This may come as a shock to some of you but dating as a girl is also rough! Sure I could probably get laid much easier than a guy but I don’t want meaningless sex, I want love and affection! I wish it was as easy as people online say it is for girls but it’s not, however I don’t want to lay around and complain, I want to take action and do something! I get a decent amount of male attention but has yet to lead to something meaningful.
Here is some info about me:
– I’m in my early 20s
– I’m very social and have a lot of friends
– I’m in good shape
– Good grades and ambitious
– Dating apps and e-dating are a no go for me lol
I don’t think there’s anything terribly wrong with me personality wise, so I also wonder if it is maybe my appearance (If anyone willing to give advice on looks please reach out lol). I really want to improve my chances and I think I’d make a lovely girlfriend.
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Talk to guys.
What are your interests and are there clubs in your area for them? Ex: I have a female colleague that is in the same situation as you, and she has relatively rare interests/hobbies. We live un Switzerland, but she is american football obsessed, amd she’d love a partner with similar interests. Unfortantely the chances of randomly running into a guy with these interests is very low, so you have to go to the right places. What do we have here? Turns out our city has an american football club that has games every now and then, maybe worth looking in that direction, worse case scenario, you just watched a game of your favourite sport alone.
How is it that you get a decent amount of male attention and then still question your appearance?
As a man, the non-obvious part of dating is how to acquire attention. From there on it’s trivial to just go on dates with that attention until you find someone you really bond with.
Perhaps as a woman the trivial part is getting attention and then the non-obvious is finding the right one? But that’s literally just going on the dates with said attention.
I don’t understand. You have the ingredients. So cook.
Yeah stay away from dating apps. And yes, if you are in your early 20s like me then gen Z is different. People have too much trauma now they won’t date you even if you are prettiest girl at entire school. Only men who want sex will chase you. The rest is shy and has traumas either from social media gender toxicity or their first hand life experience. I believe the best time to just live a happy life was 90s before internet. Post 2012 it only keeps getting worse. I love internet but there’s something wrong about all this I can’t yet figure out what exactly. You could have the most beautiful girl at school and she will be shy and if you ask her out she will think you are too soft that you fell for her. It’s like 90% of gen zen find it silly if you develop feelings, they just want sex but they don’t even know how to have that so they are left isolated rejecting everyone. I always thought from the movies that university is going to be all about relationships and socializing making friends for life and instead, everyone is shy, nobody is dating no one, 4/5 of students don’t even attend school you see them once per month at university when they need something from you. It’s really boring life right now. And when you look at women in that age frame they look like kids stuck at 15. Their bodies look still undeveloped like little girls so even as a guy you feel like you are dating a kid not an adult person so you refuse to as well. Kind of difficult time and place to date anyone really.
Bruh