met a man (I say man bc I suspect he is 25-35+ yrs, lied and said he’s same age as me (20F) who I met off league of legends and we connected thru discord. stalked me for about a yr before I found out. At the beginning we played a lot & he was friendly. He wasn’t too good at the game so after about 2 weeks of duoing and no results I told him I didn’t want to play with him anymore but that we could still chat as friends. So we chatted almost every day/week for about a month (these were never intimate chats they were always casual about life, gaming, school, job and pets) One day he was at a plushy store and he sends me a few photos of some of my fav characters. He asks if I wanted a few plushies he would buy and send me some. I said NO for obvious reasons. but I thanked him thinking he was just being nice bc my bday just passed. He then asks if I was single and I said NO, I have a bf. I went on a rant abt how I met my BF n how I loved him very much. from then he seemed to type less friendly to me until we stopped chatting in general and he just sat in my contacts.
I forgot abt this person for at least a yr bc i play with diff random ppl. One day i change my discord photo to a super attractive photo of myself (I was grahh✨💅🦵mood, but usually my pfp is just artwork) and he msgs me again out of the blue. He said nice pfp and asked about my style and what I was wearing in the photo (probably to creepily confirm it was me) He then suggests I cosplay and meet up to hang at a convention. I do like cosplay and I do like cons but I was not going to meet or tell this to a stranger online. He then begins to beg that I cosplay his fav character. I said no. Then he asks if I owned onesies. I said I had some. he then told me to wear it and take some pics to send him. At this point I was grossed out. I said no pics at all. After a few weeks of chat and suggesting I send him onesie pics every day (its the middle of hot summer btw), he then offeres to pay me for seminudes. I said gross and called him a weirdo. this is the word that triggered him. N he lost it. he told me I was the weirdo, that he saw all my pfps, knew how I look, that I was a slut with the ppl I was playing with & that I should be careful. He even said I only got carried by desperate eboys (the worse insult!), and that he had my address (he doesn’t I never gave it unless he some how retrieved my VPN). It was gross knowing a forgotton contact had stalked me for such a long time. I told him that he was just mad I rejected him bc hes weird. From this point he begins to body shame me saying I was “flat” and had a “Mannequin” body. I thanked him bc a Mannequin body is very attractive and ideal. After this he made it his duty to harass me with lots of woman hating comments every time I was online (& this guy was ALWAYS ONLINE 247🤣) I couldn’t get a break. I was amused seeing his insults… I came to find enjoyment in calling him names back. Some reason I liked knowing I’d always have a msg from someone who hated me with all their guts for rejecting them…. it made me feel wanted/desired but also powerful like a goddess. Bc I am denying him what he thinks he’s entitled to, ME. On the negative side, it’s made me realize being attractive even if just online comes with consequences. It attracts attention just existing and not necessarily always good ones.
Months later…. I learned this person has done this to many women gamers who he decides to fixate on.. (he uses same convo starters, asking for onesies and cosplay pics, then their address to send plushies to, reacts same way to their rejection) Anyways he blocked me soon after I was trying to warn a girl ahead of time about how he was while he was still showing his fake friendly side. It made me feel giddy she left him right after. Ik he gets rejected a lot but I wonder why he continues doing this repetitive method- it must work sometimes. Which makes me feel bad for the girls who do end up sending him their addresses and photos. with these things he WOULD actually blackmail them fs💀 as soon as they denied him anything.
I have to vent that I felt wonderful knowing all my assumptions abt him were right. right before he blocked me, I told him how badly he wanted an egirl but we re repulsed by him bc he’s a women hating weirdo. now Ik my exact words were truth lol.& Ik why was he so triggered by the word” weirdo”… both girls I talked to referred to him as such. REFRESHING. like when u finally smack ded a mosquito or bug that bit u. “Wp. I win.”
Not looking for advice. this person is alrdy banned on multiple servers and got in trouble many times for what he does lol. I just wanted to confess that I played this person’s sick game instead of blocking them. For many months it became addicting looking forward to type back to his rage and it made me feel like a super hero for putting him in his place. I know I am not in the wrong but it also makes me feel a bit evil 🙈