Then tried calling me and getting mad when I didn’t answer. 20+ years down the drain.
A guy I’ve been friends with for over 15 years has alienated me and most of our friend group. He was always an abrasive person, but we all knew he had a good heart and when the chips were down, would do anything to help.
It’s a group full of LGBT people. Not by intent, but like attracts like. As time went by he became a “Libertarian” and kept insisting he was far smarter than anyone else politically.
He also became a MASSIVE Chud. And would constantly argue with us on pointless shit because he considers himself “a debater”. It would always end with everyone else telling him to stop because he would always push it way too far, which resulted in everyone being pissed off, including him.
Eventually, he gave me in particular an ultimatum. Telling me that I had changed. I laid out that no, he was the problem and that we were worried about him.
He refused to change. So I left. Along with my wife. And a few other friends. And then other friends who didn’t want to be the only ones left around to manage him.
Most of the time I see him sitting on discord in our server, on voice, alone. Two of our friends go and check in on him out of loyalty and pity (like I said, he helped us out a lot in the past) but it’s clear everyone is now much happier without his influence.
It sucks. It really does. I mourn the person I knew before he changed. The man of reason and rationality he thinks he still is.
Told me I was a bully, I “always get what I want” in a snarky way as if I was stealing it from her, I was no longer kind and considerate like I “once was,” and other insults, but refused to elaborate and specify what I did wrong.
The guy drank the conservative kool-aid. Started laughing at my political posts, attacking people in the comments.
I tried to maintain the friendship by establishing boundaries. Explained that if he didn’t comment on my political posts I would maintain the same level of respect.
It lasted about three months before he started attacking people commenting on my posts and dropping laugh emojis like confetti.
I cut him loose and his reply was “that’s a bit extreme isn’t it?”
I explained that we had agreed on boundaries that he had violated and he replied by calling me a commie and acting like a victim.
That was three weeks ago. No regrets.
She invited me to her birthday party that was happening that weekend, so a last minute ask. I told her I couldn’t attend because I already had preset plans for the weekend to see family visiting from out of town and whom I hadn’t seen in years.
She got angry and said a number of mean things, including how much of a bad friend I was for not dropping my plans to go to her birthday party. She was turning 32.
We never really talked again. Coincidentally, I was also feeling like garbage that week because little did I know, I was also pregnant and about to undergo some serious morning sickness. Blegh.
Became hardcore Christian and nonstop spewing religious propaganda
He got into a relationship, and suddenly he would only hang out with his new boyfriend’s friends and drop his own. Any invitation to hang out or go to dinner was flaked on by saying he ‘couldn’t afford’ dinner (even though I’ve offered to pay and have paid several times), then a week later I see his IG story of him fucking off to Miami with his boyfriend. But he couldn’t pay for dinner, where I was excited to tell him I got engaged.
Kinda had an epiphany after my current girlfriend told me he had made a pass at her after he knew we were dating. He’s done the same with basically every woman I’ve dated, and for one reason or another at the time I’d forgive him or give him a pass because of extenuating circumstances.
I dunno why but after that last time I decided that I actually don’t give a shit what his excuse is, trying to actively sabotage my relationships is not something I should have to tell a friend is not cool, let alone reiterate it every time I enter a new relationship.
When I was a freshman in college I shared a room with my best friend from high school. I kept a diary that I wrote in every day, and I would hide it in my locked closet.
One day I came back from class to find her reading out loud from my diary to a group of our friends. She had broken into the closet just to get the diary.
I haven’t spoken to that bitch in 30 plus years.
Covid and Trump
Trump.
“Why do you even care?” about various actions and policies being enacted by the current US executive branch.
He fucked my ex like a day after it ended. Grabbed beers with him the night we broke up to ease the pain. Then he stabbed me in the back. Never talked to him again
My boundaries were disrespected repeatedly and if I voiced my opinion I was ghosted for months with no explanation. During the time of ghosting I was not even contacted about important events like me being sick from covid, birthdays or Christmas.
I’d not care if that person did not insist of calling me her best friend.
During Covid he went on a long rant about how disabled people should be allowed to die so he didn’t have to be in lockdown. I am disabled.
Never put any effort into anything. Like not at school, not in personal relationships, nothing.
Then he would and still always blames everyone else besides himself for his own failings. Complete lack of accountability.
The final nail in coffin was when he said he wouldn’t be a groom man’s because the wedding was too far. I literally drove 12 hours to be one of his.
I had a hysterectomy with post op complications including two allergic reactions and a blood clot. A week and a half after surgery, one of my students died. My boss didn’t even tell me, I had to find out from a colleague and another student who was his best friend. My daughter was then going to bail on a trip we already paid for. I tried talking to a friend about all of these things because it felt like it was one thing after another. He told me the problem was my hormones. When I told him to stop bringing that up because he did bring it up before. Then he told me I was censoring him. It was then I realized he was misogynistic because even though I was going through a really hard time, he blamed it all on my hormones from my hysterectomy.
I don’t have many friends. Met this mum at a kids party once, both our children were there. And we just hit it off! Over the year, we became so close. We would hang out after dropping kids off at school. Go shipping together, get nails done. “FINALLY!” I thought to myself , “i found my best friend”.
Then I noticed she started getting closer with another mum who was like a mutual friend. She would go shopping with her, go for coffee dates after school drop off and not invite me along. I would find out through social media. At first I didn’t think much of it. But when I would ask her to catch up, assuming it would be just us, she would invite this other friend too. This stared to really upset me. I asked her privately when I saw her alone at school if everything was OK between us and she said yes everything was totally fine.
The thing the made me end the friendship was she went out for her birthday with the other friend and I obviously wasn’t included. She posted on socials things like ” best birthday with my bestie” etc…
I was so hurt, I just blocked and deleted both of them and haven’t spoken to them since. I see them at school and I just politely smile and walk on by.
I still do not know what I have done wrong and why she decided to pull away. I’m still hurting over this and still trying to process where I went wrong. But Im healing slowly.