I feel so guilty. I didn’t break quick enough and I rear ended somebody. For more context I’m 19 in college but I still live at home. My dad and I made the arrangement he would buy me a car and I would make car payments. So he bought me a 9k toyota corolla. I fucking crashed it. I’ve had it for probably around 3 months. The car needs a new hood, grill, and bumper. My parents were both very “it’s okay”, “we all make mistakes”, ” we’re just glad you’re okay”. But I feel horrible my dad is paying to fix the car and likely my insurance price is gonna go through the roof now and my parents are also paying for my insurance. I genuinely wanna cry anytime I look at my parents cause I feel so horribly guilty about it.
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It’s rough to go through that the first time, but it sounds like it was a minor accident and nobody was hurt. Yeah, auto expenses suck and accidents make it worse, but you might want to give your parents some credit. They have perspective, they’ve made their own mistakes, and from the sound of it this isn’t going to break the bank for them.
Humans make mistakes. Part of being parents is being there to help our kids avoid the worst ones, and learn from the mistakes they do make.
This isn’t the end of the world. It sucks, but the most important thing is that you learned your lesson and either lower your speed or look more carefully next time so you reduce the risk of accidents in the future.
Luckily it sounds minor and honestly with how seriously you’re taking it means it’s probably way less likely to happen in the future. Some things happen roll with the punches and just keep doing your best
Hey love — it’s pretty much expected that you’ll wreck your first car, even just in an incident with the curb or a mailbox. That’s why we don’t give people luxury cars for their first car! My first car was a cheapo beater car that died going up hills and I wrecked it twice before having it a year. It’s normal. It’s a rite of passage. The only really important thing was that no one was hurt.
When I was a kid and broke something by accident, my dad would always say, “It’s just stuff, it can be replaced.” Now that I’ve got kids of my own, that really hits different. You can always make more money or replace a broken thing but if something happened to you, that’s not something your parents can bounce back from. If you’d been seriously hurt, I’m sure your mom and dad would trade anything to undo it. So don’t be guilty, it won’t do anybody any good. Instead learn from your mistake so your parents won’t have to worry about you getting into an accident again.