It’s not that I’m being fake — it’s more like I naturally adapt to the vibe around me. With some people I’m super talkative and funny, with others I’m quieter or more serious. Sometimes I even surprise myself.
But every now and then I wonder: What’s my “real” personality then? Is it just all of them? Or am I just really good at blending in?
Curious if anyone else experiences this too — and if it ever makes you question who you really are.
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I feel this too. I adapt. We all do in one way or another to survive in the world. But I do question myself. The fact that I question it is enough for me to feel like I’m not insane l
I think everyone is like this. And it’s not people being fake, it’s just different parts of our personalities come out to better fit the situation.
Yea, your real self might be all of them combined or it might be what’s behind the mask, depends how much of yourself you see in these personas
People have different aspects to their personalities, and different people (and situations) bring out different sides and aspects.
Some of my friends frequently engage in rather serious conversation. I enjoy it, and their company, but that doesn’t exactly bring out a jokey, high energy side in me.
Other friends of mine are super extroverted and well, loud :p Lots of fun, but not really conclusive to (a lot) of super thoughtful discours.
So, pretty much what you said. Different situations, different people, and you’re just adapting your behavior. If you’re genuine in your responses in those situations, you’re still you. There’s just multiple facets to ‘you’.
It’s called “code switching” and everyone does it, whether they’re aware of it or not.
That’s normal. Most people do it.
When you’re with people and your personality changes for the worse, they’re not your friends though.
My personality doesn’t shif so much as certain aspects of my personality come out around certain people.
It’s kind of like my taste in music. If I am around people I know who like metal there are certain artists I will pt on because I know they enjoy that music too. If I am around people who like Rap I will put on those types of artists. I like both metal and rap so it’s all good to me. I am not being fake or pretending to like something. I enjoy both genres of music but I am only showing part of my music tastes.
I am always just being me but that doesn’t mean you see all aspects of who I am all the time.
It’s normal to adapt to the energy you’re presented with. It’s not normal to intentionally meet other people’s energy with motivation or to be liked. You cause the other person to think someone you are not.
I totally talk differently between my family and my coworkers. With people who don’t get my humor I talk more generically because I want to be understood, that’s the point of talking while people I fuck with I’ll pull out all my sass and idioms and weird thought-processes; because with strangers they’ll be genuinely confused and actually need me to repeat myself, while my friends will be like “you’re fucking weird but I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU MEAN lol”
I’m a white guy but it makes me sad with POC talk about code-switching like it’s some symptom they should feel bad about; no; that’s EVERYONE and totally normal. Even among white people I talk Corny with strangers, talk Sassy White Fuck with my friends and A’ight I’ll Be There with my family.
I feel like I’m a chameleon, but instead of changing colors, I change personalities.
I see a bunch of different clients each day. Each time a little bit of me bends to their comfort level.
Always interesting when people meet with whom you act a bit differently normally 😅like work and private friends for example
That happens a lot, mostly my surroundings make me shift my behaviour or with whom I’m interacting