I know this is kinda a weird post but I really don’t know what to do to be totally honest. She’s 16 and her dad lives in Kentucky and she got a call abt her dad today and I dont know how to make her feel better which Ik I can’t. Any suggestions?
I know this is kinda a weird post but I really don’t know what to do to be totally honest. She’s 16 and her dad lives in Kentucky and she got a call abt her dad today and I dont know how to make her feel better which Ik I can’t. Any suggestions?
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That’s awful. Just be there for her. Not much else you can do.
So a similar story (kind of)
My dad was stabbed multiple times a few years ago. My partner travelled nearly 4 hours to be with me and that was enough.
What im trying to say is – just be there for her however you can.
Wishing you and your GF all the best
It’s so hard – she is going to have a million emotions. The best thing you can do is simply ask her what she most needs or wants from you – which might change over time – and listen and don’t judge or get overwhelmed if she needs to cry/express anger. Flowers and small kindnesses are great, too, but for most of us, solid emotional support is a daily need for a long time after something like this.
If you can’t go see her? Can you get her and her family a Door Dash gift card? They’re probably in shock and need to eat.
Be there, let her go through every emotion while you listen patiently. Ask her if there’s anything she needs, that you’ll be happy to get/do for her. It’s kind that you asked others for advice.
You’re already doing amazing. The best thing you can do is let her know you’re here for her in whatever way she needs you. Flowers are lovely. Offer to meet up with her, and that you’re available if she wants to talk about it if she wants a distraction or if she just wants someone to sit with her. She may just want to be alone, that’s ok too. If she does just let her know you’ll be there when she’s ready and you’re thinking of her.
Guys like to try to fix things. Sometimes we just want to be heard or to sit quietly (or cry). Ask her what would help her feel best supported right now, let her know she is allowed to feel emotions about it all and her feelings are valid. Offering to get her favorite food or draw her bath or rub her feet or give her space. All good.
You don’t necessarily make her feel better. Just be there for her. Let her talk if she needs to. Maybe suggest something to distract her like take a walk. Being there for her will do lots
Sit with her. Let her be and feel however she needs to without judgement. It can be uncomfortable for you but priceless for her. She may just cycle through all the emotions. She might be quiet. Just be there in whatever way you can. Make sure she has some food/snacks. It’s amazing that you are reaching out to find ways to support her.
My brothers died by suicide and this was something I needed and didn’t get. I have been able to do this for others. Honor them and love them where they are at.