Rethinking my relationship after 3 months of long distance—am I being too paranoid or is this a red flag?

Hello Reddit. I (24F) am starting to rethink my relationship with my boyfriend (26M). We’ve been together for over 2 years and recently started long distance about 3 months ago. We’re in different countries right now—I’m staying with my family until we’re financially stable enough to get married.

When we were in the same city, he was literally the best boyfriend. He always went the extra mile to make sure I was comfortable, helped me and others without complaining, and was just really reliable. He’s not the romantic type, but he always showed care through actions—doing things for me even when I could’ve done them myself.

The only thing that bothered me back then was how closed-off he is. For example, if I asked about his exes, he would lie or joke around, never giving a straight answer.

Now that we’re in a long-distance relationship, I’ve noticed something that makes me uncomfortable—he’s been lying a lot about his whereabouts. I have my Google account on his phone so I can track where he is (yes, he knows), and a few times I caught him lying about where he was. Like one time, he said he was at one place, but I saw on the tracker he was somewhere else. I kept pressing him and he finally admitted it—but insisted he was alone.

Another time, he said he was at home sleeping, but later admitted he was at a restaurant with a friend. He told me he doesn’t always tell me where he actually is because he’s afraid I’ll accuse him of cheating.

To be honest, I have accused him of cheating before, because these lies really bother me. One time when I asked him to send proof of where he was, he just sent a photo of his shoes—not even the surroundings or who’s his with.

Something else that’s been nagging at me (and maybe I’m overthinking) is that he had a male friend sleep over in his bed. He told me it was because the friend’s house was far from work and they had just finished overtime. He even sent me a photo after I asked. I don’t want to jump to conclusions, but I found it… odd. It’s not that I think a guy can’t have a male friend sleep over, but with everything else, it just adds to my doubts.

When we argue, especially now that we’re long distance, he always goes silent. I have to be the one to reach out first, even when the issue was clearly caused by him. He can go days without contacting me, and this pattern happens a lot. It makes me feel like I’m the only one trying to fix things.

At the same time, I’m trying to be realistic. He’s shown so many reliable, “husband material” traits. He’s not perfect, but I feel like a hell lot of guys out there might be worse. Part of me wonders if I should just accept this and stay, or if I’m ignoring red flags.

So… am I overthinking? Or are these actually signs that he’s not a trustworthy partner?

TL;DR:
My boyfriend (26M) and I (24F) have been in a long-distance relationship for 3 months after being together for over 2 years. He used to be a great partner, but now he lies about where he is, avoids conflict resolution, and goes silent during fights unless I reach out first. I’m conflicted because he shows some great traits, but also a lot of red flags. Not sure if I should stay or move on.