Hey, for context, I am a male, 23, never had a girlfriend, never been on a date, and my girl interaction skills are quite bad.
I have matched a little bit over a week ago with a girl, she is 22, on Tinder, which doesn’t happen to me that often, she did replied to me constantly, we made good conversation, but I think I have rushed a little bit, and asked her to early for a date, because since I first bought up this idea, she became unresponsive and basically started leaving me on seen. When I first asked about this, she left me for a little while on seen, but ended up saying that she would like to, we did some small talk in between the lines, I even bought up the fact that if she is uncomfortable to go out yet is completely fine, because we were basically internet strangers, but she said she would really want to go on a date with me.
What I feel very odd, is that my last message was almost three days ago, asking her which day would work for her, and she completely left me on seen since then, I just feel confused and don’t know what to do, because her words were positive about this idea, but her actions actually got me thinking something completely different.
My big problem now is that I have no idea what should I do, or what should I say. How should I do to not look like a creep, or weirdo trying to force her going on a date, what should I text her. I was thinking just to say if she is not yet comfortable I am completely understandable and we can take it slow for a while. Maybe bring in some memes, and just ask her how she’s been.
But I would really need some advice from somebody that have more experience, because for the last few days my anxiety have been on a all time high, and I am sure that if I will send her a message I will make things worse.
TL;DR, she is gosting me because I have rushed in asking her on a date after just a week of talking, what should I do?
Comments
Lots of ghosting happens with the apps. You have to not overthink it. It’s just a flakey thing ngl it sucks. She might reply in a few days, or not at all. Do what feels right — if you wanna follow up, go for it. But it is NOT personal if she doesn’t go on the date. Some girls just get cold feet.
It’s a really hard lesson to learn, and it can really hurt sometimes, but at the end of the day, if a girl wants to go out with you, she will. Don’t worry about jumping the gun or overthinking the timeline to texting — just be yourself. In this case, I think she’s probably gone. But I wouldn’t chase, because if she wants to go out, she’ll respond. If she doesn’t, well that’s your answer.
She could be very shy too. Or she could be waffling. She could be just doing this for fun.
Either way you’ve said everything you needed to say. There’s no other way to clarify your point. So I’d give it a few days and if she doesn’t respond you have to unmatch.
You deserve to meet someone who can at least tell you clearly what they’re comfortable doing and then expect that they will, in fact, do that thing.