Hey there I’m a 29f dating a 30m i was hoping that there is someone who can help me navigate the best way to get over past relationships traumas so that I can flourish in this current relationship.
Currently I have been dating my partner for a few months now after a couple of years getting to know each other as friends. I initially did not want a relationship as my last 2 relationships ended badly. 1 due to infidelity on his part the second was emotionally and financially abusive after talking me into quitting my job.
Both of these were semi rushed relationships with persistent perusing on their part.
Anyway my struggles come with trusting that my current partner didn’t play the long game just to hurt me even though his actions do not suggest he will do that.
I just don’t know how to get out of my own head. I have tried therapy but the tips i learned that i thought healed me emotionally seemed to have just been a bandaid. I don’t want to ruin this relationship because I truly have strong feelings for my current partner. Any advice would be great. Thank you all in advance.
TL:DR I don’t want my past relationship trauma to ruin my current relationship. How do I navigate through this?
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Your self help techniques can only take you so far. To have trust in your partner you will both need to build it together.
How do you show trust?
What can you both do to build trust together?
What will break your trust?
How important is trusting the other person to you?
When is the right time to bring up issues so trust isn’t broken?
All it will take is a serious talk and some effort on both parts. Discuss your issues and his, how you would like to build your trust with one another and how you can show it to eachother in a way that you both feel satisfied and secure.