Do men actually hate promiscuous women they sleep with?

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There’s a lot of hatred and stigma towards women who are sexually promiscuous. If you were intimate with someone who you knew was promiscuous, would you think less of her? Do men actually hate these women?

I’m not talking about dating them or whether they’re “wife material” I mean strictly in a hookup sense

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  1. SpicyBarito Avatar

    nope they do not.

  2. datecierra Avatar

    It’s always funny to me how some men will chase “wild in the sheets” energy, then catch feelings and suddenly want a nun. Like sorry, you don’t get to enjoy the ride and then act brand new.

    If being sexually free makes me less worthy in your eyes, cool — that just means you were never worthy of me in the first place

  3. PopThoseTitsInADM Avatar

    Christ no? How would that make sense 😂

  4. dreadstardread Avatar

    The only people who putdown women are other men and women who cant partake in either side of casual sex

  5. Gusman94 Avatar

    These are different groups of men, in my opinion. The men that hate promiscuous women aren’t sleeping with them – or any women, probably.

  6. OldCarWorshipper Avatar

    I sure as hell don’t. I was quite grateful for their attention and appreciative of their skill set, actually.

  7. ask-me-about-my-cats Avatar

    Some do, most don’t.

  8. Complex_Routine6111 Avatar

    No but they were raised and brainwashed to hate such women.

    Patriarchy sees women as property and more importantly a mother who makes babies for them. So to see the “property” just being “handed itself” onto other men just makes it seem worthless or a woman that’s “destroying her baby making abilities”

    There is also a strange insecurity related to masculinity on this. These men see these women as cheaters who are using them after they had their fun.

    To them it’s basically saying ” hey I fucked a bunch of guys who were more fun that you but now that I had my fun, i want security so I’m using you”

    The men feel like these women are using them for their money, security or whatever. They feel that since they wouldn’t be the woman’s first choice for having fun, they are only using them for financial security.

    Every man who hate promiscuous women has this line of thinking. They feel like if these women date them, the women are only using them for other things and don’t actually desire them for them and that she would rather be with other guys.

    There are also insecurities in terms of performance which is demonstrated by a strange racial undertones to them. Some men basically refuse to date a woman who has slept with black men. While these men are saying it’s because the women are “trashy” but the reality is that they are scared they can’t measure up to a black man and the women would cheat on them behind their backs. It’s a popular category in pornography and since young men learn these from porn that’s why they have these insecurities.

    This is all a theory and speculation from what I have seen and heard from such men

    It’s a mix of entitlement, insecure masculinity, patriarchal and pornographic brainwashing

  9. Daenified Avatar

    I think most men who hate promiscuous women and sleep with promiscuous women are defaulted to make an exception for their promiscuous woman and never acknowledge their unnecessary hatred for other women that still affects that woman. An analogy to highlight the dynamic, have you ever seen a racist and they’re with a different race person? Having mixed race children? “Yeah I have mixed kids, but at least mine…” it’s mental gymnastics for the sake of being nasty.

  10. DiscreetQueries Avatar

    Why would I hate a fun sexy woman?

    Guys who look down on women who like sex are pretty shitty people. No one should have sex w them.

  11. ShadowGryphon Avatar

    You’re not seeing all men, just a vocal minority.

    And I don’t know that hate is the right word, more like a lack of respect. The issue I take with these fools is that they don’t level that same lack of respect towards men who fit the same promiscuous mold.

    COUGHandrewtateCOUGH.

  12. Shenanigansandtoast Avatar

    As a formerly wild woman, I can say probably 60% do. Dude, people will be fucking mean to you just for posting free titties on the internet. This is why we can’t have nice things.

  13. Individual-Regret287 Avatar

    Read about the Madonna-Whore complex

  14. YoungLorne Avatar

    NO I’ve been very close friends with one friend for 16 years, we have had sex in the past but she is very happily married now so we don’s. She’s had 40+ partners and I think that’s brilliant. She is one of the happiest, most emotionally healthy people I know.

    I have another friend who has kissed over 100 people and had sex with all her friends. Again, I admire her, and see her as incredibly healthy and stable.

    Purity culture is a major red flag for me. I do not trust or feel comfortable with most women who lean that way.

  15. No_Positive1855 Avatar

    Men generally favor promiscuous women for hookups because they’re more experienced and, frankly, more likely to do it (and generally require less effort to get them to do it).

  16. hellelfs Avatar

    If men truly had a problem with promiscuous women, prostitution wouldn’t be a thing. Yet it is a thing and will always be. The real issue men have isn’t with promiscuity itself, but marrying/committing to women they perceive that way. The real issue is much deeper and it’s rooted in both biology and psychology of men.

  17. DoubtInternational23 Avatar

    I think that some do, but they tend to be the ones no one wants to be with.

  18. koherenssi Avatar

    I mean, why the hell would i be? Personally i find it cool that women can express themselves as they wish without that kind of bullshit. Of course, sanity and protection is required

  19. Honest-Bridge-7278 Avatar

    As long as her partner count doesn’t go up while I’m with her, and she’s doesn’t have any STIs, her past doesn’t bother me.