My mother is outright controlling. She is threatened by my independence. I can’t even hang out with MY OWN SISTER, because when I get home I’m scolded for “sneaking around”, and she tries to gaslight me into thinking I didn’t like hanging out with her anyway. “You won’t do that again will you? You think it was a silly idea”. I would move out, but I don’t have enough money and I’m scared to leave anyway because she will call me ungrateful and say I’m too useless to live alone and she’ll make me stay anyway. I will hopefully be getting my licence soon, but I won’t be able to go shopping or travelling because that’s sneaking around and a silly thing to do. My older sister can’t even drive anywhere because as soon as mum hears the car door it’s “wheres she going? Whens she coming back.” I’m trapped in the house, any mention of leaving it to do something alone means I’m in danger or something. I can’t go no contact while living here, and I am sick of being treated like a child. I don’t need her permission. If I do ask for it, she says no anyway, which has ended in me sneaking out, and luckily not getting caught. I’m trapped, im being controlled and I’m too scared to fight her for my rights. If i yell at her because i grow a pair and wanna be defensive she ignores me and threatens to take my job away. Then when she apologises she says she never threatened to take my job away. Like bruh be fr. I used to think she was just strict, but this is way different, because it ain’t protecting me it’s making me lose friendships and everything.
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That sounds so awful.
I hope that you and your sister can help each other in learning to have and hold boundaries and to have your boundaries respected by one another until you can get away from your sick sick n mom.