Saw mine when during my college years when I was pushing carts outside my local Walmart to make a living. Apparently he hasn’t lost any of the weight he had in high school or even changed from the way he was glaring at me
Saw mine when during my college years when I was pushing carts outside my local Walmart to make a living. Apparently he hasn’t lost any of the weight he had in high school or even changed from the way he was glaring at me
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Closest I’ve got….
I was sitting with an old friend and somehow Bully’s name came up. I was like, “Wonder what ever happened to him? Hopefully he’s rotting in a prison somewhere.” To which my friend responded, “He died of liver cancer two months ago.” I laughed, got up out of my chair and did a little jig.
To this my friend said something like, “You know, he did grow out of that childhood crap.” I said something like, “Well, he never apologized to me, so fuck him. I hope he’s rotting in Hell.”
That was pretty much the end of that particular conversation but a couple years later my friend was talking about Bully in less than glowing terms. I was like, “Wait. Two years ago you said he grew out of all that.” My friend just shrugs and says, “I was raised to not speak ill of the dead, but it’s been long enough. He was an asshole.” And I laughed at Bully’s death for a second time.
I wouldn’t recognize anyone from high school if I ran them over
I knew a guy who was a major dick all middle and high school. I confronted him once saying that “nobody likes you, even your own friends think you’re annoying” and he left me alone for the most part after that, but was still an asshole.
Fast forward a few years after high school and I see him at a celebration of life for a friend who died tragically. He came up to me and asked me what I’ve been up to and it was nice to see me after a few years. Seemed to really have grown up and matured and it was not the interaction I was expecting, but I was happy it happened
I met mine again like 15 years after hs, at a reunion and I got him to smoke a joint with me. He never smoked before either. He was super chill and apologetic during the shesh. We’re friends now.
I see practically all of mine often, living in a small rural area between two small towns. Most grew out of it and a few have become friends or at least friendly acquaintances over the years. One or two still have the same bad attitude but have found new targets now that we’re adults. One of the rougher guys did a complete 180 after a few years in jail and having kids of his own, he’s went out of his way to make amends and God help anybody that exhibits that same behavior around him. He nearly hospitalized his ex son in law when he got abusive toward his daughter.
Yes. They told me they wanted to be my friend but they didn’t know how to make friends in grade school so they just bullied me. I don’t really forgive them for the shit they did but it was an interesting perspective.
I always fought back against all my bullies. So the hatchet is buried with all of them.
I was an angry child.
Being a minority in a small Midwest town, I some how only had one bully. And he only ever said one thing to me. Being that I was a jock and was a great student was somewhat popular and he was a loser with shit grades, I felt bad about how I responded. But I basically just went on like a 5 minute non stop rant about how I had options in colleges and finding a great career after high school and how he was just some loser outcast who never saw any success in school or sports because he never got any playing time. Went on and on about how after high school the only interaction I’ll get with him will be when I order at McDonald’s. I basically took the equivalent of a bully punching me and me retaliating with even more violence but with a verbal beating. I dressed him down in front of our peers and no one stepped in to stop me. Because he did start it. And because until that point, I had a good reputation with everyone about being just a nice chill dude who literally just didn’t have to make any terrible mistakes in life and I’d have a good life because I had the nice home life and successful parents and decent intelligence. So everyone just watched me verbally pummel this kid into the ground. To his credit, he took it and didn’t say anything and avoided me the rest of high school.
So if I ever saw my high school bully, I’d apologize for escalating things instead of just walking away. I hope he’s doing well. And I’m still ashamed of how I responded. He didn’t need that. He was just jealous of someone.
For context: I had just hit a personal record pole vaulting in practice and shouted in celebration. He said something about be being a monkey in a derogatory way. Talk about going from a high to a low so fast. So I took it out on him. Not thinking that he was likely frustrated that I was excelling in all the sports I went out for and he couldn’t even get off the bench. I ended up setting our school’s pole vault record which still stands 15 years later! And I did end up having a successful life. But I still think about that day sometimes.
Saw him six or seven years after high school at the grocery. Someone had beaten him within an inch of his life with a crowbar. Huge scar across his skull and face. Couldn’t have happened to a nicer guy.
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Mine is dead.
I have met two of them. I was smaller than all the other boys, and I was effeminate. I had to learn to be scrappy to avoid getting my butt harassed all the time, if people think you are crazy enough they wont usually mess with you. There were still a few long term repeat bullies though.
The first actually approached me in public to ask if I was well, me. When I said yes, he said he used to pick on me and that he was just not in a good way at the time. He seemed oddly timid, maybe even scared. Maybe he got checked by someone, or he found religion, or just had remorse and things weighing on him all the years since highschool. I never saw him again, it was just a random meeting.
The second inspected my house for the termite bond a few years ago. He had no Idea who I was since I present differently than I used to. He was a nice professional dude…still had the one ear-ring and frosted tips though !
He tried me and it didn’t go well for him.
I got really, really drunk while illegally attending a wedding. It did not go well. No regrets and that night went down in infamy. It did lead to me and my cousin having a talk afterwards and we fixed things between us so it wasn’t the worst thing that ever happened.
BTW, it was my cousins wedding and she just thinks it’s funny. I didn’t start any fights or anything and didn’t ruin the night for anyone. My mom is the only one who rings it up as family it was some horrible thing because she was embarrassed. That said I kept telling her it was illegal for me to go to my cousins wedding and a bad idea in general and she didn’t listen and pushed me to go. So kind of her fault.
Yeah. He was working at a burger king and I had an awesome union job. He got what he deserved.
Middle school bully was pretty angry messed up kid, always trying to pick fights, could barely read.
I ran into him delivering water jugs to my hangar where I was an Air Force Captain.
When he saw me he was super nice. Seemed like a genuinely nice guy and actually happy I was doing well enough.
He seemed much more at peace, hopefully he really is.
Two sort of. Once I had a random encounter where my dad and I were eating at a chinese place for lunch and the bully and who I assumed to be his father were eating. Bully didn’t recognize or see me, but I watched and his father was an absolute asshole to him. I kinda felt sorry for him.
Second wasn’t in person but the bully sent me a FB friend request like 10-15 years later. I replied “NOPE ASSHOLE” and blocked him and laughed my ass off 🙂
Our family moved around a lot, so I don’t expect this will ever be a thing for me.
Hope they grew up and realized that high school is not a model for going though life.
Yeah, and we are now good friends. It turned out that a lot of his behaviour came from an abusive and dysfunctional home, and once he gained autonomy he sought help and turned his life around.
Mine actually applied to work for me at my business about five years ago, he had no idea who I was. Seriously thought about employing him just to make his life miserable. In the end I just turned him down and said he seemed unlikely to have the correct temperament for the work place.
I generally got along with most everyone in my (very large) high school, but there was always a small group of folks who bullied me. The people who were part of that group are now either dead, fat, or look generally miserable in their lives characterized by little to no achievements. I don’t have the time or energy to relish in these facts, but sometimes I get a weird feeling of comedic relief when I remember the shit they put me through.
You know it was kinda funny, I got a call from my friend that he was at a restaurant and needed backup. This was my boy and I was a dude, so I came through.
Lo and behold it was this fucking cock sucker who made my life shit from 3-4th grade. Who when I got older (and bigger) I fought multiple times during football practice and gym when he was a senior and I was a sophomore.
I fucking hated this redneck piece of shit. He wasn’t even from the city I was living in, he was still living in the small town I grew up in, and was married to a girl who I was friends with since grade school.
Well, dipshit was on a double date with his cocksucker of a best friend and two girls too young to drink legally at this chain restaurant and decided to fuck with my boy and his wife (and his wife was the catalyst as she is the definition of a hot mess).
Me showing up pretty much immediately diffused the situation, once they recognized me they got out of there as fast as they could. They were there because no one was supposed to recognize their married asses in my city….and I told everyone I could from home, and it very much did get back to his wife as she still was friends with my friends. They divorced a couple years later, don’t know for sure if I helped cause that, but I like to think I did.
Fuck you Nick, I’m glad Callie ditched your small cocked (yes she was very public about the baby dick), bald, redneck, loser ass….
I became friends with mine before we left high school. He actually drove me to school for a while.
It was a complicated relationship.
I have had two instances with people from high school that stand out.
There was a kid who was a grade above me, but was in all my classes because he was a bit slow. Him and I were having a verbal spat in class one day, and nearly got into a fight in the hall after class. During lunch I was pulled into the principals office to talk about it because some students reported it. Apparently he had called some of his badass friends from another school to join him in kicking my ass. They were roaming the halls looking for me; I was completely unaware of this until the end of the day when some of my friends told me about it. Nothing ever came from that at the time.
Fast forward about 6 years and I’m at a house party that one of my coworkers invited me to. The guy (whom I no longer had an issue with) shows up. It turned out the boyfriend of my coworker whose party it was, was one of the guys looking to beat me up. We all had a good laugh about it.
The other isn’t as cool however-
I wasn’t really bullied much and considered myself a bit of a class clown. I was always making jokes; sometimes at others peoples expense not really understanding the potential harm it could have. I was just trying to make people laugh and fit in.
I ran into a girl I went to school with while walking to my job downtown and stopped to say hi when I recognized her on the street. She immediately told me of a very specific situation where I made a joke about her, and how my words stuck with her for years. I didn’t even remember saying those things, and definitely didn’t consider the harm they could cause. I was taken back and pretty ashamed of myself, and apologized. Then we went our separate ways.
I was working the door at a mud wrestling event my friends were throwing at a bar and I charged him $100 for 2 people. It was a $5 event.
He didn’t recognize me and was like “why? I thought it was cheap.”
“”What, are you broke or something?”
His date just looked at him and he gave me his card.
Fuck that guy.
I had the weirdest experience with a guy who was more of a cheerleader to the harder core bully.
We both moved cities for uni after a few years off studying. He was friends with a girl I was seeing. He approached me at a bar when I was on a date with her and shook my hand and said “I might have been a dickhead in high school, but I’m not now, okay?” Blew me away.
Years later I moved to a different city and state, I see an positive article on him in the paper about his job.
I’m working at a gym. One day he’s there, chatting to my boss. Boss goes to introduce us, turns out he’d had my job as a trainer before he left and I arrived. Still seems guilt ridden. It’s probably 5 years since the handshake.
Years after that, we ran into each other at a jiu jitsu comp at my gym. He’s still racked with so much guilt about being a mean kid that 25 years later he’s apologising to me.
We have so much in common that we actually could have ended up friends nowadays, if he hadn’t centred himself with the apologies and the extended guilt trip. We were cool from that first handshake in 1998, my man!
He had shitty face and neck tattoos and was living on the streets shooting dope.
Didn’t feel good to see, but it didn’t feel bad to see either.
It wasn’t a childhood bully but I ran into an old manager I had when I had my first job. She was not a nice person. When we met again I was at a end-of-year work function and she was behind the bar. I remembered her but she took a while to recognize me (there was a lot going on for her). I hadn’t said anything but when she acknowledged me, I responded. There was no massive feeling of comeuppance or anything like that. I honestly hadn’t thought of her much in the previous half-dozen years and she was only one of a bunch of bad bosses at that job.
I don’t see my dad that often
I was picked in for being gay before I even really knew what that meant and was always in detention for having to fight to defend myself.
I’ve had not one, not two, but three of my high school bullies try and pull some weird, sexual shit after high school. So bizarre and sad.
I’ve run into people who were shitty during high school, and they’re all mature adults who are very polite and friendly. Even during college I’d run into people occasionally and they’d grown up a lot.
2 weeks ago, yes. Bully and thief from 25 years ago. It went well. I forgave him and he seems like a changed man. I hold no grudges. No point in doing so.
I met him at a convenience store, I was 5c short buying milk, he gave me 5c, it was surreal. He had been verbally abusive to me for 5 years in school.
I remember standing up to my middle school bully in 2004 by spitting on his face. Never bothered me again after that.
I saw him again in 2014 and we exchanged curt nods. That was the last time I saw him in person.
I checked his Ig a couple of years back. Didn’t follow him. Just wanted to know what he was up to. Saw he was now a nurse in the UK.
Turns out he was a closeted metrosexual and hated typical guy interests like cars, bbq, and beer.
Pretty well. He was cocky as hell growing up because he was raised in the nicest neighborhood in the city. He was tall, smart, and handsome so of course he was getting all of the babes. He still is all of the above and is now making his own fat stacks. To be frank, he’s probably cockier now than before, but he did apologize to me for his past behavior. Have known him for over 20 years and the dude was simply born a winner.
Yes. He apologised to me.
I moved away after A levels, but there was one kid who I would quite happily pass by if he was trapped in a burning car. Utter cunt.
I was bullied terribly but there was some. Mostly the popular kids feeling they are better than everyone else. Well one just got arrested as a pedo. A few are in a weird triangle of marrying each others ex-wives. Of course all from same school friend group.
Got curious about this a few months ago and looked him up. Guy’s career path was college football player to selling cars and ended up as a car lot finance manager. Then he had a widow maker about 5 years ago and his grieving widow wasted no time getting back out into the dating world. He wasn’t even gone a year before she was posting pics with her new boyfriends.