I (35M) recently struck up a friendship with a woman (F36) in a work training program over the last few months. We talk all the time, have texted a bit and generally have the most hilarious and enjoyable conversations. She has a bf but during one of our talks we were discussing the different ways men and women receive compliments etc and she was saying how she never really gets complimented and always felt left out of the compliments growing up. I really like this woman, and obviously probably have a crush on her but I always keep it totally platonic and respect her relationship. I’d really like to compliment her in a meaningful way, honestly just tell her how wonderful and hilarious I think she is but don’t want to make her feel weird or awkward etc. Basically asking – should I just skip the compliment? Would it make you uncomfortable to be told something like that by someone who isn’t your partner? Am I overthinking this? Should I just keep my mouth shut? Any and all advice welcomed.
TLDR: I have a new friend who has a bf but is starved for compliments – wondering if complimenting her would make her feel awkward etc or make it seems like I was making a move?
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> obviously probably have a crush on her
Don’t do this, and consider whether this friendship is healthy for you in the long run. You don’t sound like you’re really able to maintain good boundaries.
Yes skip the compliment, she is also someones woman – you are talking to someones woman all the time, she is emotionally investing in you, and thats morally wrong. Dont be the reason to you know what ! Reverse the roles and put yourself in his position.