I’ve already made up my mind that I want to enlist in the army, and the ASVAB is not very far away, it’s on April 29th.
My family member constantly suggests that I work a remote job, here’s the thing, I didn’t have a pleasant experience with remote work and figured it was not best for me and I do much better in a brick-and-mortar environment.
Now she’s thinking of buying another desktop and keeps pushing the idea of remote work on me, as I told her no thank you.
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Your life. Your choice!
OP,
You’re going to do your thing in the military (good luck – God speed).
You can do one of two things here. Tell her, “Thank you, but I’m good.”
Or
Ignore it, and do your thing anyway.
Sounds like you’ve already done the former… so, if it were me. I would ignore going forward.
Ignore this family member. It’s your life, not theirs. Besides, it sounds like you have a calling for it. If you cave in to this family member, you will spend the rest of your life wondering, “What if?” Also, don’t argue with them. If they start in on you, just shut them down by saying something like, “My mind is made up. There’s nothing more to discuss.” Keep saying it if you have to, and if you get tired of saying it, leave the room.
Worst case scenario – which is not likely – you will decide it was a mistake, but guess what. You’re young and can easily change direction. And no matter what, you will have been places, seen things, and learned something.
Tell her you like to be around people. But keep in mind, the army picks your job for you.
It’s fine to say you don’t want to do a job that’s pushed on you.
At the same time, you’re signing up for the military, where you’ll be told what job you’re going to do and liking it won’t play any part in that.
If you don’t like things that are “unpleasant,”
and you don’t like people “telling you what to do, ”
you might not want to join the army….just sayin.
OP, it sounds like you’ve already gotten here a load of sound advice, and I agree with it 100%. It’s your life, and a good, solid decision on your part! Proud of you! But I’m just sort of curious: in the era of Covid, remote jobs abounded. But these days, unless you have highly marketable skills, there really aren’t all those remote jobs any more. What, pray tell, did she think would be the sort of job you could do remotely with your skills and experiences? How would she see you advancing in your career?
You want to be in Trump’s military?
He’s already threatening to attack our allies. He may order you to do vicious things to immigrants.
Think really hard about what kind of man his army could turn you into.
Does military life involve having your job chosen for you? Because please correct me if I’m wrong, but i thought that could happen in the army.
Get a degree first, even an Associate’s and then join the army, you can start at a higher level and pay. While at community college join ROTC.
If you think that in the army you aren’t going to be required to do jobs that aren’t in your specific MOS I’ve got news for you. You do what they want, when they want. Period.
If you had a bad experience doing remote work it’s going to get worse. Guaranteed mental health risk for you. Even some ppl who want to work remotely struggle with it
There’s nothing wrong with joining the military. It provides a lot of opportunities to people. I would choose the Air Force since enlisted personnel aren’t typically in the line of fire unless they are part of an aircrew. And being an A&P mechanic makes a lot of money in the civilian world.
For what it’s worth, “just work a remote job” is actually kind of ridiculous on its face. The entire world (not just the US) is now competing for the dwindling number of remote jobs. Show her r/remotejobs lol People absolutely desperate for work can’t find any and if she thinks that’s not real because there are so many remote jobs posted, I assure you the majority of them are either scams or ghost jobs. She’s gonna waste her money on equipment only to realize it’s not that simple.
Source: Me, someone who’s been looking for a decent paying remote job since October with zero luck.
ETA: You’ll see “job postings” in that sub… it’s not recruiters posting them, it’s just people who “find job listings” to farm karma. they never pan out. Thousands apply for every open job. Look at what actual job seekers are saying.
Nooooooooo do not join the military at all. As a veteran myself i highly highly discourage it. its not worth the sacrifice to your mind and body