I am a women who is 20, i’ve never had a boyfriend and I don’t want to. I’m not ace or anything, I just don’t feel like it. But whenever a man asks me out and I say “No, I’m not interested in dating” I get a whole hour lecture about how I should date, even if it’s not them just any man. Even my uncles at any family event ask me, “Do you have a boyfriend yet?” When I say no for the millionth time they ask me why and I get another lecture that I should be dating. I even had a family male friend get mad at me and lecture me that I should date men even if it’s just for “fun” and going out. We had a little argument about it because I do not want a boyfriend or to date. Why is this everyone’s main focus? I graduated from high school early, I work full time, i’m in college, I have my own car and pay my bills. Enjoy my own hobbies like fitness, art, hiking or going to the lake with my dogs. Is that not enough? It’s getting on my nerves and i’m not sure how to make everyone stop and let me live my life. I’m happy and fulfilled in my life, do they think that’s not possible? Have any other women had this happen?
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Society needs women to make babies, normally that starts with dating. Women who don’t want to date/have babies are shunned so other women don’t join the club.
Of course it’s not enough for them that you’re happily living your life solo. Sorry for the crass wording, but deep down, they see you as nothing but a collection of holes. When those holes aren’t being filled regularly by a man, you’re a waste of oxygen in their eyes, especially in the eyes of pathetic losers of men who can’t keep a girlfriend themselves and are frustrated to the moon and back.
It’s a common thing. Distance yourself from the ones who insist you have to date and give you lectures, and surround yourself with people who just accept you as you are and don’t push it.
They’re upset that you won’t consider them as an option. Just pure entitlement.