So I’m (27 F) a theater acterss. But I did voice one character in a porn video game once. It was 3 years ago, before I met my bf and I still didn’t tell him about it. I don’t even know if men care about it, but if they do, I want to be honest with him. If they don’t I won’t bother him, I’m not exactly proud of that part
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Lol I would just laugh about it.
All you did was voice it? I doubt he’ll care I’d find it hilarious personally… but keeping it from me would be a problem, especially if I’d asked and you’d lied about it.
Only ridiculous men would find that a red flag
Gigs a gig. You didn’t get fucked on screen or anything so why worry?
It was just a job.
If he makes a big deal out of it, THATS a red flag.
Ngl any normal man would ask what the game is so you could play it together. He’d appreciate the immersion.
Just seem like another acting job to me. If he makes a big deal out if it, I’d move on.
You voiced in it, you weren’t a body double; you’re good 😂
Was it “Goregasm: The Legend of Dongslayer?
Total green flag for me. I would look forward to the awesome dirty talk in bed.
Do the voice babe. Do it.
Noooo.
Please. Last time honest. I’m nearly there.
No you said that last time.
Etc etc
That’s what your life will be like if you tell him.
I would make a point to download it and play through. We would laugh about it. Not a red flag for me at least.
This would be such a non issue with every guy I know
I wouldn’t like that you kept it a secret so long, but if you told me early on I might have even found it cool.
Nah. A job is a job. This feels rather tame. But also has evidence of professionalism if you did what was needed while keeping professional about it.
You were a voice actress, not a sex worker.
I think that he will laugh about the fact that you thought it might be a dealbreaker.
I’m sure some guys are really uptight about something like that. They probably also think women don’t poop. Don’t date those men.
If my wife told me she’d done this I’d just laugh. I wouldn’t care at all.
I wouldn’t care at all, in fact I’d probably ask if you could show me the game so we could have a laugh. If I were you, the biggest concern about telling your partner is that look, it’s a funny story. He tells his buddies about it and all of the sudden everyone will ask questions or you could gain a reputation.
We can’t guarantee this won’t be an issue for all men, despite what anyone on Reddit will say. I don’t see how it can be an issue either, but I’m not all men.
But you should tell him, especially if it’s eating at you. Relationships should be built on mutual trust, you need to trust him and he needs to be able to trust you.
Not at all, I would find it super interesting
You only voiced in it and it was 3 years ago – if they react badly then that’s the red flag
Good lord no
Most men would find it absolutely hilarious. A man getting upset about it should be a red flag for you!
I think it’s kind of funny and bad ass. You also probably always win at 2 truths and a lie.
I highly doubt anyone would care. However we can’t actually determine that for him. If I had a girlfriend and she told me something was weighing on her, and it was just her being a voice actress in a porn game? I’d be relieved existentially because it’d be a sign the relationship is well and open.
Don’t talk about that. Forget it. “Problem” solved.
Nobody reasonable would give a damn about the job, but I will say you should just go ahead and tell him, especially if its bothering you. Its one of those things where if he finds out on his own somehow, then it seems way worse simply because you didn’t tell him to begin with. Makes it seem like you were trying to hide it or something. Im not saying you were, but theres a decent chance thats how it’ll come across
I’d playfully jab at you, requesting that you reenact your performance
I would laugh and ask to hear the recordings. Then I would torture you forever by parroting them back to you at inappropriate times.
It would be the greatest gift a woman could ever give me.
It could get awkward, should anyone recognize your voice there and tell your bf about it. In that scenario it would be better, if he already knew about this. But aside from that it shouldn’t matter much. It’s obviously bothering you, so maybe just get it out of your system.
Only red flag is if he doesn’t laugh and ask to see it immediately
It’s not even worth to mention. Insecure guys always find a excuse to be a dick.
You know him better than anyone of us.
I’d think it was kinda fun and people tell me I’m almost painfully prudish, if that helps.
Boyfriend: Dammit now I owe that SOB Jerry a 20.
deliberately hiding stuff that you think might be a red flag is a bigger red flag
Not an issue whatsoever for me. And should not be an issue to anyone else imo.
If you’re feeling weird or anxious about it. I would tell him just to make yourself feel less anxious.
But I don’t think its something that needs to be disclosed or hidden. To me it sounds like someonthing funny that could pop up in casual conversation.
If he doesnt like it there’s some weird insecurity there that I’d rather avoid alltogether.
Only tell him if you are prepared for him to listen to it and possibly request you do it when he wants it.
This is kinda cool actually. Not a red flag.
“men” aren’t a singular hive mind. some will care, others won’t. to quote a really meaningful person who is also a giant asshole
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”
if they are the type of person that will care about something you did years ago, then best to let them go now
I was a phone sex operator…. My hubby thinks its hilarious and always asks about crazy calls….
It’s a job….. And I wouldn’t have an issue but some people don’t want to be with those who have done sex work….. But IMHO if your dressed and not having sex words are not sex work!
If it’s a red flag it should be for you also since you don’t want someone who isnt on board fully for you knowing your past!!
For me, a theater actress (or an actress in general) is a bigger red flag than any voice actor gig. If he doesn’t care about you being an actress then it should be alright with the voice acting.
Never met a single theater actress that wasn’t overly dramatic, self centered or overtly emotionally manipulative; meanwhile voice actors (of any kind) are rather chill people.
i think most guys would like that cause its hot but if he doesnt then its prob a big warning sign
Unless he’s extremely religious and has some sort of moral aversion to adult content on the whole, I highly doubt he would have any issue with that.
He may get very curious and interested in it though.
I would definitely tell him, but be aware he might start asking you to do “the voice” either because he finds it arousing or he finds it hilarious.
Your post is red flag for me for sure
I personally would find that interesting and could make for a neat conversation if the woman was up for it. If it was something she was ashamed of I wouldn’t want to talk about it. I’d make it clear it doesn’t bother me but then drop it.
I’m a voice actor for video games. I threaten to murder people and dismember them and worse in games like GTA. Does this make me a violent person? Should I disclose this job to my friends? (I have. Everyone thinks it’s cool)
Any guy reacting negatively to this is a fricking weirdo